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  2. Amando

    I HATE MYSELF!

    Hi Jason I'm so sorry that you feel like you do but your feelings are pretty normal after finding out you have HSV. Things will get better, just give it time. You have come to the right place, where you can get help, advice & support from some truly amazing people. Be strong, keep your chin up, big hugs bro!
  3. Wow! well done, that's brilliant Sounds like you have a great guy there, good luck going forward!
  4. Sadie1994

    HSV 2 back to back outbreaks

    How long have you had Herpes for? And do you take medication?
  5. @Dandelion333 Hey I’m GHSV1 positive and I use Nair. That’s right, Nair! I use the sensitive formulation on my bikini line. (Sometimes I wear panties during the process) to prevent it getting too...well too close, if you know what I mean. Honestly, I haven’t had any issues. There is no pulling associated, so maybe that helps. I am also on Valtrex 1 gram and Lysine 1 gram daily. I was diagnosed in September this year. I plan to take antivirals for the first 6 months or so and then back off slowly to see if I really need them.
  6. Lvsandy

    HSV 2 back to back outbreaks

    no advice but to take the medication. i was outbreak free until I started seeing someone now its back to back. I am thinking its the stress of talking to this person and thinking of just ending it and see if it helps. best of luck to you
  7. freedomjourney

    H Buddies, unite!

    Hey, I’m brand new to this site. Just found out last week about the HSV2 diagnosis. Needless to say, it’s been a shitty few days. I live in Buffalo, NY. Would really appreciate an h buddy. Please feel free to reach out!
  8. MarsAttack

    Permanent changes on glans?

    Hello, I was diagnosed HSV2 positive but with very low values (about 0.9 and 1.1). Didn't have a painful first outbreak but with very noticeable little dots on glans. now (almost a year from infection) what I have are few tinglings and itch (like two times a week) and some burn feeling when urinating. But the part that is driving me mad is that I feel that my glans is always "bumpy" somehow, tiny bumps sometimes more visible some other less... and I don't know and in which way is related to my H condition... (is sort of mild ob? is balanitis triggered from h?) Is the glans texture a bit different a rare but possible H effect? Do I have something different from H? (warts maybe?) Thanks for your time
  9. Very brave of you. Congrats and best of luck.
  10. RobotWar

    Herpes and vaginal balance

    I have no clue, but I'm going to follow the thread. Thanks for asking this question.
  11. RobotWar

    I HATE MYSELF!

    Hi Jason. You are allowed to be pissed, and hurt, and angry. But dude, don't give up. Please. There is a psychologist named Elizabeth Kubler Ross and she has a theory about grief - stick with me for a minute. When we find out about our diagnosis, it seems like a horrible thing, and that we are losing 'something', our health, freedom, sex-lives, etc. You need to go through the process of grieving when you lose something. Basically the smart psychology chick says; there are 5 stages of grief and loss; denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. The sh*tty part is that it's not linear - you don't spend 2 weeks in denial, then move to 2 weeks in anger... You bounce around like a stupid pinball and it takes as long as it takes. And it's different for everyone. https://www.psycom.net/depression.central.grief.html At any rate, you need to go through these things and it will suck. But you'll be stronger. I'm super proud of you for reaching out. It was very brave. Again - dude, don't give up.
  12. I understand where you are coming from. I commend you for being so honest and disclosing in the first place and he seems very cool and obviously wants to be with you. I would see how you feel when the weekend gets closer. The more you stress and freak out, the more you'll stress and freak out. You can always say you aren't feeling well and don't add details. You don't need to specifically blame your period. But if the weekend comes and you don't feel well enough to go out then just stay home and say you don't feel well - again no details about why. It's not lying, it's not omitting. You need to take care of your mental and physical health and if you're stressed, it won't help. Hope this helps. Let me know how it goes.
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  14. I had my first outbreak 4 months ago and since then I have been having back to back outbreaks! My Outbreak would heal and then I would be fine for 2 days before I would start getting symptoms of on coming outbreak then I’m back to square one. It’s been 4 months and things are not getting better, I’m not able to have sex with my partner for the last 4 months. My first outbreak started just before I got into a new relationship! I’m currently taking supplement to boost my immune system! I don’t want to take antiviral, I wanted my body to come to grips with virus. However, it’s been 4 months and I’m losing hope! I would appreciate any advice.
  15. Lstgryl

    Can't stop crying....(New HSV2)

    I’m in the same boat. Actually, I’m waiting on swab results. But I know I don’t want to live with this. I’m pretty sure it is hsv 2. This is the second occurrence, but my first time getting to the doc in time to swab. People say you can date but whenever the subject of Herpes comes up around people I know, they all talk about how nasty and disgusting the person is. I can’t possibly disclose this to people I know and risk it getting spread around. So at the age of 30 I have to face living alone and dying alone with no husband or kids. Right now, everything I have worked for is ruined. I haven’t even been promiscuous which is the part that sucks
  16. Two weeks ago today I had my first outbreak and tomorrow is two weeks from my diagnosis. I knew right away what it was even though I really didn't know anything about herpes before all of this. I had been dating someone for about a month and I thought we were heading towards a relationship. Interestingly enough, he ended things with me the same day that I found out my diagnosis. The infection is still not showing up in my blood so I'm pretty sure he is the one that gave it to me. *Sigh* Anyways, I started acyclovir right away but my initial outbreak was horrible. I couldn't go to work, or walk, or breathe without it hurting but by last Sunday (a week ago yesterday), things were really on the up and up. I had been having issues when I would try to pee. It was taking longer than usual to get started. Well by a week ago Monday I had lost the ability to pee. I ended up in urgent care and surrounded by people who had no idea you could get urinary retention from herpes. I was sent home with a catheter. That was honestly very traumatic for me (the catheter) so I was relieved to have it taken out by Wednesday. Still couldn't go on my own and only one doctor in my obgyn office had treated this....back in the EIGHTIES. I have been able to contort my body to pee so I don't have to go back for another catheter but it's been a week and I still can't go on my own. I am starting to feel like I'm going back to the old me, but this urinary retention is scaring me. Like I'm going to be this way forever since it's showing no sign of giving up. I'm still taking acyclovir as suppress therapy and I've also been taking all kinds of supplements to boost my immune/nervous system. Does anyone have any experience with this? Am I going to be unable to pee for the rest of my life? The only information I've been able to get is online and even then, there isn't a whole lot. Thanks so much xoxo
  17. I have noticed that even when I’m not having any symptoms of H, I still can’t get ad wet down there as I used to, like something about the ph or whatnot of my vaginal fluids is off. It’s REALLY saddening because sex was much more pleasurable that way, not to mention that everyone I ever dated was very turned on by how responsive I was... Any idea what’s going on and what to do?
  18. My partner got infected when having unprotected sex. He never had any sores or any other wound behind his balls but now he said he had an outbreak and felt sores even there. How is it possible?
  19. Elle27

    Anyone have HSV2 on mouth?

    I have HSV 2 inside of my mouth and throat from oral sex with my boyfriend- he didn’t know he had herpes and did not have symptoms. It is possible. It’s possible to get it and to never have oral symptoms. It just depends on the persons immune system etc
  20. Elle27

    I HATE MYSELF!

    Hi Jason, I have HSV 2 orally and genitally. I was diagnosed on 9/11/2018. I was feeling the same feelings when I was diagnosed and just 3 months later I am coping with the diagnosis much better. You will get through this! We are here for you and this is a great place to look to for support.
  21. The only way to be sure is go to the doctor and ask for it to be swabbed and tested. It’s the most accurate test when there is an actual sore to test. Your doc May also say there’s nothing to worry about! We’re not diagnosis experts here haha. Better safe than sorry.
  22. Hi! Im a 25 year old girl who has had HSV2 for 5 years now. I ALWAYS disclose to my sex partners before we sleep together and ALWAYS use condoms. I try to be confident and state the facts and (truthfully) say it rarely affects me and I only have a couple outbreaks a year and would never sleep with someone if I felt it would be risky. Disclosures have all been positive for me (I’ve disclosed to at least 10 guys and my family / friends) but haven’t wound up having an outbreak while in a relationship/regularly sleeping with someone. Ive been single the past few years and I just met a new guy who I reallyyy like and could actually see a potential future with... we had a great first couple dates then I disclosed. He was kind and supportive and we slept together on two occasions. He thanked me after for being honest and said he trusts me. Cue now— I woke up today (4 days after we last slept together) feeling a little tingly and an out break started. It’s small and manageable just one sore BUT this is the first time I have had an actual outbreak while dating someone... He knows I have herpes but I’m petrified to tell him this early on that I’m having an actual outbreak. We’re planning on hanging out this week and I know it won’t be 100% safe for me to have sex yet. I have been non stop debating lying and saying I’m on my period or just not going home with him but that doesn’t feel right. I don’t want to start things off by lying (TMI but I do like period sex and I do want to go home and chill/watch tv with him) but I’m scared that if I say hey I’m having an outbreak it’ll make it more real to him and scare him off... Any advice on how to be honest after the disclosure goes well? Thanks guys I really appreciate it! Would you be honest and say I’m having an outbreak and can’t have sex right now but want to hangout OR just avoid sex by only seeing him in public / blaming your period? Any advice would greatly help!
  23. alllgood

    Can't stop crying....(New HSV2)

    does this just ttreat symptoms? or can it potentially be a cure? I just read that people can seroconvert, or the virus wont show up in their bloodstream anymore.
  24. You have probably seen me posted for the past couple months leading up to this but after much talk in therapy, with adrial and my two siblings... i was able to successfully disclose (H and low risk hpv together) face to face to a partner I have been seeing (and really wanting to sleep with!). he was so supportive, held my hand and said, "i'm sure it was really hard for you to tell me that, thank you". we decided we will be making an appoinment to go speak with a doctor together so he can feel more comfortable about best practices to work around this. we spent the rest of the night snuggling and he wants to take me to meet his family next weekend. when i got home, he sent me this text: "i know it was really hard for you to tell me about that today but i really appreciate that you did. i just want you to know that you can talk to me about anything and i dont want you to ever feel too embarassed or insecure about anything. i will do the same with you. and of course anything we talk about will always stay between me and you" I AM ON CLOUD 9 GUYS. I spent all of m 20's hiding from love.... regardless of how it turns out with this guy (which i am hopeful and optimistic), i have faced that scary demon and overcome my fear or the unknown. Thank you to all of you for that, i wouldnt have been able to do it alone. Ill give you an update on how the sex is. LMAO
  25. Victory_in_Defeat

    I HATE MYSELF!

    Jason, first off as I tell everybody on this forum, I am truly sorry you have found yourself here. I know the feelings you are experiencing all too well. With that said, I'm glad you are here, all of us here have experienced the same emotions you now battle with. Reading posts on this forum and interacting with people who have similar experiences has certainly helped me to cope. For weeks I replayed the day of my exposure in my head. I wanted more than anything to change the events of that day. But alas, I can't change whats already done. The whole ordeal definitely took me to a dark place. Took me a while to be able to accept my new situation. Hard thing for me to admit, but I definitely cried more in a two month time period than I had in my entire life. I think everyone has their own ways to cope, but there are healthy ways to do so. I am on this site nearly everyday, please feel free to message me any time if you would like to talk. Also please talk to someone, anyone, if you get to a point in which you may hurt yourself. Suicide is certainly not the answer. I really do wish you all the best.
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  27. Hi! This is the 2nd time I'm afraid I might herpes. Over a year ago I had a scare but after 3 negative blood tests I was relieved I didn't have anything. However, now I have another odd symptom. I had unprotected anal sex 2 weeks ago and 5 days ago I noticed a pain when I whipped myself (it doesn't hurt when I don't touch it). The first 2 days it itched but then it stopped. It wasn't till today I dared to take a mirror to look to what I have. There's a small cut like lession near by the anus. I didn't think it'll be a cut since it doesn't burn, not even when I shower. Is it normal for an open herpes sore not to burn? Also, the day before the pain began I had a momentary itch I would consider normal near by my anus, I scratched hard and I hurt myself. I'm hopeful it's only scratch I gave myself with my nail. Please give me your opinion. Cheers!
  28. sarahsfocus

    Negative blood test positive culture

    she is going back next week for her confirmation blood test to see if she actually has it.i just pray that she don't.
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