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    I read this re a herpes self help group, thought it was pretty cool: ”We do a self-esteem exercise with a crumpled $20 bill, where I ask clients to go around the room and beat it, write on it, and stomp on it, while still keeping it intact,” Wood said. “Then I ask them how much it’s worth. Still $20, they’ll say.’”
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    Not a logical argument. Would you want someone to do the same to you if the roles were reversed and they had something they could transmit to you? You’d want them to say something even if it was a one-night stand, right? Don’t let the fear cloud your integrity. Be courageous. You’ll feel a hell of a lot better about yourself in the process. Hiding sucks. Sweeping your integrity under the rug for a little fun sucks. And definitely doesn’t lead to connected, real, trustworthy relationships, which I’m assuming is what you ultimately want, right?
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    Heyy ☺️ I’m 24, Female from the Uk, I’ve had HSV-2 for nearly 2 years, it’d be nice to have someone to talk to about everything and to provide and receive support 😌 happy to chat to anyone, feel free to send me a message 😌
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    Honestly, I wouldn’t beat yourself up too much about when you choose to disclose. I’ve had plenty of partners who didn’t care and I usually only disclose when it’s clear we’re about to have sex. Delivering the message without shame and without seeming like you’re apologizing (because you truly have nothing to be sorry about!) is important, but it takes time to get to the point where you can do that. I just think it’s easy to get in your own head and believe that herpes makes you deserving of rejection. It doesn’t. And for most of us I think we’ve had plenty of soul crushing rejection in our dating lives before herpes, so just treat any new ones the same way. Which is to say, feel totally heartbroken for a while and then realize that person wasn’t right for you and move on. My feeling is that anyone who rejects you because of herpes is rejecting you because of the stigma and, if you want to dispel that stigma with other people, you first have to stop buying into it yourself. Obviously that’s a tall order because it means letting go of the shame and all the bad feelings you have about it. But I swear it doesn’t make you less of a person, doesn’t make you any less desirable and won’t be a reason for someone who truly cares about you to walk away. I’m sorry you got hurt! Dating sucks, but when it doesn’t it’s soooooo good! So keep at it 😜
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    Sign me up 😊 I would love to have a H-Buddy, as I am new to this site. I’m 9yrs+ In, so I would definitely like to offer my advice & also receive support. That’s what it’s all about. No specific Preference ( Male or female ) I’m from the NY area 🤗
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    Hi! I’m 30, female and in the DC area. It’s not really important to me to find someone in the same area, but if you want to chat let me know. ☺️ I would definitely appreciate a buddy.
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    I’m a 34 y/o female in LA also, just got diagnosed and feel so lost. Would love to talk to someone in the same boat if you’re interested!
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    I think moving forward I need to keep the mindset that some people will be okay with it and some will not, that even with the best delivery and connection, it can be a deal breaker with some people. I think telling someone early is the best option. Saves yourself time and more of a heartache.
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    36 year old female from Los Angeles. I've been in denial but I finally went to the doctor. I was told on Monday that I have the virus. Funny thing, they couldn't tell me which virus so I will be talking to my doctor soon. Worst of all, I haven't been sexually active in years! Symptoms just started showing beginning of this year. Would love to talk to someone in the Los Angeles area.
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    Sorry to hear that pumpkin its his loss not yours. Atleast you have the strength and confidence to disclose. This is not the end. You will find someone who will accept all of you
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    hello everyone ☺️ Im a 21yr old female who contracted the virus a month ago. I’m looking to give the same comfort & support that I’m seeking. I have an amazing support group, I am blessed.. but I want to at least have one person in my corner who can understand the random days that it gets me down mental & emotionally. would love to chat with some people who are around my age or older, but honestly willing to chat w anyone. not gender specific, I just need the understanding and insight. brand new to the site but I’m sure if you message me privately I’ll figure out how to get to it lol. wishing love, mental positivity, & inner happiness to all ❤️
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    It would be great to have buddy male or female doesn't matter! Someone in the NY area like NYC. I am new to this so I need support but I am always a good listener! No preference just as long as you're kind and non judgmental that's all that matters!
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    I’m lookin for someone to talk to, I have hsv2. I suffer from major depressive because of it.
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    Hello! I am a 30 year old female in South Florida and I am looking for a male or female as a support buddy. I was diagnosed in January with HSV2 and have been struggling to accept that I have this. Would be nice to converse with someone who can relate to how I am feeling and support each other through this. ✨You don’t have to be perfect to be amazing✨
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    I’m in the UK 40... 😮 ..... something year old. Happy to be friendly . “ Here is the world. Beautiful and terrible things will happen. Don’t be afraid.^
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    I am 42 female from CA... Recently diagnosed with HSV1 after having HSV2 for 10+years and am continually beating myself up over the diagnosis, dating and the blame. I would like someone to talk to that can relate - male or female. A lot of loneliness, isolation and working myself to death because that’s what I deserve -
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