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Ppwn8191

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  1. I appreciate that. I’m taking things one day at a time and allowing myself to had good days and bad days. That’s a good idea in terms of talking to multiple people instead of putting all my eggs in one basket. When you’ve disclosed do you do it before a first date or after a date or two once there seems to be some type of connection (thus potential decreasing chance of rejection?).
  2. @regularguy I really appreciate the quick and detailed response. A few things stuck out to me so thank you. As you mentioned, most of us (myself included) have been rejected many times before for reasons outside of herpes. In a way, it can be kind of empowering to have the choice as to when and how you want to share this information. Like you said, some may not be cool with it, while others will see through the stigma and understand that it is not a big deal. That acceptance and rejection is all part of dating regardless of having this diagnosis or not. In the end, sharing this information before we become intimate with someone whether it is something casual or something more serious is an honest, healthy, and mature thing to do. And while it can be uncomfortable, I hope (any one feel free to reassure me!) that talking about this becomes easier over time. I feel like these types of things are all about the lens in which you view it. We can choose to be sad and alone and not be open about how we feel, or we can try to view it as a positive, and realize that being forced to have these type of intimate conversations, regardless of context, can make you closer with someone. I'm at a point where I'm scared about rejection but also know I just need to go out there and try to live my life. I don't feel that this is going to be holding be back as I reenter the dating world and have actually gone on a date already and downloaded Bumble and have had some mild success (although not at a point where i need to disclose). My roommate and good friend knows about my breakup and diagnosis and is pretty supportive with things. I feel like having that safety net of knowing i have someone to talk to right after a positive or negative disclosure goes down is comforting. As I know from reading many posts and my other many life experiences. Things are going to be okay. I think I just have to remind myself this from time to time. Thanks again for your supportive words and looking forward to getting through this and living our best lives.
  3. Hi all, I was diagnosed a few months back after a annual physical with my doctor and have since had one OB following that initial diagnosis. I’ve managed to get things under control, take medication, eat healthier, etc since then. My gf was very supportive and caring during this time and did not mind my diagnosis despite my feelings and concerns. Unfortunately she ended things recently for reasons outside the diagnosis. I’m trying to cope with dating again and the stress of disclosure to new partners. I’d love to hear any suggestions or any general notes of positivity from anyone who has experienced a similar situation. Thanks!
  4. Hi there, I’ve been recently diagnosed so I completely empathize with how you’re feeling. The main thing I’ve been telling myself that seems to help is that there are ways to make this diagnosis a positive. The uncomfortable conversations and stigmas force us to be better communicators and more open with our feelings. In addition, it allows us to empathize and understand things on a deeper level with those we care about. I hope that as the dust settles we can begin to embrace the positives and move forward from the negatives. When your anxiety is flairing up it may be worth checking out some deep breathing excercises or meditation apps (like headspace). They can help when things are tough.. Feel free to message me if you need any more positivity! We can use all the support we can get.
  5. I appreciate the positive words and insight. I will definitely look into mindfulness exercises and EFT in an effort to qwell any negetive thought patterns. I’m happy to hear you’ve been able to navigate the dating world and find meaningful connections. Did you find that it became easier to move past that fear after each experience? I’m looking forward to taking things one step at a time. Hopefully I can use this new found diagnosis as a way to improve communication skills and intimacy with my GF and any other relationship in my life that I disclose to.
  6. Hi All, Recently diagnosed here (26 y/o M). I’m going through the typical range of emotions including relief that I know my diagnosis, to fear about the difficulties it may create in the future. I am fortunate enough so have a caring girlfriend who has been very supportive about things as well as parents who have kept the diagnosis in perspective. Despite this though I can’t help but to be worried about the difficulties it may bring if my girlfriend has a change of heart or if I have to enter back into the dating pool in the future. I would love to get some feedback, guidance, and support from individuals who have dealt with similar feelings. How have you used the diagnosis as a positive? How do you keep things in perspective? And what are the best ways to calm anxiety about it? And information is much appreciated!
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