Hi everyone, brand new to the forum but not to HSV2, I have carried the virus for 37 years. Consequently, I’ve had to muster up the courage several times in my lifetime to have “the talk”, and it never seems to get easier. In fact, the older I get the more difficult it is. I was married for 18 years to a man who also had HSV2, and he came forward first, so there was no problem there. Since we divorced 5 years ago I have had to have the talk twice and each time my partner was accepting. Unfortunately, neither one of those men worked out for the long term. Now I met a man online whom I really like and we hit it off beautifully, have been talking on the phone and texting and had 3 wonderful dates. After the last date on Sat., he said he wasn’t dating anyone else and that he really likes me and it seems as though he was alluding to perhaps becoming exclusive. Sunday we talked and texted a couple of times and in our last conversation he mentioned that he had been tested, was clean and has the papers to prove it. I was a off guard a little bit, not planning on having that conversation at that time, I really wanted to speak with him in person about it. But since he had already broached the subject, it was the right opportunity for me to disclose my herpes. He seemed a little surprised at first, asked me some questions, I told him I was managing it with acyclovir, a healthy diet and lifestyle including immune support supplements. It was a bit awkward for a few moments and I basically said it’s not really a huge deal it’s more of a nuisance than anything and that I rarely have outbreaks. I said that if he wanted to have a relationship with me then he would need to deal with this and it was up to him. I said that I understood it was a lot for him to take in right now and that he would probably want some time to chew on it and we could talk about it later. I also said if had any questions I was happy to help him understand better and that he should do his own research as well. I followed up later after the conversation ended with at a text including a link to information re: HSV. Also mentioned to him how much I liked him and that we had a lot in common and were having fun and there was no reason why we couldn’t have a normal relationship but again, it was up to him. He has texted me and called me a few times since then, both Monday and today, we talked for a while mainly about his work, but not about the proverbial “elephant in the room”. I did not bring it up and will not bring it up, I’m waiting for him to say something about it. I’m getting the feeling that he’s just trying to get his head wrapped around it and mulling it over. I do notice, however, that our conversations are now lacking the cute little endearments he was using prior to our discussion on Sunday evening. I had invited him to my house for dinner on Friday, but he hasn’t mentioned that, nor has he asked me out again. After our conversation this morning he said we’d talk later. So now it’s the waiting game. I’m a bit on pins and needles and feeling somewhat anxious. I really don’t want to be hanging here wondering, but there’s not much else I can do at this point.