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A liaison is a sexual encounter.

Ah, @mstanya123, a lesion is a blister- you can google and I promise, you will see herpes blisters and herpes lesions are the same thing. The ulcer that’s caused after a blister breaks is also considered a lesion. @mstanya123, maybe you aren’t noticing the blisters until after they break and become open sores- but lesions = blisters and broken blisters. Feel better.

Hi. Could possibly mean another ob, but yes, H in that area is pretty painful. Even if it were a bit more internal, I’d still expect some pain, itching or something. Maybe a hemorrhoid? Some people just get little fissures and cuts in that area, I think that’s pretty common? If it’s a lot of blood and/or if this continues for any length of time, I’d consult a doctor, but if it’s just a little bit, I’d wait it out for a day or two.

Prodrome symptoms are the symptoms that @jdakota84 described above. They are the symptoms that often start before any visible outbreak appears. I’m in the same situation, since mid February, just constant prodrome, with a few bad visible outbreaks. I really just view this as one long, crazy outbreak, since symptoms have been nonstop. Several times I thought things were improving, but I was wrong. I avoided nuts, chocolate, etc, took lysine, etc. Took tons of acyclovir, it did absolutely nothing. Now 1gram daily suppressive valtrex for the last month, which I will continue for a few more weeks, I guess? Yesterday I felt fine and now today I feel like I have shards of glass in my panties. I went four years before getting my second outbreak, and I’m confident that I will have another few years with zero symptoms, if I can just get this damn virus to go back into dormancy. Gyno claimed that sex is fine as long as blisters aren’t present, but the idea of sex (with uninflected partner) with these symptoms makes me feel pretty uncomfortable. Wishing the best for all of you who are going through the same thing.

Sorry, what was I thinking... also definitely read Adrial’s e-book and check out his videos. Also Ella Dawson’s video, if you google her it will come right up. @missoceanweaver also recently put up a great post, Judgment Free Zone Only, which sums up how we’ve all felt at one time or another about having H. You aren’t alone. We know what you’re going through.

Yes. I’m sorry. It could have been. That’s why roughly 80% of people with H don’t know they have it- because their symptoms are mild and they think it’s something else. My first outbreak had no blisters- but my second one did. You do need to re-test though to be 100% sure. I know you are feeling hopeless, everyone on here is in the same position, and we’ve all been there. You will be able to date and find a relationship, just as many of us here have. Take a look at the new post, Motivational Post by @happyman_adventurous. Everything he says is true! Things will be ok.

Don’t worry. All those things (except toilets) would fall under type 1, which you are negative for, type 2 orally is very rare. Extremely rare. Even if you were positive for 1, those things should only be avoided if you had a cold sore, felt one coming on, or were still healing up from one. Otherwise risk would be low. But that’s all a non issue here! That’s all type 1. Toilets, fine. This should not impact your daily life. Only as far as sex is concerned. Also, as far as sharing your results, that’s up to you- except for sexual partners of course. It’s a very personal decision. I chose not to tell any friends or family. Only you can know what would be best for you.

Hi, @markh! Re-test on May 9. It’s not 1, doctor sounds a bit confused about type 1and 2. No, chicken pox as a kid doesn’t enter into this. Sorry! False result? Idk, false positives do happen. If I were you, I would re-test, have hope, but also in the meantime conduct yourself as you would if it were positive- because that’s what your results indicate so far. I’d hold off on sex, unless you have a partner who knows what’s going on, or if you want to disclose that you tested positive. It’s possible that you are asymptomatic, or perhaps you had an outbreak that was very mild- not all outbreaks include blisters! Sometimes just itching, or maybe a little bump or two. So, play it safe in the meantime, but re-test. And if it is positive, you will get through this. I know it may feel like the end of the world, but it really isn’t.

I’m a lady :) but your welcome. I also agree that getting the IgG test is a good idea, to clear up any mystery about type 2. Best of luck to both of you!

Hi,@New2GH! Sorry to hear. All I can say is I’ve also had constant symptoms since mid February, but I think they are finally coming to an end. Everyone’s immune system is different, and will handle H accordingly. To all those who have mild symptoms- I wish I could be so lucky! I also am curious though, are you on antivirals and are you taking anti-H supplements? If not, these may help with the numbness. However, if you are taking any of those, I’d ask if those could be possible causes of the constipation. I took a few different lysines and thought one of them was causing constipation (it also had a few other ingredients.) Also of course I’d ask if you have changed your diet. Daily magnesium should help get rid of the constipation, you can try different amounts over a few days to see how much you need. A daily probiotic could help as well. @Tayg, I also read your question. Not sure about hsv2, as the numbers looked low, maybe a false positive at that level? But I’d talk to your doctor about it. Since the hsv1 numbers were high, and it actually said “high” that’s a that’s pretty clear indication that you have hsv1, probably oral with no symptoms, since you’ve had no noticeable symptoms so far, but again, I’d ask your doctor for more information.

Ugh. So sorry to hear all of this! Don’t listen to that guy, you don’t have to lower your standards because you have H. Keep your standards high! He sounds like a racist anyway, so good riddance! People’s reactions have nothing to do with you as a person, and anyone who uses it as an opportunity to be unkind- you wouldn’t want to be with that type of person anyway. Seriously, H will help weed out the jerks. And don’t let anyone use H or anything else as a reason not to give you what you want in a relationship, either. It might take a little time to find someone worth being with, but try to be patient. I know everything seems impossible right now, but give it time. There are decent people out there who will accept this.

Hi! Normally I would say wait until after meeting someone to disclose, because who knows if you will like each other anyway, but since this involves you taking a flight, I recommend telling him now. Worst case scenario, he tells you not to come. But it would be way worse, I think, if you get there, disclose, find out he’s not accepting, maybe he gets mad, things become awkward, and you wish you had never gone there in the first place. That would really suck. But let’s think positive! There’s a very good chance he’ll be fine with it! Better to tell him now, give him some time to do some research and time to warm up the idea. He would probably really appreciate that. Let him know you’re on antivirals and that the risk of transmission is low. Good luck whatever you decide, and I hope you have a great trip!!!

Ok, so you and your boyfriend are now part of the 50-80% of the population with oral hsv1. Can you imagine if 50-80% of the population suddenly stopped kissing? That would be a bit much! No, no harm can come from the two of you kissing. However, now both of you need to be aware that you have the potential to pass this to each other and future partners through oral sex. Better to know than not know. Since you both already have it orally, that may give you both *some* protection from contracting it genitally, but I wouldn’t couldn’t on it to protect you 100%. You know the risks (roughly 15%) so you can risk it, use dental damns and flavored condoms for oral sex, or you can refrain from oral sex. And for possible future partners, in my opinion disclosure before kissing is not necessary, because most people do already carry this virus, but I’d definitely disclose before any oral takes place, because they have the right to decide if that’s a risk they are willing to take. So go kiss that gorgeous guy of yours! It will be absolutely fine

Hi! Oh wow, love your name!!!!! ! Between 50 and 80% of adults carry hsv1 orally, although some don’t know it. Most people have it. Just a little kiss from a friend or family member could do it! It’s possible you’ve had it for years and years, but never knew. The one thing I am stumped about though is- why did your doctor tell you that you have hsv1? Since you’ve had no outbreaks? Usually a blood test is only done when a patient is having symptoms. That’s the one part here that isn’t making sense to me. Anyway, you could have easily gotten it from a friend, and not your boyfriend, especially since he hasn’t had a cold sore either, so there is no reason to assume he has it. There is no evidence your boyfriend has it. And just because you have it, that does not mean he’s gotten it. Oral hsv1 can shed when you have no sore. Roughly 15% of the time, it’s shedding, and you can transmit the virus, sore or no sore. You do need to be careful when it comes to oral sex, as I’m sure you know. And never ever use saliva as lube.I wouldn’t worry too much about spreading it to other body parts, but for me personally, I’d be careful with things like towels and soap, just in case. But really I’d want to know more about your doctor and why/how he came to the conclusion that you have oral hsv in the first place!

I do agree that liquid bandage is not the answer. However, it’s been well established that condoms are only effective in protecting the parts that they cover. Condoms are not effective protection from H if the H is in a place that the condom won’t cover. @happyman_adventurous, I think it’s amazing how you are trying so hard to protect your partner! I just sent u a private message with some thoughts on how to protect her, using safe barrier methods, but putting the barrier on her intimate parts, not yours.

Hi! I also have decided not to tell friends or family- you’re right, they don’t need to know. I personally would not mention it until after meeting someone, as you might meet them and realize you can’t stand them for whatever reason. I’d only reveal it to someone I was sure I wanted to move forward with, but that’s just me. Texting the info is fine, and I agree with @Katidid, your message is perfect! I would also point out that 50-80% of people already have this virus orally. So many people don’t realize this. Ok, wishing you the best of luck!

Hi! Yes, glad you are doing better. I had been meaning to comment and say that while gelatin is on the list of things to avoid during outbreaks because of it’s argenine content, something like a gelatin capsule is such a tiny amount that it should be fine. You can always take extra lysine if you’re still worried about it. All of the lysine I’ve bought so far has actually come in gelatin capsules, as well as the other things I’ve taken to battle H, such as oregano oil and olive leaf. I’m certain that they would not put lysine into gelatin capsules if that were a harmful amount of gelatin. Anyway, keep feeling better!

Hi! I’m sorry you are dealing with this! It could be vaginismus or vulvodynia, but because of the timing, it’s probably still just the HSV. The fact that it’s uncomfortable to sit down, that is a very clear sign that you are not all healed- you are still healing. Also, with the itching, and the discharge- the virus may not have gone into dormancy yet. The discharge could be from internal sores that are breaking. Yes, you may have swelling due to inflammation caused by he virus- something I’ve been dealing with for about two months now. I know it seems like a long time to wait for sex, but you have to just take care of your body and let it heal at its own pace! Are you taking antivirals? All I can suggest is take daily antivirals at least until you feel physically back to normal, and use coconut oil and/or lemon balm salve topically while giving yourself all the time you need to heal. Also, stay away from nuts, chocolate, all the things that trigger HSV at least until after you are all healed. Feel better!

Hey,@happyman_adventurous! I’m having one of those sleepless nights and I saw your question and I feel compelled to respond! Yes, coconut oil, smells great, anti-viral properties, possible preventive layer- all sound good! Just as long as you’re not using a condom. If it gets on the condom, that’s a problem. Any type of oil as well as oil based lube will break down the latex in a condom, causing it to break. Don’t take my word for it! Try googling oil and condoms. But if you guys are cool with not using condoms, it can’t hurt, might be worth a try

Ugh, sorry to hear about all this, but @RegularGuy is right, you really should get everything checked out, especially your eye! It could be a variety of things, but yes, it also could be herpes. My first outbreak had no blisters- some parts of me itched, and others burned. My second outbreak began with a patch that looked like it had been bleached on my labia. It itched but never blistered, just looked white for a while- and I have seen a handful of other posts discussing similar white patches from h. It could also be other things, so please go get yourself checked! Remember that if there are no sores to swab, a blood test may come up negative if u got h recently, and you may have to re-test in 3 months. Either way, you will be ok! Hopefully it is something else, but if not, you will be ok once the initial shock wears off!

Oh wow!

Yes, if it’s coming up negative, it is definitely recent. Hope you are feeling better

Hi. I know you don’t want to be here, but here you are, so... WELCOME! I think I will send you a private message but what I’ll say here is... yes, you will be ok. Your boyfriend sounds great and your “flaky nurse” sounds confused. Medical professionals can be so disappointing when it comes to their knowledge of hsv issues. She’s just one of many who think, oh, if it’s down there then it’s type 2. From your description of things, it does sound like it is likely type 1. But you WILL be able to get through this once the shock wears off- regardless of which type it is. And no, they don’t test for herpes when people go in and believe they are getting tested for everything. It’s so ridiculous. They only test for it if you have symptoms. In any case, it sounds like you have a great best friend, a good therapist and a wonderful boyfriend. They will be your support system and will help get you through this. The trauma should fade with time, and with the realization that anyone can get this, and it’s just a skin condition. Feel better!

I’m so sorry! I hope your results come back negative! If not, yes, you can narrow down the timeline by getting a blood test now. If it’s negative, it’s from a recent exposure. However, even if it’s from your current partner, it could be possible that he doesn’t get symptoms or gets mild symptoms and doesn’t know he has it. I know how you feel about spraying down the toilet seat, I’m the same way- I also wouldn’t share any used towels. It will be ok! You’re not going to spread this to him. As for hsv related depression, I know everyone is different, but I only really get depressed over it when I’m having an outbreak. Hopefully once you start feeling better physically and get over the initial shock, you will feel better emotionally. And yes, focusing on your beloved son can be a way to keep this in perspective. It’s just a skin condition, there are so many worse things a person can have. You’re in good company- millions of people have this! I know it doesn’t seem like it right now, but you will be okay.

So sorry to hear about all of this. I just can’t figure out why some people have ongoing ob’s and others don’t. Granted, mine have not been going on for years, but they are still too long. The 2 ob’s I’ve had so far went on for a few months. I’m getting close to the end of one now (I hope) it’s been going on since the last week of Jan. And I have type 1! I am otherwise healthy, or at least I thought. I went to the doctor the other day because of hsv caused inflammation, pain, and swelling. They said this prolonged ob is very atypical, but had no suggestions for me. So I’d be really interested in whatever your immunologist has to say. And I’d like to wish you the best of luck!!!