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Hopefully you'll come to realize (if you haven't already) that H isn't a huge deal once you get past the discomfort of outbreaks. How are you feeling (mentally and physically) now that it's been a while since your diagnosis?

I love this, it's so positive 🙂 (lol I guess that statement could be taken multiple ways given the situation)

No it didn't hurt, that particular guy just tends to have issues keeping it up sometimes lol. Sex/fingering hasn't hurt any of the few times I've done it post-diagnosis, but I have noticed that I tend to get outbreaks afterwards (although I'm also an unlucky person who seems to get outbreaks all the time, so they may be unrelated to the sex). Hope this helps, feel free to message me if you have any questions or just want to talk 🙂

So here's a timeline to start. I noticed my first herpes symptoms at the end of February and got diagnosed at the beginning of March. I had sex for the first time post diagnosis at the end of March with a guy who I had hooked up with a few times prior (you can read about that in another post on my page if interested - and sorry if the timeline is off in that post, I wrote it really quickly :). Between that hook up and the beginning of May I did not have sex with anyone. There was a FWB I was "hooking up" with (not sex) during that time, but that's all (more about that to come in a post soon). Then at the beginning of May I went to a party and there was this guy and we were kind of vibing and ended up making out and deciding to go home together. Before we left I told him I probably wasn't going to have sex with him and he was fine with that. TBH I did want to I just wasn't sure how comfortable I felt disclosing to someone I barely knew. So then we went home, and did lots of other stuff and he ended up asking me if I still didn't want to. I asked him if he could keep a secret and he asked what it was; I said what if I had an STD, he asked which one and I told him herpes. He asked if I had condoms and I said I did and went up to get them. Before we had sex though I asked him if he would get mad at me if he ended up getting H, and he seemed really surprised that I would ask that and said no and that made me happy :) and honestly the sex was really good :) I know a lot of people on here say that part of the good that comes out of H is waiting to get to know people better before you have sex so you have time to disclose, but I feel like that's not for everyone. I'm a college student who isn't rushing to get into a relationship. If it happens, it happens. But until then, I want to have fun and live my life and I hope this can reassure someone that the way you live your life doesn't have to change because of what is essentially an annoying skin condition!

So there's this guy who I have had a tiny crush on (there's no chance it'll actually work out for a variety of reasons, but it's fun at the moment), I'll call him W. Me and W had sex for the first time in February and have made out/cuddled/hooked up a few more times. But I ended up noticing STD symptoms at the end of the month and told him about it so we didn't do anything sexual the last time we hung out since I didn't want to potentially infect him with something. He was really nice about it and cuddled with me but after he left we didn't talk to each other for a while. Fast forward like a month and a half, and the only potential partner I had told was a FWB who said he didn't feel comfortable having sex with me since I have H. I was also scared of disclosing to people I didn't know very well, so I just wasn't sexually active during this time. I was on antivirals and no longer on my first outbreak though. I went to a party and W was there. We ended up going home together and he asked about my "situation." I told him that I had herpes and kind of word vomited a bunch of statistics. To my surprise he seemed ok with it, but he did say all the statistics overwhelmed him a little lol (SO DONT DO EXACTLY WHAT I DID). We ended up just sleeping and cuddling and doing non sex-sexy stuff. But then in the morning he asked if I still wanted to and we used a condom and tbh the sex wasn't that great but I felt great because my confidence was back. I now know that herpes doesn't define me and if someone is attracted to me that won't necessarily turn them away :) Sorry if this is kind of all over the place. I meant to write it a while ago, but I forgot to finish! I'm going to write a few more stories about disclosing now so sorry if you see a bunch of my posts at once!

Hey you commented on one of my posts a couple months ago and I just wanted to check in. Hopefully things have been going better for you! I'm a 19 year old female college student, and I had pretty similar thoughts to you at first, but life's been great for me! I've hooked up with guys who I've disclosed to and I've actually never been rejected by one! I'm going to be posting my stories within the next couple days, so feel free to stop by my page or message me individually if you wanna ask any questions or need support!

So there's this guy who I have had a tiny crush on (there's no chance it'll actually work out for a variety of reasons, but it's fun at the moment), I'll call him W. Me and W had sex for the first time in February and have made out/cuddled/hooked up a few more times. But I ended up noticing STD symptoms at the end of the month and told him about it so we didn't do anything sexual the last time we hung out since I didn't want to potentially infect him with something. He was really nice about it and cuddled with me but after he left we didn't talk to each other for a while. Fast forward like a month and a half, and the only potential partner I had told was a FWB who said he didn't feel comfortable having sex with me since I have H. I was also scared of disclosing to people I didn't know very well, so I just wasn't sexually active during this time. I was on antivirals and no longer on my first outbreak though. I went to a party and W was there. We ended up going home together and he asked about my "situation." I told him that I had herpes and kind of word vomited a bunch of statistics. To my surprise he seemed ok with it, but he did say all the statistics overwhelmed him a little lol (SO DONT DO EXACTLY WHAT I DID). We ended up just sleeping and cuddling and doing non sex-sexy stuff. But then in the morning he asked if I still wanted to and we used a condom and tbh the sex wasn't that great but I felt great because my confidence was back. I now know that herpes doesn't define me and if someone is attracted to me that won't necessarily turn them away :) Sorry if this is kind of all over the place. I meant to write it a while ago, but I forgot to finish! I'm going to write a few more stories about disclosing now so sorry if you see a bunch of my posts at once!

I'm in college and just got diagnosed, and can't find anything about this either. For me I'm just assuming college, my sex life, and any other sort of a life for that matter is ruined. @why your life isn't ruined. Other than the initial surprise and fear, my daily life has not been significantly impacted by my diagnosis. I did my research, started taking suppression meds, and even had sex for the first time after finding out yesterday (I'm going to make a post about it if you're interested). But herpes doesn't control you, life's what you make it.

I'm in college and I have one night stands occasionally. Like I'll go to parties and meet someone for the first time and then we'll have sex and never talk again. But I was recently diagnosed with genital HSV1 and I don't know what to do moving forward. I don't want to stop having sex with people but I'm also really scared of being rejected. There's one guy who I'm friends with and we hook up sometimes. I told him while I was having my first outbreak and he said he didn't think he would have sex with me in the future but he wasn't sure. I'm not into him but the fact that someone who has known me for a long time, is attracted to me, and cares about me is rejecting me because of this makes me feel like my chances with anyone else are extremely low. I'm taking daily antivirals for suppression and I know to use condoms and I've done my research, but of course the chances of transmission are still there. Almost everything I've seen about disclosure has been about people in relationships or possibly getting into relationships in the near future. I've seen a few things about casual sex, but they're always about people who have known each other for a little bit of time before doing the deed. If anyone has any experiences with disclosing to potential one-night stands or anything similar I'd love to hear. And please no judgement, the times have changed lol. Thanks.

I'm in college and I have one night stands occasionally. Like I'll go to parties and meet someone for the first time and then we'll have sex and never talk again. But I was recently diagnosed with genital HSV1 and I don't know what to do moving forward. I don't want to stop having sex with people but I'm also really scared of being rejected. There's one guy who I'm friends with and we hook up sometimes. I told him while I was having my first outbreak and he said he didn't think he would have sex with me in the future but he wasn't sure. I'm not into him but the fact that someone who has known me for a long time, is attracted to me, and cares about me is rejecting me because of this makes me feel like my chances with anyone else are extremely low. I'm taking daily antivirals for suppression and I know to use condoms and I've done my research, but of course the chances of transmission are still there. Almost everything I've seen about disclosure has been about people in relationships or possibly getting into relationships in the near future. I've seen a few things about casual sex, but they're always about people who have known each other for a little bit of time before doing the deed. If anyone has any experiences with disclosing to potential one-night stands or anything similar I'd love to hear. And please no judgement, the times have changed lol. Thanks.