scared1011

I know that this forum was so long ago, but I got diagnosed this year and got it from a one-time encounter. I don't believe that the odds are that low (I'd only slept with my ex-partner which was 6 months prior to this one time thing and my blood test was negative). I also know several other people who only have one-night stands and have contracted it. I have had 5 outbreaks within 4 months and the whole thing has impacted on both my physical and emotional health. Because I know that you can contract it from a one time thing and the impact it can have, I would now never not disclose - it may be more irrelevant to those who don't get symptoms, but for those that do, it's pretty horrendous. I didn't have the choice when it came to contracting this and I definitely don't want to put someone else in the same situation.

I've had blood tests and HSV2 IGG has come back negative - does this mean that it's definitely recent? I presume if I had been infected all those months back it would've shown up positive!

No we didn't use a condom - which I very much regret now. I think that getting another blood test in 3 months is a good idea then. If it lies dormant, do most people have a major outbreak or show mild symptoms at a later point? I feel a bit clueless about this whole thing!

I broke up from a long-term partner about 7 months ago after 4 years together and I began dating a few months back. I started meeting up with people and decided that I wanted something casual - I got along with one guy particularly well and after several dates, we ended up sleeping together and this was the first time I'd slept with someone or had sexual contact since my last boyfriend. However I began experiencing pain about 2 days later, which became so intense that I struggled to walk/urinate, I also felt shattered and had a fever. I thought it was maybe an infection so took fluconazole, which made no difference. I finally saw one tiny sore after looking very closely and freaked out (this was 3-4 days post sex). The walk-in clinic was closed so I decided that I'd go first thing in the morning. However by the morning I was absolutely covered in blisters/sores (too many to count) :( They were fluid-filled and the doctor took one look and immediately diagnosed it as herpes and likely type-2 due to the severity of symptoms. The doctor said that there were a lot of sores internally, on my cervix and that my cervix was bleeding heavily due to the infection. The results ended up coming back as type 2 yesterday. As this guy was the first person I'd slept with in 6 months and I hadn't had any symptoms over the 3 years with my ex, the doctor said that he was pretty certain that I'd been infected by this guy, that he may not know that he's a carrier, and that it's advisable to let the guy know that he is likely a carrier. I contacted the guy and he was devastated/ promised that he had no awareness (he'd not slept with that many people either). He got a test done at the clinic this week and it came back negative, but he'd slept with someone else 2 weeks prior to me unprotected and another person prior to that - but I'm now freaking out that I have possibly given him herpes. I know that it's impossible to tell whether an infection is old or new, but really I'm wanting to know because I didn't end my long-term relationship on good terms and If I have got it from my last partner, I feel like I need to let him know. I'm very new to this and just wondering whether anyone can tell me any signs of whether my infection is old or new, or whether my infection sounds recent? I also should point-out that I've used steroids that suppress my immune system long-term over the past few years for a chronic condition when with my ex and currently, so my immune system is pretty rubbish - I'm always getting ill. Any advice to make me feel better would really be appreciated! I can't believe that I took dating for granted before - I feel pretty alone with this whole thing. I'm also on holiday at the moment and just want the symptoms to go!