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Fran76

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  1. I found out I had H2 6 months ago but had my outbreaks misdiagnosed for a year before that due to negative swabs and blood results.. I suspected it was my now ex Fiancé. I'd had every Sti test going when I left my long term partner before him after he cheated.. and believe me I'd never had those symptoms. We were planning our wedding so I didn't loose it and because I didn't have hard facts I wasn't even sure it was him.. I presumed it could of been me. Some people have no symptoms right.. I now know id of had antibodies if I'd been effected before my ex fiancé so chances are it was him.. we're no longer together but still speak/txt from time to time. So I thought it was important to explain the science facts of herpes to him and the effect it's had on my life.. I recently met a guy I liked.. he liked me too but when he tried to instigate intimacy I couldn't. I really was attracted to this man but the only thought going through my mind was "uh I'm herpes diseased and dirty" so when he kissed me I froze and felt nothing. I asked my ex fiancé to bear this in mind for any future partner because although not life threatening it is life changing. I've broken my back helping and supporting my ex fiancé financially and emotionally. I was really good to him... so after this message he got really nasty criticising everything about me my personality.. belittling the support I gave him and making out I'm the dirty person. I didn't want to blame or hurt him... he's promiscuous I was trying to save another woman from feeling like I do...
  2. I'd love to have a buddy.. I'm 41 live in Cambridge England and don't mind if my buddy is male or female. X
  3. I have had herpes for 18 months.. at first my nurse practitioner got it wrong and said it wasn't herpes.. two blood tests came back negative before the positive one finally came back after about 10 ferocious outbreaks lasting weeks in a year.. I contracted herpes from my now ex fiancé who thinks it was me that had herpes all along as he'd never had symptoms. I got my first outbreak 6 days after having unprotected sex with him the first time. I'm not looking to blame I need to know so I can inform previous partners. I think I've come to terms with the fact I have herpes.. I've survived worse. But I need accurate information about moving on and protecting any partner I may have.. I was told that the only safe way was total abstention.. depressing I'm only 41. I feel stupid dirty and alone.. when my family found out they now treat me like I have leprosy.. I've been given anti viral drugs to take constantly but they give me horrendous gastric symptoms. Any support help advice gratefully received. Everything seems to trigger outbreaks.. tiredness. I feel exhausted all the time. I've lost all my previous vitality and gained loads of weight. Sexual activity is a definite trigger. Within 24h it flares up horribly.
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