PumpkinPasties

Thank you for the response. (And thank you!) My doctor tested me as I specifically came to him to ask him to test me for all STD/STI's. I got my results back and I tested positive for HSV-1. All I know is, my BF looked back at his own records and saw he apparently tested positive for HSV-1 months ago, but his own doctor never told him, so it appears like he had it beforehand. Me, I'm not sure when I contracted it, but I know I've never had an outbreak (neither of us have), and as far as my medical history went, I cannot recall now if I've tested for it before. All I know is, both me and my BF do have it. But if we both have the same HSV-1 oral herpes, even if it sheds without outbreak, is it okay to kiss? So far I've only risked a small peck with him because I'm scared anything more will lead to further harm...

So I recently found out by my doctor that I have HSV-1, cold sores. I've been in a monogamous relationship for about 6 years, neither of us were unfaithful. However, I didn't know too much about cold sores except that you can get it through sex, or sharing. My boyfriend was never as knowledgeable about this stuff as me, and he's shared food and utensils and stuff with people on many occasions. I think that's where he got it, and then he unknowingly gave it to me. I've never had a breakout before, and neither has he. We both have been looking up more about this since we found out, and I've never gotten clear answers. I've been very paranoid about passing further HSV-1 along to him. I haven't kissed him since I found out, nor have I had sex. I'm worried that any cut on my lip or chapped lips is a cold sore, so I have become a bit OCD about washing my hands whenever I touch my lips, because I don't want to then touch him or myself and give him or me sores anywhere else, and likewise, I've been avoiding him ever since, and I know it's causing stress to both of us. I heard if you both got HSV-1 from each other, you can't pass it along anymore (the same HSV-1 of the mouth?) So my question is, If you haven't broken out or shown any signs of HSV-1 outbreak, how likely is it that you can pass it? Like, I know it's by saliva (from what I've read), but if I don't have any open cuts on me, and I have no outbreak, how likely is it that I can pass on my HSV to another part of my body?