I've been meaning to write this for years! Every time I jump back on here I remember how super important these success stories are.
A few years ago, I was 27 and had never had a long-term partner. I got used to feeling that I was undateable and that casual sex would be the path for me. Fine. Well, then I get my dx. Fun.
I had just moved into a group house with a bunch of hysterical guys who were turning into wonderful friends. One month after my dx, it was the Super Bowl and one of the roommates and I got quite hammered and started hooking up in bed. I told him, listen, I have this thing. He's like, well, we don't know I don't have it. And I'm too old to worry about these things (38y/o) and I like you.
We dated for almost 2 years. My first relationship, and right after a dx. We broke up, not because of H. Honestly, I don't know if I would have done the relationship thing if we hadn't been so cool with my dx and made me see things differently - other reasons to date someone besides sex and a sense of humor, and that someone might care for me because of..me.
It's going to be ok.