Ok, whoa. No, we aren't going to do anything without him first talking to his wife. My question was what activities can we do that won't transmit HSV 2. Yes, I'm on suppressive meds and I know with condom use the risk is low. But it's still there. And if his wife isn't ok with taking on that risk, I respect that. But there has to be some things we can do with no risk. For example, if I were to give him a hand job that is not going to transmit HSV 2 to him, correct? Aren't there other things he and I can do that are sexual but no risk? Another thing I can think of is spanking. We have a D/s dynamic. I'm looking for suggestions like those so that he and I can still enjoy intimacy but maintain his wife's boundaries if she tells him she wants them.