stoneman123

Thank you all who responded to my post. I had blood work done and had a false positive for the HSV2 AB. After further blood work done with the DNA protocal test the results came back with a positive for the shingles virus or Varicella Zoster. Still not 100% convinced that I have shingles on my junk. A very small BO without much discomfort. The Dr. seems he got the correct results from the lab. Fingers crossed that it is a correct result and not HSV2. Still don't want shingles but it is the lesser of the 2 evils ...I guess. My support to you all...!!

Thanks Guy...I want to speak with her tonight...it is just so inconclusive as to where it came from on my part after 27 years. I feel it had to be her....but I do not want this to destroy our marriage which it could... if I put the blame on her. So we will go through this like adults and find our way through it. Thanks for the input.

So... sd2018... How do you think you came down HSV2 ?? I just got diagnosed and I believe my wife gave it to me after cheating on me and she has had HSV1 for years as well. It doesn't just appear out of thin air !! Or change from #1 to #2 does it? I need to know more as this could be a marriage buster if she has cheated on me to a point where she gave me H2. Isn't that why they call it an STD....Transmitted sexually? Thanks for any input.

Like other posts I have previously read… I too am flooded with thoughts and emotions about how to talk to my wife about how I have contracted HSV2 after I have been faithful to her for 27 years. I have read the the virus can stay dormant in your body for years...but 27 years? I don't believe that I am that lucky or unlucky. That was the last time I was with another woman and do not know if she was infected or not. Just over a year ago I had suspected her of having an affair with a work associate but had no proof just subtle clues and her demeanor and us not engaging in sex for several weeks and then her unexpectedly going away for a weekend to go Stay at the beach with an old girl friend she had not seen in years. I approached her one evening with the question “ Are you having an affair with Tom from work ?” And she was totally shocked and swore she was not. We even went as far as to see a marriage counselor for 5 visits. There was nothing I could do except to believe her and her firm statement that she was not seeing someone behind my back. But now things have changed… I recently had my 1st outbreak and I really wasn’t sure what it was ... or I didn’t want to believe what I thought it was … Until I gained a medical Opinion from a doctor and a blood test which came positive for HVS2 and high in Zoster also. (shingles) This was my intro to herpes. So do I go back to the question of her possible infidelity or the idea that it was hiding in my body for 27 years? How should this talk go? I love my wife very much and I don't know how to handle the possible fact that she has been screwing with some guy behind my back that gave us both H2? Or Will she come back at me with" So how do you know it was me that gave it to you? Maybe you gave it to me?" I don't even know she has been tested for it but we have had sex once or twice a week before my BO and 3 times after it cleared up. I made up an excuses several times during the BO. So now I have been prescribed the typical oral medication by my Doctor but have yet to confront her with the facts. So what do I do now? I am planning on confronting her but cant bring myself to just sit down and talk. It could be the end of us .... or the beginning of us living with HSV2 together somehow. I'm confused !!