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Its not as easy as ppl make it seem they spit facts at you. You read and do your research but doesn't help with the pain of the outbreak. The discomfort. The fact that you have it. I try not live a normal life then boom outbreak constant reminder that this is my life.

I was diagnosed with GHSV 1 in 2017. It was hard i still get depressed with outbreaks happen but hey its life. What i wasn't expecting was that years later i would have oral HSV 1 outbreaks! 😱 My first one was a few months ago i wore a face mask to and told everyone i had a bad cold. Now im having another oral outbreak. I never have symptoms but as soon as i saw a small bump on my lip line i knew what was coming. This time i decided not to wear a face mask but i still feel ashamed. I found myself holding my head down alot today and isolating myself so noone would see my lip. As many facts as i read and talks i get from our veterans here. The doctors and even my boyfriend i still find myself ashamed or feeling embarassed. Its different when nobody can see it and i have it. Now its visible and i dont want the judgement. The stereotypes or the glares. Im still trying to accept my diagnosis years later. I dont think il ever come to terms with it took a piece of me il never get back. Im okay im going to work tomorrow and the outbreak will pass in a couple of days. just venting 💜

I have it in both areas

I understand the need for closure but racking ur brain upsetting urself wont change ur status . This is a big adjustment.

I found outi was hsv 1 positive in 2017. Me n my significant other don't use protection. He still doesn't have any symptoms or visible outbreaks. i have outbreaks once a yr

Me too

Stress. Most time they are just random

Just make sure you are comfortable & trust them enough to disclose. Try to provide them with enough knowledge and give them time to process it

Sorry to hear that pumpkin its his loss not yours. Atleast you have the strength and confidence to disclose. This is not the end. You will find someone who will accept all of you

Me and my significant other were together a yr before i contracted hsv 1 in 2017. I usually have a OB once a yr. This is the first time i had a OB on my mouth. Its hard not to get depressed when the OB happen but its nice to have someone who still loves me when i cant love myself

I have been going through this Ob for 5 days first the cuts, the itching those symptoms went away. now i have nerve pain and its intense What do u do when this happens?

a swab it was 4 days into my first outbreak

@mr_hopp whats crazy is i have genital type 1 i guess its ppl weird way of trying to comfort me

i asked that same thing i have Type 1 and i keep hearing oh well you have herpes but its not the bad herpes ..like wtf? lol

@Mstanya1234 thank you! you are in my thoughts!!

My OB symptoms started yesterday And today im uncomfortable but I'm managing. I didn't cry or fall apart i think I'm going to be okay. I don't feel sorry for myself or ugly. I guess its a start of acceptance. Today I feel better

@mstanya1234 no they never put me on anythinh since my first ob

110 Everything you all responded with is why to disclose. You can't possibly condemn another person to unwittingly going through all of this pain and loss of identity without losing your own dignity and self respect in the process. And, without disclosure, you would be intentionally taking away another person's right to consent. Play it up however you want, that's what we are talking about here. Getting consent, or not. Can you choose not to get consent? Physically, yes. Is it wrong to have sex with someone without consent each and every time? Yes. It is necessary every time. Is witholding the truth to avoid getting a 'no' answer when asking for consent still consent? No. You must give a sexual partner 100% of the information you know that could effect their health and well being. Not telling them something that would change their answer about consent is the same as forcing yourself on them physically. In both cases, you would be forcing them to do something they didn't want to do. So, don't misconstrue the issue. It's not 'not telling', it's avoiding getting consent to take advantage of another person and to cause them pain and misery. Call it like it is. I agree 110%

You have to give him time to process it its alot to take on. You both need to know the fact and information. H is not a death sentence. Breathe!!!!

thank you for posting this! I thought that the blisters on my fingers were eczema related the whole time it might be whitlow

i use to put cold rags on it m, take baths and wear sweat pants

i think we all feel the same way basically we are still grieving, coping and trying to rebuild

It's going be okay!! Me and my guy friend was googling it trying find what it was he was taking care of me i could walk or bend. so when I went to the doctors and they told me it was herpes i laughed not funny ha ha but funny like I was in shock but when I left the clinic i was walking down the street ugly crying and talking about i cant go home I can't tell him he never going talk to me. i panicked kept crying kept ignoring his calls and he told me stop crying its not going kill him or me and that it's common he showed me videos of how ppl live on and when I had my recent ob he brought me flowers and try to cheer me up. Just tell him and if he loves you pumpkin he will be there and support u to this and if not we are all here for u. you are not herpes it dont define u ..its hard but it's not the end just talk to him

i am a single mom of 3 i was diagnosed a year and half ago and only had 2 OB I still cry from time to time i have my moments and I'm not interested in dating yet im still coping but I have felt alot better after joining this community. Once I accept myself eventually someone

Awwww thank u!!!!! ❤❤❤❤