Kuro85

I understand losing the one person who you felt truly understood you and genuinely cared about you. I've gone through the same thing and I'm trying to be friends with her. Its so difficult because I just want things to be the way they were when we were together. Its hard talking to people about herpes because of the social stigmatism that is attached to the disease. Honestly, it hurts so bad right now. You just want to curl up in a ball and sleep forever and forget the outside world. As cliche as it sounds, you will move on and you will find someone else. Or maybe you two will reconnect later on when everything gets sorted out. I know how hard it is to continue on with your life but you need to in order to survive. You have a place where you can come to talk with people of the same ilk as you in this forum so whenever you're feeling blue, know that you have support. I understand its better to have local support because being in the presence of others is way more gratifying than through the interwebs. Hopefully the local support group pans out for you and you're able to connect with people you meet in the group. I wish you all the best and know exactly how you feel but we can't give up and let depression keep us down because if we do that then we'll never be able to get back up. Hang in there, you got this. =)

Don't think so but I'm not entirely sure. I hear good and bad things about piercing your clit. You have a good chance of losing some sensation down there. I've also heard of some women getting over stimulated. Its up to you but I would read up on it first.

Good point Adrial. I'll try to work on myself before looking to share who I am or my being with someone else. =)

I'm really sorry to hear about all the terrible things that have happened to everyone. On behalf of men everywhere I apologize for those few who have hurt you and wronged you in the worst way. I don't understand why people lie and cheat especially if they themselves have had it done to them. Its never easy getting over the fact that you have herpes because now your standards are even harder to get met with those in the H community. I'm trying to work out my emotions as well right now. I feel really alone because I don't really have any reliable friends and I still have feelings for my ex who pretty much wants nothing to do with me after contacting each and expressing feelings for one another a year removed from each other. The only thing I can truly say is to hold your heads up high and persevere. Thats all anyone can really do. It is tough, there is no doubt but you will get through it and you will find that special someone in your life. Believing is part of making things happen and not just always working hard. As the old saying goes...When the going gets tough, the tough get going. =)

It sucks having a high sex drive while being diagnosed with herpes...I would like a relationship but I know I'm not ready for one yet. I am a human being after all and we have our needs...just sucks that its so much harder to find someone to hook up with because of my condition and not to mention I'm not the most handsome guy in the world. Uggghhh sorry to sound like a creep but I just need to vent.

I think your best bet would be to get tested...its never easy but at least you know for certain.

Thank you for your words of encouragement. I'm glad to see I'm not the only one that feels this way. I wish you both luck in finding others with whom you can relate in a local scale. =)

Anyone else feel real lonely? I know its not necessarily about me having hsv that makes me feel this way but it does play a part in it. I guess its because I don't have a lot of friends, they either have moved on in their lives or they're busy. Plus its hard to relate to people without herpes. And then theres the whole me not being over my ex...GD emotions...and then when I get bummed out I start putting self doubt into my head like if I'm making the right choice by going to school for something I don't have any background or prior experience in. Sorry for sounding like a sourpuss just...ugghhhh...hate feeling this way and am venting. Hope everyone else is having a good day or things are going well for them in general. =)

Hi-O! My name's Daniel and I've recently became a member of this fine community not too long ago. I was diagnosed with hsv 9 years ago and have been dealing with it ever since. I don't get outbreaks like I did when I first got it and it no longer bothers me as much as it used to. I don't know what else to put here. I'm from NJ...I'm 28...um, I don't know if you're interested in talking, I'll be here. =)

see thats what I thought about hsv 1 & 2...they're the same virus only occurring in different places.

O.o are you serious? What a douche...you're better off.