*sigh*.... Hearing this from you as confirmation makes me feel much better. I'm just a ball of nerves. I've had such a hard time with all of this. The last guy I told right out of the gate, but I had known him for 25 years. It was easy to tell him my story. And that was before I even had any of this information! Whew! I was in a terrible abusive relationship with a monster who had convinced me that nobody would ever want me and I was disgusting. He cheated on me over and over and abused drugs and I stayed bc I felt like it was true. Who would want someone with herpes. But I didn't realize then these things that my OB has told me and you have confirmed for me. Even though I still feel it is right to disclose this information, being able to say that it is just on my back and not 'down there' kind of makes it easier to put on the table. Up until now, since the old friend, I had decided to take a vow of celibacy. I don't want to do to someone else what was done to me. I really care about this guy and I'm trying to take things as slow as possible, but we have such chemistry!! That's a good thing, right? I hope that once I give him the specifics he can get past it. If he can't, then it will hurt, but I will understand as I wasn't given the choice. And honestly, he is the kind of guy that I pray we can at the very least be good friends if nothing else. I want him to be happy more than anything! Isn't it a wonderful feeling to care about someone so unconditionally?!? My life is NOT over! I have a wonderful child and I have a wonderful life! If he can't handle it, then he just simply isn't the one.... Now if I can just hang onto that courage when I do have 'the talk' with him! Thanks Adrial!