Hi,
I got drunk and had a one off encounter with someone who disclosed after the fact.
We made out and then clothes popped off - she gave me oral and then I placed protection on. We had sexual intercourse and after wards I took the condom off.
She laid on top of me for a while and then I left. Afterwards ( the next morning I got a disclosure text stating she had herpes and had it for 12 years - she stated she New he’s body well and hadn’t had an outbreak in over a year). I asked what type - she stated she didn’t know - she only knew she had herpes.
I of course was immediately in shock - and the anxiety train cranked up. The next day I was at a dinner party - felt like absolute shit - BUT after arriving home and describing my symptoms - my roommate confirmed he had the same thing -
que temperature taking religiously and checking my downstairs for any suspect bumps, cuts - you’ve heard it.
So feel tinglies and ball itches and gut pain for the next 3 days with loose stool - still same thing for my roommate - so I’m thinking all in my head.
The next 2.5 weeks is me - anytime I feel my underwear touch anything and feels scratchy sprinting to the bathroom and checking business out. Balls were red and itchy all over - no lesions. Redness is still there (maybe I never realized how red my balls were?)
Anywhoo - here is the thing - I went to concerts - went jogging - did lots of stuff - went on dates. When I wasn’t thinking about it - never ever felt anything. Also - when I took clothes off and was naked - NO ITCHES EVER. Chill in bed - sit and watch a movie - whatever and no itches or tingles at all - hence why I think it’s my anxiety or something bacterial.
que three days ago - sittin on couch feel a tingle on my lip - uncouncioualy scratch - felt strange. Check my face - three red blisters below my nose above my lip - tingles and burns. Been checking my temp and low and behold - I get a low grade fever (.5 above normal). After 4 days slight temp dissapears. To be clear if I have HSV1 on my face - it’s a homerun - in the sense that it’s the easier one to disclose and the majority of people have it (socially and mentally this one would be easier)
i had one cold sore two years ago in my face - and of course never had it swabbed - going in Saturday to get checked but - here we are at 20 days - no more itching - never got to painful and when distracted never felt the itching.
What are your thoughts?
to be 100% honest if I got it - I got it - nothing I can change. More worried because me and my 12 yr partner are on a break and this was MY FIRST ENCOUNTER! Going back and letting her know I hmgot aomething might just destroy the relationship.
You can be brutal and honest.
thanks