Sumshine

Hey you definitely did the right thing by disclosing. Better late than never! Kudos to you for getting the nerve up and doing the right thing.

Happy New Year everyone!!! Let's make it a good one!

I've disclosed for 41 years. Lost my husband close to 4 years ago whom I also disclosed to many years ago (over 30). Once I disclose, I feel I've done my part. I do, obviously, do my part to keep them safe, however, if anyone was to aquire it, I'd feel 100% that I did all the right things and everything I could to avoid passing it on and would not beat myself up over them acquiring it.

Never mind. I found it. I can't tell you how many people I've helped with thus fact sheet!

I lost my husband of 27 years 3 and 1/2 years ago. I disclosed to him and he told me he'd be the last person I'd ever have to tell, and he was until he passed. I've had this 41 years and have disclosed more times than I can count. I am a female, I keep myself in excellent shape (not sure if that has helped) and have never had an issue with the disclosure. I am about to disclose to somebody that I met recently. I will do it matter of factly and give him the transmission information right from this site. He will either accept it or he won't! And I will move on either with him or without! I'm a very blessed woman. I have amazing family and friends and my life is completely full! I'm happy to have a companion to experience life with, but I'm also happy to do things on my own. Life is exactly what we make it!

And just think......one out of 4 of all those people who ridiculed you, have herpes!!! I think that's the stats. Good grief! It's hard to believe there are that many ignorant people out there!!! I've had this 41 years and have disclosed countless times and can't believe someone would be so deceiving. My late husband said he'd be the last person I'd ever have to tell, and he was until he passed. I recently had a relationship with someone who actually had H too. We no longer date, but I'll be disclosing soon to another man I've recently met. I just tell them mater of factly, answer any questions they have, give them the transmission facts right here from this site and move on! Best of luck to you in your future!

Wow! I'm so sorry it didn't work out! I've disclosed my entire adult life (got H at age 23) and really never had anyone say no to a relationship. Having said that, I got H over 40 years ago when there was no internet!! So, I definitely think the internet has hurt the H world in that there are so many horror stories out there about Herpes! It scares people! In reality, you don't ever die from it!!! My late husband loved me so much that when I told him I had H, he just said "can't you put a bandaid on it?" Lol!!! I said "yes, that would be your condom!" He ran to the store, got condoms and we never looked back! 27 years together (25 married) and he never got it from me!

I'm a weight lifter for about 25 years! H does not ever interfere with my lifting!

It's not the end of the world!!! I've had H for 40 years. Had an awesome marriage to my late husband. We were together 27 years total. 2 living together and 25 married. He was H negative! He never got it from me. Get control over your life and move on. It's not life threatening! It's not going to kill you! You have a child to raise! Go out and have a good life! It's what you make it! Life goes on! I'm dating again 3 years after my husband's passing. I'm building my dream home! Move forward my friend!

The transmission rate female yo male is already lower than the other way around. Use lubrication to reduce friction during sex, the male can wear a condom. They reduce the risk even more. Condom plus antiviral puts the risk at like 2%....that's very low!!!! I've never passed it on and I've had hsv 40 years!

I've read that right here on this forum over the years. Also, Terri Warren speaks of it in her book The good news about thd bad news"

I don't think that's H. Did your test come back neg?

Hi! My late husband never aquired my hsv2 and we were married 25 years plus lived together first. Once I told him of my status and we talked about it, he said he'd be the last person I ever had to tell. We had him tested every year. We had oral sex most of the time (transmission rate is less than 1% to his oral cavity that way) and who doesn't like oral!!! There are ways around transmission. You can get him to read the book written by Terri Warren called "the good news about the bad news." She's an expert on H. She's had many relationships with men with herpes and has never gotten it. It's a small book and sn easy read. If he continues to bring you down, I'd tell him "if you can't move past this, then you need to move on!"

Thank you!!!

Hi! The download for free handout isn't working. I get a notice saying it has gone to my email and it never goes to my "correct" email or spam folder. Thanks!!!!