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  1. You could have gotten H prior to marrying your husband provided you had sex with others before marrying him. It can lay dormant for years and its possible you never passed it to him. I never passed it to my late husband. Or, if your husband didn't specifically ask for the herpes test to be included in his std testing, they could have excluded it. That is very common, I have no idea why
  2. @NJRunnerMomI totally agree with you. I plan to use conventional dating as I feel like you do. If they are into you, H doesn't matter
  3. @JuneBSorry for the delay. In the first 15 years I did not use anti viral meds. The last 10 years, I did. We were very careful. He had absolutely no problem using condoms which was entirely his choice and we also had more oral sex than anything (who doesn't like that) whereby the transmission rate is almost nothing orally
  4. Hi! It's extremely rare to get hvs2 orally.. I'm mean, the risk is something like 1%.
  5. I'm a veteran 35 plus years. I should know all there is to know lol.. however, it does seem that I read that the longer you've had H, the less you shed, but I can't seem to locate that answer. So, the question is: does the virus she'd less the longer you've had it aside from anti-viral meds. Thanks!
  6. "Positive singles" and "Mpwh are the most popular. You don't have to post a picture, but it definitely helps. There is a feature that allows people to apply for access to your private photos at your discretion.. in other words, your photos can remain private! I think this feature is common on most online dating sites. I just want to reiterate, I got this at age 23.....I'm 62 now. Conventional dating with disclosing was the ONLY option. I had numerous, steady relationships prior to meeting my late husband. I've had a wonderful life full of travel, beautiful home, excellent career, wonderful family and friends! I may also say that there's no reason to tell anyone about your status unless you are sleeping with them. It's really no one's business unless you want to share it.
  7. I'm sorry this has happened, but your life isn't over! You'll be just fine and you will find someone who either has H or who doesn't care that you have it. I've had this a very, very long time (35 plus years) and have found that there are a lot of decent people on the H dating sites!!! After all, we are all good people!!!! I would suggest trying it, but don't just limit yourself to it. I married a herpes negative man who has now passed, be he didn't care about H because he was so in love with me. It happens! He never aquired H from me after 25 years and we had a fantastic sex life!
  8. Are there any new topics on here from this year or am I navigating this site incorrectly? Thanks
  9. Have you tried switching to acyclovir?? I would definitely give it a try. I started on Valtrex about 10 years ago as my first experience with antiviral (I've had hvs2 for over 30 years) and I had constant prodrome symptoms on valtrex. I switched to acyclovir and never had another outbreak or any other issues
  10. My late husband of 25 years never got H from me. I've always disclosed as I've had ghs2 for almost 35 years. I've never passed it on that I'm aware of. I've remained friends with most of the people from my past. The right person isn't going to care about H
  11. I was married to a wonderful man for 25 years who didn't care I had H. He passed away March 31st 2020. He never aquired it from me. There are plenty of people who aren't going to care about H if they care about you. That's the bottom line!!! He loved me and never even mentioned H other than to say " I'll be the last person you ever have to tell." I'm still young and will definitely be disclosing my status as I have since age 23. If someone doesn't accept it, they aren't the one!
  12. Don't beat yourself up over it. The chances of you passing it to him is extremely low given how long you've had it and you used a condom. I never passed this to my late husband of 25 years. We had him tested yearly. When he comes back, sit him down and tell him. Don't cry or freak, just tell him. Also, tell him the chance if him getting it was extremely low. Are you on anti viral? If so it was only 2% risk of him getting it from you. Just educate him and see what happens.
  13. So, I went to Terri Warren's question and answer forum and found the answer to my question. I was almost sure I read in her book, that I no longer have that if you only have ghvs2 you are highly unlikely to ever aquire oral or ghvs1. So, now we know lol. Thank you for responding though. If you go to her forum and pose this question in the search box, it will take you to her answering this exact question
  14. Thank you! I'm asking because a potential partner has 1 and 2, but has never had an outbreak and has no idea if his hvs 1 is genital or oral. He's never had a cold sore.
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