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  1. @hHelp yes you are correct a canker sore is not a cold sore. They are not considered contagious. However I don't know if you would want to kiss them anyways since it is quite painful. Also for your benefit of healing someone else's saliva might not help your open wound in your mouth since human mouths have a lot of bacteria. I had a canker sore recently and read theories that is can be linked with HSV and EBV because of the immune system, but I didn't find any good proof on it. Mine has taken a week to start going away.
  2. Hi @Completelylost I'm so sorry for the emotions you are going through, it must be very difficult. Mr. Hopp also gave you some wonderful advice. I remember being very devastated as well. I'm glad that you have found this site and are reaching out for help here. Are you also going through an outbreak? That can make the stress a lot worse. Once symptoms go away and time from diagnosis goes away the feelings subside. Your life is precious and I don't think you should let herpes make you disregard that. It is a virus, and there are millions of viruses on this earth, some would say it is the largest species population. We just have a virus within us but that does not change who we are. If other people feel they have to judge because of it, then I would say they are fairly ignorant. I hope you can seek counseling in your area or perhaps a neighboring town or city because the way that you are feeling is not good for you. Sending you love, all of us are here and working things out at the same time with you, so you don't have to feel as alone. Maybe try watching Ella Dawson she does a really great inspirational talk about normalizing herpes. Hope you feel better and reach some support. If you are still feeling desperate please reach a suicide hotline and maybe they can help you with your emotions. Maybe it could help to talk to someone who is anonymous and is experienced talking though difficult emotions. So I just want to leave that number if it feels like a good resource for you. National suicide hotline tel:1-800-273-8255 hugss!!
  3. I'm a female in her 20's It all started with my ear hurting slightly and coming and going with a sharp pain. I had fevers for three days and then decided to go to the doctor. They said I had slight fluids in my ear so I was given drops. Three days later I went to urgent care for a burning sensation in my labia. The doctor visually diagnosed me with genital herpes. I got a swab and was prescribed aclovir. I was in complete shock. I didn't know much about the virus and could not believe I had an std. I was with my first ever sexual partner and he had been tested, what happened. While like many people his tests did not include herpes (this was very frustrating to find out after the fact and led to a lot of what if feelings). I also was lacking proper sexual education. I always had protected sex, but not oral sex. (Oops guess that is not really safe) Half a week later I noticed a sore throat which I learned in another weeks time that it was mono (ebv, another herpes virus, super fun). So I had mono and HSV-1 outbreak overlapping. Thankfully the outbreak took a week to go away and was greatly helped by rest (I was lucky to have the week off, which is when I took the time to do research and obsess about information about herpes) I had an on and off slight fever for about two weeks when it was all said and done. Epsom salt baths, and lots of care by a loving partner. At first my diagnosis with herpes left me devastated but then the exhaustion of mono took over. The mono lingered for a month and has made me very tired and my left side sore. It has driven me the most insane in my anxiety. All this stress on my body for a month. I bit my lip on accident recently, but instead of healing like it normally would it turned into a canker sore that has taken a week to start feeling better. Some days I feel postive while others I feel sad and hopeless. Also, after two frustrating weeks of calling the urgent care after getting my first urgent care diagnosis, I learned they lost my lab sample from my herpes swab (basically because the lab forgot about it for a week and by then the culture is not viable) which was infuriating for me and did not help me in my mistrust in the medical system. I had to learn that I had herpes from my partners positive hsv-1 blood test that they got after I had my outbreak. All and all I really have appreciated being able to read about other people's experiences and watch videos from people like Ella Dawson who give me hope and made me feel normal. I also liked reading in women's health an obgyn who was living with herpes. I don't know what I'm trying to convey here, maybe just I am here and if you read this you are not alone and it is going to be okay. It has been rough, but not impossible. Things do get better with time. Im hoping in writing this I let go a little more of the fear, pain and anxiety that this virus has cast upon me.
  4. Hi @Jenny333 I'm so sorry for how you are feeling, it can be rough especially since it is so recent. I know how devasting it feels. Maybe if you could afford going at least once or twice a month that would be good? A lot of herpes is a mental battle. Well herpes is not going to kill you so I would say it is better than cancer, and that is one thing to be thankful for. We are totally human ans this virus is just thing normal human thing to go through. I know it is hard to see that right now because of the pain. It is very common and you are not the only one. I got it from my first time having a partner (protected sex and I'm a virgin) so it was a shock for me as well. I have felt better with time and by being able to talk to people. Stay strong, sending love and hugs your way. ๐Ÿ’“
  5. As for your boyfriend not getting those tests after you asked that is a real bummer. I would feel hurt by that. The thing is that that actually was the case with me too, but I knew he had somewhat recent std tests. It seems like the most simple and basic request for it right? I felt like it was his fault as well as mine. So part of me felt regret not being firmer even though it all wouldn't have been prevented because we wouldn't have thought of to ask for herpes in the panel as well (because it was not already in the full panel which we found out later) Be sure to be gentle with yourself through this time. We can do all the what ifs in the past but it won't change our present, I know that can be challenging because we think we could have prevented things if we acted differently. As for your relationship you know what is best for you and I hope you find someone to talk to.
  6. I can't elaborate too much more on it since I just remember it being something I came across when doing my research. However I have read swab is more accurate than igg tests. I have read more about blood tests being affected than swabs so I don't know, it may be less likely with a swab. All I know is that it would be type 1 affecting 2 results and not the other way around in the cases I read about. So I would probably think the swab is accurate, but if your boyfriends results are contradicting then I would have suspicions. I have also read anything in the range of 1.5-3.5 is considered to be within a less certain (but again I know this to be true for blood tests and not the swab) I have been more focused on the blood test because the doctors actually lost my lab culture for my swab. I do know the swab most accurate during the first outbreak. Also I am no expert And my knowledge is limited, I just wanted to exchange with you what I've read. I also want you to know you are not alone! I don't know if you have read the Westover Heights forums, but they have questions people have paid for to get answered by a RN who specializes in herpes.
  7. Yes this happened to me, it went away usually after a day ( after the sore popped I am guessing) it just depends on how many new lesions you get. I think the espsom salt baths are good, I heard also it is good to blow dry after (I did it that)
  8. Well your boyfriend has already accepted the risks and he is aware of the possibility so that is a good thing. You are right that the transmission rates are lower but I don't think it could be said that it is impossible. However I would say that herpes will usually not have post nasal drip because it is not characteristic of it.
  9. If you can I would maybe visit the doctor again for piece of mind. I had fevers (mild) for two weeks and could not live without ibuprofen for a while. However during the second week I started to get a sore throat. I went to the doctor and got diagnosed with EBV (mono, which is another herpes virus) Hopefully you are not getting anything else and it is just taking a long time to recover. I would only be worried if your fevers are consistently high (101 and above)
  10. Hi @Kat15 first of all I am sorry, I know that must be a super bummer to get diagnosed again after already being diagnosed with gHSV-1. Well your test in April could have been negative since you just got infected and you did not have the HSV-2 antibodies (since you need 16 weeks since an infection for more accurate iGg blood tests) . I would wait for your boyfriends results to see what his say. I have read that HSV-2 results could be affected by HSV-1. So if your bf As for telling people I think this is really helpful! Family is always tricky, even though mine is loving and I think they are accepting I am scared of any judgement that is possible for my boyfriend ( he didn't know he had it never had symptoms, std full panels don't test for it, we might have had oral sex knowing anyways blah blah blah) also side note I have gHSV-1. What I found when I told my friends (and I made sure it was my more open minded ones) they were very willing to listen and did not judge me, they felt for my pain. They are sexual beings too! Just like me and you. The thing is that this virus could befall on any of us. I usually educate them on the knowledge I have now required on herpes as an STD but also a virus. Most people are happy to listen and they usually know nothing about it. Most people also don't know that herpes is actually a family of viruses with chicken pox, shingles, mono and a couple more. I like including a bit of education when I talk about my feelings so that people know where I am coming from. I also want my friends to be educated so they can make more informed decisions regarding std tests in the future since doctors don't advocate for it. I think that it is easy to feel mad and you will want to think in the past but I would think about where does the relationship stand now. Obviously you feel blindsided and decided by this event. Did you ask him to go get tested before? It is irresponsible if he did not get tested. If he has the financial means and access to healthcare there is no good excuses. On the bright side if you stay together you never have to worry about giving it to each other, but that is no reason to keep you together. Also if he had it and never had symptoms maybe you would have felt there would not be as great of a risk? I know I would have been extra cautious and worried already having know of a HSV-1 diagnosis like yourself. I don't think it is weird at all to say you are holding a secret because you are! You are holding this shame and fear inside you. Unfortunately that is a normal reaction, when this should be seen as common virus that it is. I think you have made good progress towards healing since you posted here and are sharing. I hope either advice posted to you or stories you read help you. Warm wishes for your health and journey, you will get through this. <3
  11. The discharge could be from the sores, yes this same thing happened to me. The antivirals could help your body fight the virus. I am sorry they gave you no info, that is very upsetting, my doctor didn't really either. One of my favorite handbooks to read for info is the Westover Height Clinic handbook (free to download) and forum (free to view not to ask). The answers to all the questions on the site are by an RN who specializes in herpes. Maybe you can find cases and answers similar to yourself. I hope you feel better.
  12. @Lostgirl12https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC266403/ this is a link that tells you about a study of HSV testing, but it will show you generally HSV-1 will be more likely to generate false negatives than HSV-2 (they know it is false because they found the HSV 1 through another test the Western Blot, which is more accurate but expensive 226$) If it is a recent exposure it is recommended to wait 16 weeks from the infection date to test for the antibodies so that they have time to develop. You can get it through aymtomatic shedding, and kisses on the cheek are possible but I think the chances are unlikely but it could have happened. I have learned a lot from this website forum: https://westoverheights.com/forum/ They also have a handbook that is free and helpful ๐Ÿ™‚ also this new partner, do you know they don't have it too (have-1 oral) many people have it and they could without knowing it (estimated ~70% of people I believe) I would tell them so they know. Me and my partner didn't know he had HSV-1 until he got tested after I had an outbreak genitally (most likely from oral sex) (also it is a shame they don't test for HSV 1 in most full STD panels) He had no symptoms and never had symptoms. However I have yet to get it orally, but knowing all this know I would still make out with him, it won't stop me! So it is possible to spread it without symptoms but I think also women during oral sex could be more vulnerable to the hsv-1 asymtomatic shedding in the genitals. I'm no expert but I've been doing a lot of reading. but doctors are experts so if you can ask a doctor ๐Ÿ˜‰
  13. Kp07, after your outbreak did you learn that you had mono? Just curious since that is what happened to me. hope you are doing well now!
  14. Well the question is have you had unprotected oral sex? (This is how I got it) Because then I would it say it is most likely that is how you got it, but it is possible for it to go the other way as well. This website was really helpful for me https://westoverheights.com/forum/
  15. I'm so sorry about the pain you are going through, it is miserable but there will be an end. You could try doing an Epsom salt bath, it specifically helps nerve pain which is where the herpes lives and what causes the pain. After the bath I would blow dry on low. I learned this from people of the forum and it worked for me! Peeing right after was also less painful. You could try peeing in the bath, or what I did was buy gloves and spread myself apart by holding the outsides of the labia (without touching any sores!! Very important). This helped to keep the urine off of the sores and it would burn far less. Also just different angles of peeing. I know you don't want to pee, I know that feeling, but it is really important to stay hydrated because if it is herpes then you have a virus. Drinking will help your body fight it. Herpes can live in people for years without symptoms, so it is possible I think. Also do you have oral sex, because you can get the same herpes (hsv-1) genitally. Obviously you have to wait for your results, but your doctor did not perscribe you antivirals? Did they tell you it is probably herpes from a visual diagnosis? If they did not maybe you want to go get a second opinion if you can. I got diagnosed (visually) and given medicine in urgent care before my results could come back. As as for your questions I found this site to be extremely reliable in regards to information, and they even have a handbook! https://westoverheights.com/forum/ Everything seems awful but you can and will get through this.
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