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  1. Im in the same boat. After being rejected by him because of his lack of knowledge (his own words) we decided to remain friends. Part of me wants to educate him more but I don't want to look like I am trying to convince him to change his mind about me. We have hung out since the discloser and it was difficult for me not to go back to how things were, kissing, cuddling, flirting.....so I have to ask myself if this is something I am ok with. It sounds like you have been friends with this guy for some time now. If you are ok with having no other expectations then what he is offering then I say go for it. Just be honest with yourself. That's what I am trying to do as well....
  2. LOL, thanks for the laugh. Yes, well said...he just wasn't that into me. Bum deal but I will get back up, I have to! I am already feeling better. I need to be more consistent about logging on to this sight. Just having the support makes me able to breath again. Thanks again everyone that posted on this comment!
  3. Yes, I was born in 77 :). The big 40 may be here sooner then I want, yikes! I appreciate everyone's input. I woke feeling some what better but went back down hill as the day progressed. I can say that I was confident in disclosing, both times. In fact this time felt like I was reading him my grocery list, like it was an every day discussion, and I definitely made him aware that it wasn't a big deal. I did send him a text this morning explaining if he ever changes his mind or wants to become more educated to give me a call. That he is a catch and I really liked him. His response to my text "I liked you too! You're a strong woman, and a catch yourself. I really thank you for telling me." His reasoning for not wanting to continue, he is in the dark about it all. I did provide a link for him to look at and I am not sure if he did or not? My thought is he liked me but not enough to put in the effort to learn about H. I will definitely be providing more info in the future. I did tell him to NOT look at the google images, as they are worse case scenarios. Thank you WCSDancer for the links and video. I am going to look at them asap! I think it's best for me to take a break from dating. I need to get back to my happy self....I feel like I have lost some of my spark, something I really liked about myself.
  4. I haven't been on here in awhile. I posted awhile back about disclosing to someone and how well he took it, unfortunately he decided a week later that it was not something he could live with. Hit a low and it took me awhile to get back on track, and I did. Now I am in the same boat. Just disclosed over the weekend to someone new, we had been dating for almost 2 months and I was ready to have the talk. He just called me today to tell me he is really bummed because he liked me a lot but he cannot get past my H. I feel so discouraged, I honestly don't know if I can do this again. What I can say is I was very confident on the phone while he told me this, even though I was dying on the inside. I hear all these success stories but I feel it may not happen for me. I don't like to be a negative person and need to be talked off the edge.....I feel alone today.
  5. Thank you Sabrina for your post and everyone for your responses, as I just recently went through the same thing. He was fine with everything at first but after much thought told me his life was far to busy for a relationship, which I took as he couldn't deal with the H. I took it very hard and personal but told him I respected his choice. My discloser went fine and we even dated for awhile after wards and were intimate. I am glad you got some closer, it always helps to be able to move forward. :) I thought about sending him something as well but since it's been over a month I think that ship has sailed. Moving on......
  6. I am sorry to hear about your discloser with a friend who decided not to be supportive. Do not let that discourage you from talking to friends/family about it. I love what kpeace says above "Honesty is your greatest ally-it can open up a world of love you didn't know existed." It's so important to keep smiling, loving yourself and moving forward. You are still the beautiful, smart, funny, loving and so much more women you were before all of this. I sometimes forget that I have HSV2, I love those spurts, but I do have my days. I have disclosed to two partners since I found out and neither have rejected me. You will get there, I know it!
  7. Aiko, same thing happened to me. He refused, refused and refused to get tested and show me results. I go excuse after excuse as to why he couldn't go to the Dr's. Said he was clean anyways and it must of been someone else? I don't think so, like you I was always careful but who knows...it was very frustrating to say the least and to me seemed extremely fishy. I ended up cutting communication with him and dealt with what had happened. I hope your guy comes around for you, especially if he loves you. Maybe give him some time to process what's going on. But in the mean time, like Adrial said you are NOT disgusting!! Head up! :)
  8. Shay, I understand where you are coming from and thought that exact same thing when I was approached in the beginning. Take those numbers, make a friend and get to know people. If you feel like you want to tell them, do. You have control over who you decide to share with and when:) I have had H for a little over a year now and disclosed to two people and neither of them rejected me. The first relationship didn't work out for other reason and the second guy, whom I am dating now didn't even bat an eye. Stay confident, keep smiling! Your still you...a beautiful women with so much to offer.
  9. Emma, I am with you. I have had it for a year and get at least one outbreak a month. I have pinned it to my womanly cycle, unfortunately. So I don't know how to lessen mine because it's something I can't control. I hope your outbreaks lessen over time and become few and far between.
  10. I am fairly new to this forum and thought I would share a story I recently experienced. I know reading other positive stories has helped me tremendously!! So I want to contribute in hoping to help others. I had met someone whom I was interested in about a month ago. UGH...I thought, because I knew this meant I would have to disclose down the road. Great date after great date...the time was approaching that I needed to say something. So last night I decided it just had to be done. Before I go into how it went I want to first say if it wasn't for this site I may not have been as confident while disclosing. Herpes has really taught me to love myself and all of my great qualities, It's such a great feeling :) I wish I didn't have it BUT I have come to accept it. It doesn't define who I am. So, back to the disclosure story. He made me dinner, we watched a movie and just had great conversation. I am such an easy person to read and he knew I had something on my mind. So, here goes nothing I say to myself...."I found out 1 year ago that I carry the herpes virus." I was so nervous and fidgety! He calmly asked "what does this mean for us?". I proceeded to answer his questions and we discussed it for a few minutes and he told me it didn't change the way he felt nor did it change his attraction to me. What a relief...the elephant was out of the room! I ended up staying the night :D!!! Regardless of how things turn out for him and I, I know I will be OK! I left with my head held high and a smile on my face. We already have plans to see each other again :). I want to say to everyone who is having a difficult time dealing with herpes. Please keep smiling, do not let this change who you are as a person. I went through my struggles when I first found out, I was devastated to say the least. But I didn't want it to ruin my hopes and dreams. Being myself and enjoying life is how I met this wonderful man, it's what attracted him to me. So continue to be that wonderful person you are and that's who you will attract, someone great. Hugs to all!
  11. Noel, you took the words out of my mouth. This site has been a life saver for me. It has offered me so much hope. I actually feel like myself again, which I love. I like me!!!! :) so thank YOU for posting this.
  12. Now I am excited and can't wait to disclose! Thanks for your insight :) Staying positive is really my savior and hearing all these positive posts just makes it so much easier.
  13. Wow, I never thought of it that way. Your right, it's definitely not about the herpes.
  14. What a great read! Thank you so much for sharing all of this, it is very touching and inspirational.
  15. Hello everyone! I am new to this site and 1 year in with HSV2. I would love to have a buddy to talk with. I don't have a preference as to male or female. I am a 36 year old female in Washington. Hope everyone is enjoying there weekend! :)
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