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  1. Thank you. I left work early today because of my anxiety, but I’ve also been under the weather with everything going around. I appreciate it though.
  2. So... recently, it was brought to my attention that my herpes status has been made aware to some of my co workers. I have no idea how some of them know, and no idea why my name was discussed in the manner for my status to even come up. I was seeing someone not too long ago, and he was made well aware of my status by ME, and accepting. We were not exclusive, but co workers knew we were seeing each other. This may be my fault for sharing my “happiness” and seeking advice, as they may not have know that we were seeing each other. However, a co worker took it upon her self to drunkenly approach this guy I was seeing, at a bar, and let him know that I have herpes. Not once did this woman come to me to ask or discuss anything, she went straight to him assuming that he did not know about my status (I tell everyone that I am intimate with; everyone, period). I am appalled and highly upset that my health information was even being discussed by people who have no business discussing it, let alone not even verifying the accuracy. Whether or not I have herpes, that is no ones business but mine and the person I am seeing. If she felt that I was being “sneaky” she could have came to me, and I would have of course explained my sexual health is NONE of her business. He called me of course, to let me know what happened, and he swore to me he did not say anything, which I do believe because he’s a pretty private person. I can only guess the information was dispelled by someone I was previously intimate with, and that is extremely disrespectful on so many levels. I am embarrassed, but I stopped to think about “why?” I have done nothing wrong; I shared my status with EVERY necessary party, and did not tell anyone in my workplace my status. I have changed my work schedule to avoid working with the individuals who discussed my personal business, and I have considered going to HR if I hear anything about this at work. I was afraid this would happen to me eventually, if I am being honest, and I see why people choose not to disclose, because people cannot act maturely, and realize that herpes is not something that needs to be stigmatized, or made fun of. I am upset that I can’t even go to work without fear of my medical information being disclosed. It sucks because I’m a good person, and the fact that I’m being defined by my herpes status is one of the most hurtful things I have ever experienced in my life. I chose not to have a mental break down, although I did have a panic attack I when I found out, I realized I have to take care of my daughter, pay my bills, and graduate from college in a few months, I don’t have time to break down. I’m a good person, and the people discussing my information will reap what they sow. For anyone going through an outing in the workplace, personal life (which has also happened to me), I feel your pain deeply, and these next few weeks will be difficult for me, but I’m definitely trying to stay strong, and when I walk into work, I will speak to no one and do my job, and go home, because now I’m just “the girl with herpes” to them, but to my daughter, I’m a loving mother, and to my friends, I’m just me, and that’s all that matters.
  3. My situation may be different from others, but I have read on here that others are having tingling and nerve pain either here and there or often. My situation is a bit different because it seems my tingling and nerve pain seems to start when I’m stressed, not had enough sleep, anxious, etc. I have chronic anxiety, so I’m always anxious, and lately I started taking my medication for anxiety again because my panic attacks have started increasing. I feel it is linked to the new guy I am seeing, and my fear of giving him herpes. I get this way in every new relationship it seems (if they do not already have it) I am so nervous to give it to them that I overthink, stress out, then I’ve also not been sleeping enough, recently catching back up in my rest. Just when I start to feel a little better, I start to have anxiety again and the sensations come flooding back. Sometimes my panic attacks get so bad that I feel like I intensify that pins and needles feeling, and it starts to feel like my skin is burning. I know this feeling is not a forever thing because it’s happened to me before and I was able to eventually calm down and it went away in about a month to two months. This time it’s lingering, and I think it’s because I’ve been stressed for the last three months. You guys aren’t alone in this, but I haven’t seen any posts about those who deal with anxiety and herpes because anxiety is a mental illness battle in itself, let alone adding herpes to the mix, your body will do all sorts of crazy things when you’re stressed out. I hate medicine but started taking my anxiety meds for the sake of my sanity, and my relationship, because this man is wonderful, has the same goals and visions in life as me, and accepts me for who I am, and accepts the risk of catching herpes from me, and you don’t find good men like this every day. I see a future with him, and I’ll be damned if I’m going to let my anxiety reck my immune system any longer, and keep flaring up my herpes. If anyone else deals with anxiety, OCD, depression, bipolar disorder, or any other mental illness that flares up their herpes, please feel free to message me, I’d love to support, as well as have support from other who go through what I go through on a daily basis.
  4. Thank you so much! I have been so anxious and stressed about it, and being cautious, and checking every day for an OB. I appreciate the information.
  5. I have been having recent prodrome symptoms upon dating someone new. It’s like I was completely fine before we started dating, then as soon as it’s time to get intimate, I start to feel the prodrome symptoms. Tingling in legs, butt, genitals. I think I’m nervous about giving it to him, as I am with all of my new partners, but the symptoms are a continual reminder that I have it, and he’s fine with it, I’ve told him all about it, but I’m still anxious about it. My question is, if I’m having prodrome symptoms, but taking my meds, and we use a condom, and I have NO outbreak, is it okay to have sex? I only ask because this prodrome phase is coming and going for ab a month now. Also, I have been very stressed, and I notice when I am calm, relaxed, and not feeling anxious about being intimate with him, I have no symptoms, if not very small symptoms. Also, what can I do naturally to keep the prodrome phase at bay, as I very rarely actually ever have an outbreak, it’s just the prodrome symptoms.
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