sunseaandsand

I feel that the main reason for not telling this person is the fear that they will judge you. Consider the kind of relationship you have with them to help you make the most suitable approach. I have been in a similar situation (sex with no condom) and had terrible anxiety because I felt I had betrayed the other person by not disclosing beforehand. I did end up telling him after a few weeks and received a positive response: he only wanted to know if it was harmful to his health and if there was anything he needed to do. I explained that it is highly unlikely that he contracted herpes, and that it wasn't a big issue health wise. The main reason I felt I needed to tell him is because of the level of guilt and anxiety I had that he could potentially have herpes symptoms and not know where they came from or how to deal with them. At least if he knew it was from me he would have a support system. Unlike my experience, where am still searching for a support system. It also made me feel so much more at ease with myself, as though a burden had been lifted. I think the best approach is to just say it and not expect acceptance or rejection and be open to have a conversation about it. ps. Am still learning that last part.