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  1. Hi everyone, I got diagnosed a year ago with HSV2 genital and even though it's been a year since my diagnosis I'm still struggling with the fact that I have this and there's nothing I can do about it. I was always the type of person who cared about my health, probably too much, I would always go get checkups and get tested twice a year. Even if I had slight cold symptoms I would go to the doctor. I take my health very seriously. I was never (and I'm still not) the person to have one night stands and I honestly still can't believe this happened to me. Anyway, I'm looking to forgive not only the person who gave this to me but also I need to forgive myself. Last year I got back with my ex who I had been apart from for 6 months and based on the times I got tested I'm almost 99% sure he's the one who gave it to me. He got tested as well and it came back positive. He didn't know he had it but when we were apart I found out he had unprotected sex with someone, I found this out after we had gotten back together and had sex. He assured me he was clean and the person he was with was clean (despite not getting tested) because he had never had any symptoms of an outbreak and he told me he used a condom, even though later on I found out he didn't. He has apologized to me numerous times and deep down I know he's sorry but that still doesn't change the fact that he lied to me and I'm stuck with this horrible disease. I feel so stupid and naive and I really let my love for him cloud my judgement. I take an antiviral daily but I still get an outbreak once a month around my period and lately I've even getting outbreaks on my upper and inner thighs. I almost feel like it's getting worse, I don't know if that's possible. If it was an "out of sight, out of mind" situation it might be easier to get over but since I'm getting outbreaks monthly I'm constantly reminded that I have to live with this because there's no cure. How do I get past this and really forgive myself?
  2. Hi @SD1990, I’m really sorry to hear about your situation. I’m kind of in your situation but on the opposite side. My boyfriend gave me genital HSV2, he didn’t know he had it and we are currently still together. I found out about a month ago. I’m not sure how much longer our relationship will last because it wasn’t that stable to begin with but the same thoughts are going through my mind like how many guys will reject me now, how many will be nice about it or down right rude about it. I don’t want anyone to look at me like I’m disgusting. I really commend you on being so considerate about her feelings and her future, it seems like you’re a really nice guy. What I can say is that genital HSV1 isn’t as bad as HSV2, there’s less likely to be outbreaks. Also if she takes daily antivirals as suppressive therapy and she uses condoms from what I read there’s only a 2% chance her partner could get it. Also if her future partner already has oral HSV1 (cold sores) I don’t believe he could get it genitally as well, you might wanna fact check that though. I think it would be nice if you guys could continue to support each other as long as it’s healthy and jealous feelings don’t come about if you start seeing someone new or she does. I really wish the best of luck to you!
  3. Thanks so much @Catlady5000! Could you elaborate on HSV-2 results being affected by HSV-1? I was wondering about this myself because I know the swab test and IGG tests are very accurate in detecting but I’m wondering how accurate they are in distinguishing between the types. My swab test came back positive for HSV-1 and HSV-2 at the same time so that would have to mean in that one spot I had an outbreak of both at the same time? I didn’t even think that was possible. My doctor said it was though. As for my boyfriend, I haven’t had sex since I’ve been diagnosed and I don’t plan on having sex with him until he gets his results back and we can see what’s going on. He doesn’t have health insurance through his job but he makes enough money where he can afford a full STD panel test and he didn’t go even though I asked him to 2 other times before now. He kept saying he would go but just didn’t actually go. That’s very irresponsible on his part but also mine since I trusted him and he didn’t have any apparent symptoms so I can’t fully blame him.
  4. Hi everyone, This is my first post on this site. I feel like I have no one to talk to, only my boyfriend knows so it would be nice to talk to other people about how I feel. A part of me really wants to tell my closest friends or my mom but I just fear that they’ll be in shock and never look at me the same again. I don’t want to be treated like a leper because that’s how a lot of people view people with herpes. It’s sad but it’s true. Anyway, here’s my story, I’ll try to make it as concise as possible. Back in 2015 I was diagnosed with HSV 1 genitally. The only outbreak I ever had was my initial outbreak and I took Valtrex 500mg daily for about 1.5 years as suppressive therapy and then just decided to stop taking it because I never got any outbreaks. I really felt like I didn’t even have herpes. Fast forward to July 2018, I kept having this recurring vaginal fissure (little cut below the vaginal opening) every time I had sex. It also happened back in April of this year. I just thought my skin was weak or not properly lubricated during sex so that’s why it was happening. I decided to go to my gynecologist and see what he thought and if there was anything I could do to keep this from happening. He looked at it and said it was a vaginal fissure, gave me some cream, but also did a swab test to test for HSV2. He said he didn’t think it was herpes but just wanted to do a swab to be sure. I got my results back a week later and the swab test came back positive for HSV 1 (which I already had) and HSV2. I was completely devastated, my stomach dropped and I felt like I was going to throw up. Now I have both types of herpes?! I went into a state of panic. I went back to my gynecologist and got a full std panel done and got an IGG blood test because I really just wanted to confirm that I had HSV2. It came back positive with a value of 3.02 so I guess it’s a pretty recent infection. I’m still so shocked because I got an IGG text for HSV 2 in April and it was negative and another one in September 2017 and it was negative and I’ve been with the same person since September 2017. He swears he hasn’t cheated on me so I guess he just didn’t infect me until he was shedding or something? Idk. He also went to get tested because he noticed he had some bumps and they did a swab and IGG blood test. He’s waiting on his results but the doctor is very certain it’s herpes and she already gave him Valtrex to take daily. This may be wrong but I can’t help to be a little mad at him and I even question if I should stay with him. He didn’t know he had herpes but he’s always been very ignorant when it comes to his health. He doesn’t go to yearly checkups, doesn’t get tested, he just assumed he was clean because he had no symptoms and because I’m clean. He did say he had a bump one time when he shaved but thought it was an ingrown hair because he actually pulled a hair out of it, who knows. I make my health a top priority and he doesn’t so it just angers me. Anyway, I don’t mean to rant but I’m just trying to cope with this all. It’s been about 3 weeks since I found out I also have HSV2 now. Some days are better than others but some days (like today) I feel depressed and I have anxiety. I still love myself and accept myself, I’m just afraid others won’t. Now I just feel like I’m harboring this horrible secret, is that weird to say? Thanks for taking the time to read my story, any advice will be greatly appreciated 🙂
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