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sorry guys, I made it really quick so I didn't explain myself. I had HSV 2 for 9 years now, and my new partner and I started dating just a few months ago and yes, he knew about it from the get go. I am on suppressive medicine, but to be honest, since I am on it I am having more outbreaks than before, or at least the sensation that one is about to come out. but I got on the suppressive therapy when we decided to give it a go at this. We always use condoms too and I drink lysine everyday. and of course we don't do much when I feel somethings is up, which is pretty often nowadays. He is not the type of guy that will start reading about this or get on the forum (i already gave him all the links and details) but I would like him to get tested, so we know what we are dealing with and also I would like to go and see a doctor the two of us to get all the facts on what am I doing wrong or what else I could be doing to keep him safe. That is all I want, to keep him safe.

Hi guys, I want my partner who is hsv negative to get tested and also to get the right advice. I want to go with him and get advice myself on what else I can do to protect him. I am doing a lot of things but I am a bit paranoid and I think he could have contracted the virus, which if it is I will hate myself forever. i am not sure what else to do so I really need to see someone that really knows this stuff and who is also friendly and understanding.Do you guys know a good herpes doctor in the dc metro area? please help me, I need to take care of my partner and I don't know what else to do.

Thank you WCSDancer!!! I will give a try to Ammonium Alum and see how I go. I am now on a good day and I hope it is stays that way. I have only 8 days to go and I will start a 36 hours trip to see him :).

Hi Guys, Well this is a mix of a success story with some medical questions in the mix. I wrote not long ago that after 10 years of a relationship which gave me herpes I was out ‘courting’ with an ex boyfriend who was way too unpreoccupied with the fact I was H+, so I was doing all worrying for him and I even considered not continuing as I just didn’t want him to take the risk, I love him too much. But some words of advice from the forum and my friends who all know I have herpes and also are friends with this guy gave me some new strength and we continued on. Now the story is a bit complicated since we live thousands of miles away from each other but we had a little romantic escape in December for which I was prepared by starting my suppressive treatment 2 months in advanced. My doctor told me to take Valaciclovir 500mg per day which I did. So on our very short week together things were more than amazing, we actually let go and had such beautiful sex. I had never felt so sexy before in my life and we gave ourselves entirely to each other (pardon if I can explain myself very well, English is my second language after all). We did it with condoms and the suppressive medicine minimizing the risk to 1%/ The thing is that half way through the week I started to feel a cold sore coming. Last time I had one of those was probably 8 years ago when my dad past away. And if I had something in between that time and today must have been minimal as I cannot remember it. Surely after the first tingling I had to cancel all kissing and also the sex because although I didn’t feel anything down there I knew the virus was active. I blamed the Outbreak to the stress of meeting up, the long hours of flights, the cold weather in the US and the whole lot of kissing that was going on. And even though I tried to cancel the OB with acyclovir lotion it seemed this one just wanted to run its course. So I came back home with an OB and a horrible full on flu that left me in bed for two days. My defences were definitely compromised. The problem is that this was over 2 months ago, and I am about to see him again meeting this time in South America, were I am to meet his family, oh boy... yeah this is how good is going (I may even move to where he is pretty soon). But my cold sore seems to want to stay and live on my lips forever. The first one in December got cured after that I did a bit of waxing and since that time there is a tingling going on and all the sudden during the day I get redness and that area even feels numb sometimes. I have combated it with the 500mg per day of Valacyclovir, the acyclovir lotion and I also started drinking ½ teaspoon of Lysine powder with water per day. But it is still there. It seems to calm down for a few days and comes back again. I went to see my doctor a few weeks ago when my lips looked like they were on the healing stage from and OB that never got to happen and she told me to keep doing what I am doing but now I am really worried. Is it really going to stay and live on my lips like this? What can be causing it? I never used to get them and all the sudden it doesn’t want to leave? What else can I try? I have 10 days to go until I see him again. Thank you for your help in advance.

Hi there, I am about to start my first relationship after the one where I got herpes and it is pretty nerve wracking. The guy in my life is just the sweetest and more loving person I've known and it is 100% in trying with me. Even when I was doubting as I didn't want him to take the risk he never backed down. So I am trying to make sure that whenever we finally do it I do everything I need to to take care of him. I am now taking medicine daily and condoms will be used at all time and not sex during outbreaks but I am having a problem with the viral shedding part. I am not sure if it is because I am constantly thinking of this but I feel like I have the tickling and all the symptoms of when an outbreak is going to happen although I haven't had one for a while. So I wanted to know if there is any instant test I can do to know if the virus is shedding. I think I read somewhere about a test kit but I can't find anything else anymore. Any ideas? On another subject, did you guys know that Dr. Ian Frazer from Australia is having positive trials on a herpes vaccine? they are still on initial trials but they seem to be going very well. Dr Frazer is the same one that gave us the HPV vaccine, so that should give us more hope :). Thought it was something good to share. Thanks a lot,

Thanks for taking the time to answer me and for putting things into perspective. I thought I let some time pass before I wrote again just to have a bit more to reflect. Things are going really great with this amazing guy. Unfortunately we live 15.000 miles away or something like that, but we are working on moving closer to each other very soon. But as you imagine no actual sex has happened which gave me time to research and reflect and I sent him a pretty long email not long ago with all the information i could find so that he can make an informed decision and as predicted he is pretty much 100% on board. He being, the great guy he is, said things like if we love each other we shouldn't let anything keep us apart, especially not this which is not a big deal anyways. So now all I am focusing my energy on is in making sure I take care of him while also sharing an amazing time. So I am researching a bit more and I will add another discussion with this question but just in case, is there any type of test I can do to know if I am shedding? Thanks again, and I hope I can soon be able to write more on our success story.

Hi guys, So this is my first post ever in any forum whatsoever. I have had herpes for about 8 years now. My partner of 9 years gave it to me, he didn't know he had it. Now our relationship has come to an end and well it is the first time I am realizing about the implications of this condition in my life. In general, I am not worried of being rejected, I know that if someone doesn't want to take the risk they are not rejecting me, they are rejecting the virus and that is OK, I don’t take it personally and I know it must be a difficult decision so no problems there. My main concern is in accepting that someone would like to take the risk. To be more precise I am sort of starting a relationship with an old boyfriend, we dated for one and a half years. Because of our previous history it is a very special connection we have and I don’t need more time to say I really really care for him and all I want is for him to be happy and healthy. I know he has strong feelings for me too. Even after 10 years of separation and the fact that I broke up with him and he still wants to try again. Now, he knows that I have the condition and that hasn't stop him from reaching out to me but I don’t think he understands what is all about and although I will do everything possible to make sure he understands before making the decision I am kind of worried that he may want to take the risk but I won’t. Although I feel a bit more at ease after reading the information on this website and knowing that there are many ways to avoid him contracting the virus I still think that I would not be able to live with myself if he gets it. And let’s face it there is still that 1% chance of him getting it that won’t let me live in peace. To add to the drama I have HPV too, I mean... how bad does this guy has it? I don’t know how to handle this. I really love and respect him and I would love to see him a happy man either with me or whoever he chooses. But if I love him how could I ever take the risk of giving him this virus? What if down the track he wants to part ways and he is way to depress to start a new relationship because of this. I can’t do that to him. He is the most amazing person I know and I have this immense love for him not just romantically, I love his whole being and he deserves Heaven on Earth if you ask me. I have already broken his heart before, doing this will be just unbearable for me. Has anyone gone through something like this? Or are any of you with a non-herpes partner? How do you deal with you allowing your loved one to take the risk? Thank you so much for reading this.