Yes indeed I totally agree and every case is different. I do though think that the often quoted statistics about condom effectiveness both for unwanted pregnancy and herpes may be a little misleading as it is likely to be based on an average of typical condom practice over their samples. It is likely that condom “practice” may well be rather reluctant or casual and careless in many cases and that would skew the statistics compared with somebody who uses condoms with a much more proactive and determined attitude! But absolutely no doubt, frankness and open communication is of course the basis for keeping your partner as safe as possible.