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  1. VA2121, For what it's worth, I did fall in love and intended on marrying the guy who gave me H. I knew what I was getting into as he told me right off the bat he had a wild sexual past long ago. He'd been tested many times for STDs but little did he (or I) know, Herpes isn't included in those tests. I remember thinking .... it's a miracle he didn't get herpes 🤔. We agreed that no matter what garbage life threw at us, we'd handle it all together. If I knew he had herpes I still would have stayed with him. That's love. Alas, the relationship didn't last. My hope is that one
  2. Hi All, I'm in a similar situation. I've been positive since 2016. I thought I'd never date again and this led to profound sadness. I did date again, and disclosed when things were getting intimate. He didn't seem to care but there were other issues so I ended up letting him go. Two years later I took a chance and went out with a guy and we hit it off spectacularly! We were so similar you'd think we were raised together, and we had the best fun. After two or three weeks of dating we both wanted to be exclusive. No sex yet, I did disclose. He asked me if I was only contagious w
  3. Hello, I took Valtrex for a year and that completely took care of the outbreaks. I still keep it around for the occasional (infrequent) outbreak. Deep breath, one foot in front of the other. You'll get through this!
  4. There really is no way to know for sure, since herpes can lay dormant for months or even years before you have an outbreak. Really it could be from either.
  5. Cantgetoverthis, I homestly believe that everyone can cut off the cycle of negative thinking. Including you. It takes practice! No one is good at something they're unfamiliar with until they try over and over. When my brain was in a utter storm and I couldn't turn off the thinking, I used a free app called prana breath. Essentially you follow the directions for breathing exactly. It takes a lot of focus, and you do it only for a few minutes, but while you are focusing carefully on the app's directions you're NOT thinking of the catestrophic thoughts your brain is constantly marinating in.
  6. Hey there Cantgetoverthis and All, To give you hope, I want to let you know that I've had H for maybe two years and my life is great! I developed H near the end of a relationship. Both the diagnosis and the loss of the man I loved left me shattered. Fortunately, I'd gone through tough times before-breast cancer left me with reconstructed boobs. They're not bad but naked you wouldn't mistake them for the real thing. So going forward I was very self-conscious of my body and sure my love life was over. What man would be turned on by my Franken-boobs? I put my sights on making the best
  7. It is possible you don't have herpes. If you were miserably uncomfortable one day and totally better the next, yeast is much more likely. She treated you for yeast right (you were o. Diflucan, not Valtrex or Acyclovir)? Unfortunately herpes is tricky to diagnose.
  8. So sorry for the pain you're going through. It does get better though, if you do the work that needs to be done. You already know what that is: love and accept yourself. No one's perfect (NO ONE!) , and in that sense the H doesn't make you special; you are no less deserving to feel loved than anyone else. When you are ashamed you give off the vibe that you're unworthy and that's not only just flat out wrong, but it drives away potential romantic partners. You are worthy of the love of a good man. A man who would reject you based on your H status doesn't deserve a wonderful woman like YOU.
  9. I could be wrong but I think the IgG is the gold standard. If you've had an outbreak and a positive IgG, well that'd confirm it.
  10. Yeah, acyclovir wouldn't work if you had the outbreak for more than a few days. Overall (and for the future) I think Valtrex works better than acyclovir, ateast it does for me. Maybe go on suppressive therapy? Any stress, including happy wedding stress can trigger an outbreak. If you want au naturale, I use tea tree oil down there and it keeps the outbreaks at bay. I bet it'd help your ulcer heal quicker.
  11. Step 1.) make a doctor's appointment then keep it. Step 2.) spend time reading all you can about herpes (this site is great) Step 3.) live your life. Call a friend to have coffee with. Do something fun with your kids. Buy some flowers. Left root right foot, keep moving forward and know in the end it'll be okay 🙂
  12. Loyalloulou I can see you're suffering terribly and my heart goes out to you. Your stress level is through the roof right now. Please understand when that happens your body creates a stew of chemicals that your brain marinates in, and therefore your thoughts become disordered, unreasonable, and even dangerous. And this is what's happening to you right now. Your kids cannot get herpes from cups and silverware that you've used, and they can't get it from the toilet seat either. About 20% of the population carries the herpes virus. Look around you, at the people you see on the stre
  13. It seems to me most people have had a cold sore or two some time in their lives so most people (not all) do carry the HSV 1 virus. And yes you may have been exposed but that doesn't mean you'll get it. If he has a good immune system and didn't have a cold sore that time time it's less risky...but the risk is still there. Try not to get too hung up on it. Cold sores are easily treatable with meds if you get started right away. You should always take proper precautions when having sex though, always.
  14. Hello, if you test too soon your blood tests can come back falsely negative. I believe it takes at least 12 weeks for the igg to turn positive. We're your sores tested?
  15. My first outbreak was painful but subsequent ones much less so and after about a year I've had none (although I was on suppressive therapy for about 6months). I think my story is pretty typical. . If you take care to keep your immune system strong, you're more likely than not to have few outbreaks that won't be as painful as the first. Your BF was very brave and honest and you could've walked away but you didn't. This speaks very highly of both your characters. H is really very controllable; the worst part is the stigma and that's only an issue if you buy into it - - DON'T! So go o
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