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Ishmael last won the day on January 6

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  1. How do you decide when it is God's actions or yours (or that of someone else) that are responsible? You say that God wasn't responsible for your herpes, but that you were. He didn't make you get involved with your giver. But then, when you managed to meet someone else and he was accepting of you, it's not you or your partner that did this, but God bringing him to you. How does that work in the one case and not the other?
  2. I'm curious for believers who had their faith shaken by herpes: was your faith not shaken by the fact that the same God allows for things to happen like children starving to death or dying of cancer?
  3. I haven't read this whole thread, but you need to calm down. You have a responsibility to your partner to disclose before engaging in sexual activity that could infect them. That's it. He wasn't at risk, so whatever. Disclose before sex, but don't beat yourself up over making out or giving someone a blowjob. Dude should be extremely grateful, TBH.
  4. You need to stop doing this, both for you and for the other people that you are going to freak out by doing this. Have you had the Western Blot yet?
  5. As for your larger question, people can be together for years without transmitting the virus and that's without using condoms or anything else.
  6. Getting drunk and then crying about it is 100% not the right tactic here my friend. I'm not saying that to lecture you, but I want to be real with you about how that comes across. It makes it look like herpes is something that is messing you up and that you're not ready to deal with it or be in a relationship with someone. Whether or not that's true, that's how it's going to look to the person you are disclosing to. I feel like you already know this, and that you'll take a different approach in the future. There is a very good chance, however, that this guy is just closed off to the idea of dating someone with herpes. Sometimes that's all there is to it. That's not on you and there is nothing you can do about that. For your next disclosure, try to be clam and confident. All you can do is be honest with someone and hope that they respect that.
  7. Yay! And I hope you told him that yes, you can still totally have kids (if that's what you want)!
  8. Very glad to hear this is your mindset going into this. This is a very healthy way to think about it. Please keep us updated whenever you feel ready and good luck!
  9. Sorry to break it to you, but you don't have herpes.
  10. Read it like disclose by text? I would do it verbally and then give them the info to read and make yourself available if they have questions. There is a good hand out on this website. Also, keep in mind that they might need some processing time and some alone time before figuring this out. That said, you know you and you know this person better than anyone here, so advice is just that: advice. Are you dealing with HSV 1 or 2?
  11. Like so: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4824300/
  12. You can do it! Remember to remain confident and assertive! Also, if they need time, give it to them and give them the information you have so they can inform themselves. Tell us how it goes!
  13. HPV for 5? HPV doesn't stay in your system forever like HSV. It usually clears in 2 years. How are you getting tested?
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