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Ishmael last won the day on January 6

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  1. You need to stop doing this, both for you and for the other people that you are going to freak out by doing this. Have you had the Western Blot yet?
  2. Ishmael

    Could long term parters test negative

    As for your larger question, people can be together for years without transmitting the virus and that's without using condoms or anything else.
  3. Ishmael

    Could long term parters test negative

    No, this nurse is completely wrong.
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    Getting drunk and then crying about it is 100% not the right tactic here my friend. I'm not saying that to lecture you, but I want to be real with you about how that comes across. It makes it look like herpes is something that is messing you up and that you're not ready to deal with it or be in a relationship with someone. Whether or not that's true, that's how it's going to look to the person you are disclosing to. I feel like you already know this, and that you'll take a different approach in the future. There is a very good chance, however, that this guy is just closed off to the idea of dating someone with herpes. Sometimes that's all there is to it. That's not on you and there is nothing you can do about that. For your next disclosure, try to be clam and confident. All you can do is be honest with someone and hope that they respect that.
  5. Yay! And I hope you told him that yes, you can still totally have kids (if that's what you want)!
  6. Very glad to hear this is your mindset going into this. This is a very healthy way to think about it. Please keep us updated whenever you feel ready and good luck!
  7. Ishmael

    16 weeks post exposure to HSV2

    Sorry to break it to you, but you don't have herpes.
  8. Read it like disclose by text? I would do it verbally and then give them the info to read and make yourself available if they have questions. There is a good hand out on this website. Also, keep in mind that they might need some processing time and some alone time before figuring this out. That said, you know you and you know this person better than anyone here, so advice is just that: advice. Are you dealing with HSV 1 or 2?
  9. Like so: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4824300/
  10. You can do it! Remember to remain confident and assertive! Also, if they need time, give it to them and give them the information you have so they can inform themselves. Tell us how it goes!
  11. HPV for 5? HPV doesn't stay in your system forever like HSV. It usually clears in 2 years. How are you getting tested?
  12. The same way I do and the same way everyone else who does this does this. Also, did you actually get your hearing tested? Because when I did, no actual hearing loss.
  13. A lot of these don't scream herpes and having them all in conjunction and without a cycle of outbreaks and full abatement also doesn't. I mean you've got herpes on your groin, herpes on your penis, herpes on the outside of your mouth, herpes inside your mouth, herpes on your eyes, herpes on your butt, and herpes in your central nervous system. And the symptoms don't really come and go, there is always something happening. Like, you don't go a few weeks without any symptoms. That's some powerful herpes. Not only that, but this powerful herpes is undetectable by tests that detect herpes. Next level, all the time/everywhere herpes with stealth power. What is does scream to me, and to at least a couple of the doctors that you've spoken with, is health anxiety, which I recognize because I also suffer from it. You sound like a guy with a rash, dry skin, canker sores and bad case of hypochondriasis.
  14. Ishmael

    What are the odds?

    No way would he have a sore the next day. Like, not physically possible.