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Thanks Adrial! My Dr. Office is closed till tomorrow morning so I plan on calling first thing. I am already on suppressive medication so I upped my dosage to what they had me taking during my initial outbreak 5 years ago. I never had it swabbed the first time this happen 5 years ago because my dr at the time was so sure it was Whitlow considering the timing. Thank you for these links! I will keep you posted on what happens tomorrow :-)

Brenda, This was the nicest, sweetest, most thoughtful message ♡ Thank you so much for taking the time to write to me. I appreciate everything you had to say & definitely have a lot to think about... ♡

Agreed Adrial!

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Aiko, I'm so glad that some of the tips are helping! The worst is almost over, & once this passes you'll be feeling so much better. It's definitely harder to stay mentally positive when your physically feeling so shity. To be honest you sound like you're handling it pretty well :-) There will be ups & downs for sure. I will say that ironically being diagnosed with hsv2 made me healthier... I stopped smoking, started working out again & started eating healthier. It also made me a lot pickier about the type of men I allowed in my life. Definitely helped weed out the men from the boys ;-) Having hsv is life changing for sure BUT it doesn't have to be all negative :-D Keep your head up! ♡

so I think I'm having my first outbreak since my original one 5 years ago :-( and its showing up on my hands! during my first outbreak, about two weeks later I started getting bumps on my hands. That is when my doctor told me about herpes Whitlow. with my already paranoid non herpes positive boyfriend this is the last thing I need on my plate right now :-( does anybody have any experience with this? And if so any and all information about not passing it along to him or anybody else as I am a nanny for my full time job :-( if I touch something and somebody touches after can they get it? What about caring for it? I need help!

Agreed!

Omg orngpeelmafia! I almost said that about the blow dryer! I used the cool setting :-)

So true Adrial! And as far as your question, I don't know :-/ it's definitely something I've been struggling with and asking myself more & more. I think the more serious we get, the more I wonder... & obviously the harder it gets to walk away. I feel like I'm gambling & anyone that knows me knows I'm not much of a gambler normally. I guess time will tell! I'm not ready to give up quite yet but I know I'll have to decide soon as I would like to get married & start working on a family with the next 2-3 years.

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Anytime! If you ever need/want to chat, message me anytime :-)

Hey Shay :-) the way you feel is completely natural and normal. I felt the same way for a long time. The good thing is, I don't feel that way anymore! I would say the more you educate yourself on hsv2 the better you'll feel and the more you talk on here & read other people's stories the better you'll feel too! You'll realize that it's not as bad as you're thinking it is right now. Is it something that anybody wants? No not really :-) but it's definitely not the end of the world like you're feeling right now and how I felt in the beginning as well :-D

Hey girl! first and foremost, stop crying! :-) easier said than done I completely understand... Secondly yes it does get better :-) Third, a little trick for when you pee because I thought I was going to die every time i went b during my first outbreak... this is going to sound weird but, pour cold water on yourself at the same time while you're peeing, it helps dilute the urine and it won't burn as bad... <3 also you can ask for a "numbing cream", that helps a bit as well if they have it. everything you're feeling is completely natural, and normal. But just know you are definitely not alone! As far as your boyfriend goes, he definitely could have not known that he had it... I was in a long term relationship when I had my first outbreak. We had been having unprotected sex for almost a year at that point. naturally he went and got tested, and he came up negative which means I had it before hand and never knew :-( thankfully even tho we had been having unprotected sex for a year, he never got it from me. Obviously you loved him enough to have unprotected sex with him even though you haven't with anyone previously & I'm willing to bet he probably loves you too. It won't be an easy conversation to have but you're going to have to tell him and he'll have to get tested as well. Keep your head up and just know that things will get better and everything will work out.. just try to stay positive and ask as many questions as you want, we're all here to help each other through this :-)

Thank you all for your responses! :-) I did end up talking to him a bit about it some more the other night and I shared with him some of the information on the site about how using protection and me being on medication etc makes me so much less contagious and also about how there's only a 1% chance for hsv-2 to be passed on to him orally if he was to go down on me... He basically said he felt like those calculations weren't corret (Did I mention that he's an accountant/thinks he knows everything/ research minded?) and that he'd have to do more research to confirm that that stuff was correct...I tried to talk to him about how its not as bad as the stigma makes it seem, that technically it's just a skin rash... He said yeah but one that continues to come back and I told him well for some people yes but like he already knows I've only had the one initial outbreak, so for some people that's not the case... I was basically trying to make him realize it's not very harmful & his retort was that I could blind my kid? and I don't know if he meant my baby by giving natural birth? or what he meant by it BUT I was so upset that my response was "yes because like most people, I'll be playing with myself and then go rub my kids face"... i know i know, Not super mature but I just don't know how to get through to him! and unfortunately I think that no matter what he's always going to feel the way he feels about it... it's frustrating because I know he's done a lot of research on the topic and now he thinks he knows everything there is to know... as far as his fears, I think for him the thought of having anything "wrong" with him is the issue. Having this "disease" is not an option for him... And yes Thirdstar, all of what you said!

First off...Thank Goodness I found this site last night! I have been reading a lot of stories & it's so nice to not have to feel so alone. ***Warning this is super long*** :) So here is my problem. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now. I told him about having hsv2 after about 2 months after meeting him (hardest thing ever, I was scared sick). At first he didn't think he could continue being with me as more than friends, which hurt but I completely understood. Eventually he changed his mind & decided I was worth the risk..sidenote: since I contracted hsv2 almost 5 years ago I've only had the one initial outbreak & he was adamant about me getting retested which was obviously pointless. Anyway, navigating our situation was pretty hard on me at first. I went on medicine right away and take it daily to make myself less contagious. Then he decided to come up with ways to make himself more comfortable about being intimate with me. Ex. Wearing protection obviously, always wearing boxer briefs when we have sex so there is no skin to skin contact & last but probably the hardest for me, he always wears rubber gloves to touch me (like Dr. gloves). I was so upset the first time he suggested wearing the gloves. I felt disgusting, awful, mortified, embarrassed & I cried a lot. In the beginning he was getting tested so often his insurance wouldn't approve it anymore. He still is constantly looking for information on a vaccine or cure. Maybe not as often as he did in the beginning though. We recently just bought a house & talk about getting married & having kids eventually. I asked him one day how we could have kids if he's too afraid to even touch me & he basically implied we would have the Dr's do it with his sperm :-( I finally asked him a few days ago if he could ever see himself being comfortable even to touch me without gloves if we were married & he said honestly he wasn't sure. Can you imagine how this makes me feel? I love him so much & besides this things are pretty great. I just don't think I can spend the rest of my life with someone who is afraid to touch me without gloves on & possibly never sleep with me without protection even if we are married. I feel like I can't really say anything & feel guilty when I do because I feel like I'm basically asking him to put himself even MORE at risk. :-/ I don't know what to do.. any & all advice PLEASE! :-/