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use*gloves

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  1. Hi GG, Welcome here, I am new here also, although I have been a club member for 35 years. I am so sorry you have just been diagnosed. If I recall correctly back to when I was first infected, until your body adjusts, the outbreaks will rage on with no rhyme or reason for a while. Even as the Earth formed, it was a pretty hostile environment, I like to think of it in those terms. This thing came from somewhere, somebody got it first and as is the case with all infectious diseases, until there is a terminal medical response to the virus (and there seems to be some hope in the near future) take the medication. You already know some of the triggers, that's good. When I got this, there were no smartphones, no internet and no Valtrex. Hell's bells, the microwave was something people thought the Queen did. Your station in life doesn't make you immune from the virus, that's why there are medical professional members here with a lot of useful information. I've learned more in 24 hours than I knew in 35 years. The suppression meds are a good idea. My doctor told me a couple of years ago, while convincing me to take Valtrex, that transmission was possible without an outbreak unless you are doing your best to keep the virus under lock and key. He didn't mention homeopathic remedies, just the "blue pony" (Valtrex). I, like you, ride it every day. I shared this curse with someone I cared for deeply, shortly after being diagnosed. Not my finest hour and an unforgivable tragedy. I've had H long enough that it finally settled down and only once every year or two I would experience lengthy, painful outbreaks lasting 4 or 5 weeks. I knew when the virus was getting ready to go on stage as I had extreme pain in my groin, like being kicked there. I always found that humorously ironic. I find now that I go along pain and worry free unless I stop taking the medication and the outbreaks will reoccur within a day or two. I work in remote locations as written in another post, so once in a while, even with planning ahead, I run out of medication. I've accepted my situation and recently (2 or 3 years ago) accepted the advice of a doctor and take the suppression medicine. I won't every get over what happened to me and wouldn't wish it upon anybody else. We can only choose to be well informed and vigilant not to keep it going, by passing it on. Keep the faith Sister. Sorry if this sounded like I was preaching, not my intent.
  2. I am new here, thanks for accepting me. I really wanted the user name "Let me introduce you to my little friend", but the computer can't type in a bad Cuban accent "Mang" I know I am not the only one with this curse, as a sweet girl passed it along to me. I never discussed this with anybody or shared it with partners as my first few forays into being honest were humiliating. I was married 8 years and in another relationship for about the same. Had I passed it along to my wife, she would have most likely killed me, literally. After dating off and on 4 years, I thought she was cool and wanted to marry her. Her instability, temper and drug use she kept under wraps until a month or so after "I do", is why were are not an item now. This is not a forum for bitching about ex's......moving on. I am a 35 year "veteran". Slowly I am purging the mental train wreck that is associated with contracting herpes. I know when the OB is coming, I feel like I've been severely kicked in the groin for a couple of days prior. I always found humor in the irony of how appropriate that discomfort was. A few years after getting this curse, I met a girl I really liked. We were both in our mid 20's. We were inseparable and I even hemorrhaged money for one of those huge 'new' cellular telephones so we could stay in touch when I was out of town. Getting back home and "catching up" included her "catching" what I had. I was devastated, I wanted to end my life painfully, like stepping in front of a subway car, but that involves hurting more people for my misdeed. I moved, changed my phone number and withdrew from society for about 5 years. I always considered this curse and the outbreaks as a painful reminder of my youthful indiscretions and to choose the path forward carefully. About 3 years ago, I got a new GP. I had an OB when he was performing an annual physical. Our post exam discussion involved Valtrex (or the generic). I explained I must pay for my stupidity and the outbreaks were my atonement. He basically called me an idiot and insisted I try valcyclovir. I only got outbreaks every year or two prior to the medicine, it seemed the curse was as tired as me or so I assumed. I tried riding the "blue pony" for 2 years and all was well. Often working in remote locations, I ran out of the medicine during a surprise extended mission and I had a steady stream of outbreaks for about 6 weeks. Let me tell you how wonderful a body safety harness is to wear during my "special time". My occasional shrieks from pain I passed off with "just getting too old for this" and "pain is weakness leaving the body". )) The mountains, remote islands and the Arctic Circle are where I generally work. There, nature doesn't care about your story. You respect nature, it respects you. The locations are magnificent and peaceful, if nothing else, it's freedom for the soul. I have been single for about 10 years. I met a stunning beauty while on vacation in Dubai a few years ago. I restrain from intimacy as I just want my little bottle of happiness to last before it inevitably will get broken and be gone from my life. We have been exchanging emails, Skype, a visit to each other and I have yet to "let go of her" and tell her. She is much younger and full of life, however I live a life of "crisis of conscience" with her, behind her back. She wants to get married but I explain that difference in our ages, which she spurns as "just numbers" have consequences like: I'll be dead long before her. I don't want herpes to be my legacy to her. It's a struggle, life goes on. Take the pills or whatever works for you to quell the curse. Forgive yourself because somebody else's lack of consideration is not your fault. If you do nothing else, do what is required for your own happiness. It's not going to be easy, nothing worth having is easy (see: "it's a struggle"). Everything gets easier with time, even living with this virus I'm eager to participate and if I can answer questions, don't hesitate to ask. I don't always have answers but I have experienced enough challenges and FU's in life, that I may have some tidbit of knowledge that you may find useful. Thanks for your time everybody.
  3. Dear Riggs, we seem to be Veterans of this curse about the same time. When I am going into OB it feels like I have been horse kicked in the groin for a couple of days. I was at a new GP a few years ago, during my annual physical he spotted the remnants of my last outbreak. Talking to me about it I told him I dont take Valtrex or the generic as a painful reminder of my youthful indiscretion. He said I was being silly and explained CLEARLY you can transmit the curse even when not in outbreak. I now have taken it for two years and feel nothing. I was diagnosed at age 23, you might be close to me. My suggestion s try some ibuprofen and see if you haven't got a case of bursitis. The ibuprofen works best on the bursitis. A medic in Iraq taught me about this when I went in with chronic lower back pain. I also apply Voltaren to the area, a topical analgesic. Keep riding the blue pony, the one for this topic)) and don't risk your partner.nI transmitted to a girl I really liked when I was 26, I was so sick about infecting her I was ready to step in front of a subway car. I lost her, naturally, then withdrew from society for many years. I have learned to forgive myself and face this curse......taking the pill daily. I stop, I break out. I keep on the pony, life is more palatable. Keep the faith.
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