Canuckgirl

@Next step I’m doing alright. Told the guy who I think gave it to me. Just trying to take it day by day.

Hi all! I don't even know where to begin.. Im 25, and I was just diagnosed and I don't even know where to begin. I haven't told anyone. I don't know how to tell anyone. I've been seeing the same guy for the last few months, we never had the talk before we had sex for the first time, but we were safe. How was I supposed to know you could get herpes still !! I don't think I've learned as much about it in sex ed or at school, then I've learnt by googling it the past few days. Why is there no fricken education on this! It's little comfort that it's common and people in my everyday life could have it and not know. I've been having troubles in other aspects of my life and finding this out was just the fricken cherry on top. At least it can't get worse than crying every night because you're in so much pain and can't sleep. And everything hurting. I don't even know how to ask the guy to get tested. I don't know if I find more comfort in knowing if he gave it to me, since symptoms developed between the 2-12 day range after the last time we had sex, even though he had no symptoms at the time (or that I saw or knew of). Or knowing I've had it longer, it's just been dormant. Who the frick knew, it's not included in regular testing. That's frustrating. I'm so fricken pissed. I'm so mad at myself for being so stupid, for not knowing I've never been tested with regular testing. For not knowing to ask about an infection that could have zero symptoms. I'm so mad that I'm so uneducated and now I'm stuck with this for the rest of my life. I know it's manageable and doesn't have to effect quaility of life. But it already is. I know I shouldn't feel ashamed to say I have it, but I am. I hate this. I'm so frustrated with myself. How do you even begin to tell people or talk about it.