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Amando last won the day on July 7 2019

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  1. Personally I think its like anything in life, what you put in is what you get back. If you try enough to date, you will succeed. I did not end up on this website because I have HSV, I ended up here because of the hurt of a brutal rejection, so I know that feeling far to well. But I am incredibly stubborn, I will not be held back by any of this shit! As others above have said, work on your own self esteem, because once you love & believe in yourself you are more than halfway there. I believe you can find true happiness with someone special & so should you πŸ˜‰
  2. Hi Lali88 I'm assuming you are talking about having sex when you have not got an outbreak going on! If I've assumed right & as you are taking a suppressant, I would say touch/be touched as much as you want. In theory If you had an OB at the time, I think its a possibility if you touched the affected area then scratched someone, to infect them but if not on an OB, & on your meds, it is incredibly low, I would guess under 1%. I get that people get paranoid, you want to protect your partner, that's a good thing πŸ‘ Good luck, have fun
  3. Never ever, No way! why should you lower your standards because you have HSV? Date the same as you always did before, the only difference is you need to disclose, if they reject you, just move on & go again! I know it can hurt getting rejected, I've been there but it never stopped me from trying again. The biggest thing is in your own head, having HSV is not a death sentence, far from it πŸ˜‰
  4. Hi Sydney Sorry you were rejected & he took the cowards way out by ghosting you but as mr_hopp & yourself have said you dodged a bullet. Although being rejected is not nice, even if the person was not right for you. But please keep going! Its the same as learning to ride a bike, keep getting back on the saddle & the right person will come along. Be damn stubborn, never give up, I promise you will succeed πŸ˜€ The very best of luck to you
  5. Hi Tay Sorry you have contracted HSV. but you have a virus that 80% of people have by the time they are 50, & it really isn't that big deal! Now I know you are only 21 but in truth if you are going to get HSV, having it orally & it being HSV-1 is probably the best option. Common sense needs to be used when you have a cold sore although you shed at other times which is possible to pass on. & Yes of course you can have children & kiss them. In fact I would take a bet that everybody on the planet has kissed a person with HSV-1 once or more in their lives be it a past lover, current lover, aunt, uncle , any relation or even a friend.
  6. You are right to feel no shame! It seems very common from reading on here that people feel shame & disgust with themselves after they find out they have HSV, Why?..... personally I have never understood this as I have never ever felt this myself. Shame for what? daring to have sex lol, I just don't get it! You are not defined because you contracted a virus, it doesn't make you good, it doesn't make you bad, you are still the same you & can still be whoever you want to be, this does not hold you back πŸ‘
  7. Hi If you have finished taking your prescription, you don't normally need anymore, it will heal on its own. I used to put cold sore cream on sores to finish them off. I would advise you not to shave until at least being clear & even then be careful & make sure razor is sharp. Wish you all the best πŸ™‚
  8. Firstly sorry that you have joined the HSV population That line is so common when people get HSV but I can promise you that it is totally untrue, There are still plenty of beautiful people who will love you for being you! Stay strong it will get so much easier πŸ‘ Big Hugs!
  9. I'm from the UK too πŸ˜‰ To be honest most of us on here were not that educated on HSV until will contracted it, I know absolutely nothing about chlamydia but I bet I would if I ever caught it. I think its about time schools educated youngsters on all STD's in a lot more detail. Personally I do see sense in not blood testing for HSV, because it is not conclusive & you could still have it if your test came back negative or vice versa, so what is the point? @WCSDancer2010 Don't diss the NHS, they are incredible πŸ˜€
  10. I have had this thing about 9 years now & it really is not that bigger thing! I can understand that people that have really bad outbreaks are going to find it a big deal but for most of us, the OB's get easier & almost stop happening. What you are feeling right now is pretty normal but it will get so much easier. When I contracted HSV, unlike many people, it did not depress me or get me down & my first disclosure went well. In fact for me the worse thing about HSV is having to disclose & being rejected. Rejection feels like shit & leaves you feeling cheated out of something! But one thing I can promise you is: you can still get married, you can still have children, in fact you can still do all the things you want to do. The only thing that will hold you back is You!
  11. I don't think there is ever a right & wrong way to disclose, it is down to the person who is disclosing to do it the way they feel best. So if the way you have done it works for you, so be it. Hope it ends in success!
  12. Hi There, Just a thought! Have you ever questioned that maybe he had HSV-2 & that's why you had a first outbreak days after last time you had sex with him? its possible πŸ€” I really don't think you should beat yourself up & worry about him, the fact that he hasn't contacted you since speaks volumes. Personally I hate people Ghosting others as I think Ghosting's for wimps but in your case I think you should wait to him to come to you. I have been in a relationship for 6 years (apart from a 9 month breakup period last year πŸ˜€) I do not take suppressants & we do not use protection (her choice) She gets yearly tests & is still negative although as we know, blood tests are not conclusive but obviously that's all we can go on. Life is too short, I know its easier said than done but try not to worry so much, its just not worth the torment it will cause. Best of luck!
  13. Hi Personally I think you should ditch the guy, he sounds like he is stringing you along to me. I don't think ghosting someone is a decent thing to d,o what ever! Then he comes back after some time & is just getting oral from you, WTF! I understand that you really like the guy & that makes it harder but you deserve better than this & this sort of emotional torment won't do you any good.
  14. Hi Cerul So sorry for your pain! Totally know how you feel & know how much it hurts. In my opinion you can not botch a disclosure however way you have done it, of course there are better ways of doing it but at the end of the day, you are telling the person, being honest & giving them the choice & that's all you can do. So don't be hard on yourself for the way you told him, if he is that great a guy he would still be there. Maybe after a while of digesting it, he may get in touch, you never know. It sucks big time when its someone you are really into, I still feel pain when I think about my rejection but these things only make us grow stronger. You will find another great person & you will find happiness! Good luck & Big Hugs
  15. Yep I do assume she is HSV negative but I was just putting it out there!
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