Over 1 week ago I got the official diagnosis for HSV2 after having my first outbreak. At first I just though it was a UTI and after examing myself I saw a lesion and thought maybe it was from the recent sex with a condom because it was super painful and dry. I have never felt so alone, sad, and disgusted with myself. I can’t even look at myself in the mirror. All I can do is cry. The person I am seeing recently tested negative but now it’s killing me to wonder who I received it from. I don’t sleep around and my partners only even been who I’ve been in a long term relationship with. I truly did not want to tell anyone but I ended up telling someone I’ve been close to for many years. Well after telling her, she declined me to come to her baby shower because she could not take the chance since “she is pregnant and that’s highly contagious.” I never felt so down after my first rejection that wasn’t even a relationship and now I am hating myself more for confiding in someone that I thought would comfort me. She tried to tell me nothing is different and that she is there for me and always will be but yet basically she doesn’t want me around her until she has the baby. Now my next thought is she won’t even want that. I tried to explain its genital and we would not be doing anything for her to be exposed. While I do understand her wanting to protect herself and the baby , it still kills me to think that I’m this walking disease and will spread it to everyone by me just being around. Or maybe she thinks me being around in her house touching things and the toilet seat. I’m a very sensitive and honest person and felt I could go to her and now I feel like I’m suffering more dealing with Everything and hating myself for trying to open up to someone. Wishing I can find the positives in all this. I feel stupid for saying anything, do most people never saw a word to anyone?