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  1. It’s probably the stress linked to having HSV-2 causing you to break out since I’m sure it can’t be actual herpes on your chin
  2. newtothis22

    Anyone had a blood test in the UK?

    @Anonymous88 I don't think I can just wait and see if they come up again because I think about it on a daily basis and it's really getting in the way of my studying and overall quality of life. It could be the stress but I'm getting a lot of spots, on my face and around my lip as well as near my pubic area (but nothing that can be swabbed). Have you heard of letsgetchecked.com because they offer an at home blood test for herpes which isn't too expensive and tells me if it's HSV-1 or HSV-2, I feel like at this point it's my best bet because I can't cope not knowing anymore. You are definitely not alone in this it's just the stigma and the fact so many people are unaware they carry the virus due to little or no symptoms. It does affect your life in a big way and it sucks that it can damage your chance of future relationships but it doesn't mean you have to give up. It may take longer but there are billions of people out there it's just about finding the right one.
  3. newtothis22

    Anyone had a blood test in the UK?

    @Anonymous88 The red spots have almost gone so I won’t be able to have them swabbed. I just have a feeling I do have herpes because I can’t think what else it could possibly be and if I don’t have any sort of test it will just eat away at me like it already is. I’m sorry to hear your story - it sounds like he was very careless. I’ve noticed an absence of men on this website and it makes me wonder whether they choose to ignore their symptoms or even diagnosis. I would love to pretend none of this is happening (the HPV included) but I would feel too guilty putting someone else at risk. How are you feeling about everything now? Have you been with anyone else since? I worry about how things will be for me in future with disclosure because I’ve never had trouble getting girls in the past so I’m not used to rejection. If I do end up having two STIs I’m not sure I could even bring myself to disclose and wouldn’t date altogether.
  4. newtothis22

    Anyone had a blood test in the UK?

    @Anonymous88 Thanks for your reply. I was diagnosed with mollusum back in summer and I agree they are really stubborn and one had remained until this month. Of course I was also diagnosed with warts but my other symptoms were not explained and it was all triggered through sex. Although they’re small red spots and not blisters I’m still concerned because herpes can have little/no symptoms. Can I ask how you were first diagnosed?
  5. I live in the UK and the only way they test for herpes is through a swab test. I had small white headed dots appear on and around my penis after sex recently which I also had several months ago but at the time it was diagnosed as molluscum. These seemed different though since they came and went within a week which meant by the time I got an appointment they were gone. I did however also have a genital wart so this was diagnosed and frozen at the appointment. They could not comment on the other symptoms because they were almost gone. The next day one of the red spots (just above my hip) turned into a boil which filled with puss, I think the elastic from my belt agitated it. I went to the doctors and told them I was worried it is herpes but the nurse confidently said it wasn't and prescribed me antibiotics. Everything is healing now and soon I'll be back to normal (minus the HPV). The question is whether I should still find out whether I have herpes by paying for a blood test. I'm not sure I can just leave it given all the symptoms I've experienced: - Back in summer I also had small white headed dots on and around my penis but these were diagnosed as molluscum - During this time a previous partner from the US was told she might have been exposed to herpes by me through a equivocal blood test but months later it came back negative - After recent unprotected sex symptoms came up hours later (aware it won't be a new infection but could be an outbreak triggered by the sex) - My lips often get small red spots or white heads above them Given this information I feel like I should get tested but I'm not sure how I can get a reliable test here in the UK. There are home test kits but I don't think they give exact iGG levels or tell you if it's oral/genital. But I also found that private clinics use the same method so it doesn't make a difference if I go in or not. Does anyone know of any reliable ways I can test for herpes in the UK which won't cost me a fortune? Thanks
  6. newtothis22

    Genital Herpes and Genital Warts

    Sorry to hear you have both. Warts can be very persistent and easily spreadable so it would be best to get them looked at as soon as you can. Mine were diagnosed just by looking at them and I had them frozen but the doctor didn’t make a big deal out of it or even mention future implications. I think this is because they are so common and don’t cause pain like herpes. I’m in a situation like yours except I’m waiting to find out if I carry herpes. I’ve resisted getting a blood test until my warts and other symptoms clear but I know putting it off doesn’t make things any easier. I am a 22 year old male and also struggling to cope with this but all I can think is life does go on and you have to deal with obstacles head on.
  7. newtothis22

    Should I seek a blood test?

    @sarahsfocus I’d have to pay for a blood test and it’s quite expensive so I’d prefer a swab test if any more white heads appear. Plus a blood test can’t distingush between oral and genital so I don’t want to be left even more confused than I was. It’s a tricky one!
  8. newtothis22

    Should I seek a blood test?

    @blurneworder I'm still unsure, I've not been told my symptoms are herpes-like by the doctor and haven't been asked to take a test it's just my own worries that are pushing me towards one
  9. newtothis22

    Date yourself... For now.

    Reading this really helped me, I am in my early twenties and have always either been in a relationship or seeing/speaking to someone as a way of validating myself. When I was feeling lonely on a weekend I would arrange a date through a hook up app, even if the girl wasn't my type I would still go and even spend the night with her just for company. I even found myself in relationships with people I didn't particularly click with because it felt good to have someone. Like @Victory_in_Defeat I found myself drawn to someone, a new housemate who I instantly knew I liked as soon as she first walked through the door. I enjoyed spending time with her and felt a connection but I was never sure if the feelings were reciprocated so I kept my distance and told myself "when the time was right". But after a drunken night I made a big mistake and slept with her friend in some weird act of jealously. I felt terrible the next day but surprisingly it lead to her admitting she liked me back. Hearing those words felt amazing and everything had finally come together. This was until the symptoms began... Red spots, rashes, warts and even an ulcer. I freaked out but I knew I had brought it on myself but had to deal with the consequences so after a week of panicking I went to the sexual health clinic. I have genital warts which will need to be frozen and I'm seeking a blood test for herpes which I believe I may have already carried due to previous misdiagnosed symptoms. Due to all of this I feel it is not right to pursue anything further with her, I had my chance before that night and wasted it. She's a great girl who deserves all the happiness in the world without someone carrying STIs. Of course I still live with her but I hope we can still share a great friendship and I can be happy for her when she meets someone else. For now I will take the advice of Keanu Reeves and take care of myself. There is more to life than sex and I only need to find one person out of all those billions to fall in love and share a family with. The time will come but for now it's all about focusing on myself. Thanks
  10. newtothis22

    HPV AND HSV2

    I know a lot of women who have faced this and they do manage to clear off the virus. My HPV is actually caused by genital warts, it’s low risk but it does mean another STI. Are you in a relationship or dating? I’m a 22 year old male and I wasn’t looking for anything serious but I would go on regular dates resulting in hook ups, of course this now has to change and I don’t know how to adjust. If I have HSV I’m not sure I’ll date again because telling someone you have one STI is enough let alone two.
  11. newtothis22

    HPV AND HSV2

    I’ve just been diagnosed with HPV but I’m also showing HSV symptoms as well so this may be the case for me as well when I get the results. How are you coping?
  12. newtothis22

    Should I seek a blood test?

    @Jenn88 Which strain of HPV do you have? There are multiple and only a few cause genital warts @sarahsfocus They don’t do a HPV blood test, just a smear test for females but this is to detect the high risk HPV which can cause cancer. Bit of a tricky one because I don’t know whether to disclose in years to come like “I had a genital wart 5 years ago” when the virus is most likely gone and most people carry it anyway. But if I have herpes too disclosing both will be very difficult :(
  13. newtothis22

    Should I seek a blood test?

    @sarahsfocus Well they found a genital wart which shows I have HPV, I think the virus can clear from the body but I will never know if I still carry it or not because they don’t test it in men I was just diagnosed by symptoms
  14. newtothis22

    Should I seek a blood test?

    @Jenn88 @sarahsfocus You’re both right it’s good to know your status despite there being so many people walking around oblivious to the fact they carry the virus giving it to people like me. @Uklad I agree that I would just leave it as that but knowing I already have HPV which will affect future relationships I may as well find out if I carry HSV as well. It’s come at a difficult time, final year of studies and just finding out the girl I like actually likes me back but being unable to do anything because of my diagnosis. Therefore I think I’ll need all the help I can get. Thanks for the kind words.
  15. newtothis22

    Should I seek a blood test?

    After having sex the other week I started having STI symptoms including red spots and rashes and white heads on my penis. There wasn’t really any pain but it was a little uncomfortable. I then spotted a wart too. I’ve been to the clinic today and the nurse said I have warts and froze them but she couldn’t comment on the other symptoms because the white heads had popped and already began healing. Herpes wasn’t mentioned but I worry that these could have been a symptom. I’m aware it takes longer to show up once exposed but maybe I already carried it and the sex triggered an outbreak? I had what I thought was herpes in summer too but the doctor diagnosed it as Molluscum. The NHS doesn’t provide a blood test free of charge so the only way of knowing would be to take one privately but even then I wouldn’t be able to tell if it was oral or genital herpes. So is it worth me taking one anyway? My fear is that if I disclose to a girl that I previously had warts, she understood but then caught herpes from me as well then I would feel terrible. The thought of having two incurable STIs scares me but what scares me even more is the thought of passing them on to someone.
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