Worrier1234

Hi, I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, but how awesome that you’re doing great humanitarian work! From what you describe, it sounds like you are possibly in your primary outbreak...which means that this should be the worst it ever gets! It’s entirely possible that the guy didn’t know he has it (a vast majority are unaware), but it’s most likely a new infection for you based on the severity. It should ease up quite a bit once your body gets a chance to build immunity. Hang in there!!!

You are the same lovable person you have always been. You are not alone! Anywhere you go, half of the people in the room with you are in the same boat! Breathe, put one foot in front of the other, keep telling yourself this is not the end of the world... it’s not, I promise... 🙂

Hi Robdarko 🙂 I think your chances of finding a great girl are excellent, and the chances of success in a relationship are probably about the same as they would be if you didn’t even know about your HSV 1. Sooooo many people have it or have the antibodies, and yes, I have dated people with HSV 1 and I have a good male friend who gets a cold sore occasionally and he’s a total chick magnet 🙂 it’s not a real huge deal, promise! At least 50% of people have it, maybe more! I don’t think you should talk to this girl’s friends. I think this would come across as intrusive, and might not work in your favor. Broken hearts suck, and they take time to heal. I know it’s easier said than done, but take it from me - do positive things for yourself, focus on yourself, and give her space to miss you. Do things that make YOU happy, concentrate on your own goals... and she’ll either miss you, or not....not by then you might not care so much about her anymore. You are worthy of being with someone who doesn’t need to be “convinced” to stay with you. Have faith that this person is out there. Love yourself first, and you will attract the RIGHT person. You got this!!!

hi there 🙂 You sound like a good guy, and I’m sorry to say, the girl you were seeing is not worth your time and energy anymore. Please don’t put the energy into someone who has blocked you and had stated she is moving on! You will find someone who will not have an issue with your hsv1 diagnosis, just as you didn’t have an issue with hers. Also, HSV1 is less contagious, it sheds much less frequently than HSV 2 and so many people , almost 50 % are also already infected with HSV1 so .... what you’ve got is not the end of the world. I hope you can take that love you feel for her and instead, love yourself the same way 🙂 There are lots of people here to support you!

Hi, I have been with my husband for 13 years, we’ve never used a condom, I don’t take anti vitals, barely get outbreaks but of course avoid contact during, and he is still negative :). when I first disclosed, his response was “do you really think I’m gonna break up with you over a cold sore?” (I have HSV 2 genital) but that’s still just how he sees it. No stress on either end :). we also had a healthy baby. Dont make it a bigger deal than it is!

Oops, I meant to ask - how did it turn out with this man? Did he test? Did he develop symptoms? Was he appreciative that you told him or would have rather have not known after the fact?

It looks just like acne to me, but even if worse case scenario it is oral HSV 2, HSV 2 rarely recurs on the face or lips, it strongly prefers the nerve endings in the lower spine and people who do get it orally (very rare to begin with) usually only have a primary outbreak and no recurrences and barely ever shed the virus asymptomatically. that’s your worse case, and it’s not very likely at all. It’ll be ok!

Yes, the first person I told actually shrugged and said “ you think I’m going to break up with you over a cold sore?!?! We will just be careful!” Guys like that are out there! ps: it’s estimated in reality probably 40% of people have it, it’s common and minor.

IHi, please don’t worry, intact skin is a barrier to the virus and unless he had an open wound, the virus can’t infect him through intact skin such as what would be on a cheek. 🙂 he will be fine should add - it requires friction of sort and contact with mucosal membranes (lips, eyes, nostrils,) or cuts and tears in skin. don’t worry!!

Hi, please don’t worry, intact skin is a barrier to the virus and unless he had an open wound, the virus can’t infect him through intact skin such as what would be on a cheek. :) he will be fine :)!