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I’m throwing this out there due to my experience. The person who gave me herpes is a male who still believes he doesn’t have it due to men not having OB as much as women do. He did not have an outbreak and I still got HSV-1 genitally which isn’t commonly found genitally. As far as my statistics I got them off of paperwork my doctor gave me as well as a credible source on the internet

For the love of god! Go next time you have a blister go and get a swab test! Those are 100% accurate! @UnluckyMan they have to give you a swab test! Don’t pop your next blister don’t put cream on your next blister! Leave it be and make an appointment ASAP!

So I know it’s painful! The fear of being rejected for something that we can’t control is horrifying. But as seen in the picture this is why it’s our moral obligation to disclose. This woman of 22 years contracted herpes and had no idea she had it. When you go to a doctor and ask to be STD tested they do not always test for herpes! You have to ask! Now most people are not aware of this but having herpes, woman can not have a vaginal birth even if you’ve never had an Ob or shown any symptoms. Due to shedding you can pass whichever type of Herpes to your baby and as a new born they can not fight it off, they’ll die. So in other words it’s so important to disclose. I’d also say I wouldn’t take the risk of having a vaginal birth even if your doctor says it’s fine.

Having type one don’t expect to have a lot of OBs. At least you shouldn’t. As far as the itching I have no idea because I’m constantly itchy down there due to having lichen sclerosis and chronic yeast infections. Ive has it for almost a year and I’ve only had my initial Ob. I think it’s the overall symptoms of your OB lasts 2 to 4 weeks. You are heeling so expect to be a little itchy down there. Also make sure your extremely clean down there as well.

Sorry I can’t sleep so I’m looking into it for you.

I’ve messaged you

I am 22 so a little younger! I’ve had it for almost a year now. I met this guy I was honest and open about the fourth date in. He had HPV and disclosed to me as well. He told me he had to think about it. An hour later he texted me that he just couldn’t risk getting another std. Then a week later I texted him over the hurt and wanted to be friends. He invited me and over and since my birthday was that Tuesday he wanted to take me out for it. That Monday he invited me over for the first time. We got really physical not sex but close. He held me and it was nice. I really enjoyed being with him. On my birthday he texted me that he just cant do it. He rejected me on my birthday after getting naked for him. All I asked was I can meet you at your place and we can go somewhere on your side of town for my birthday, would that be okay? I got I can’t do this anymore I know it’s your birthday but I just don’t want to hurt you and I can’t afford to get another std. 🙄🙄🙄 So bottom line disclose when you are ready. Rejection is always a possibility. But there are several people in my life who has it and are in healthy relationships. Im also very sorry for your loss!

Lichen sclerosus is incredibly rare so that’s why your doctors might not have picked up on it.

Same questions to you! Are you itchy? are you taking new mediciations since your first Ob? Also I have chronic yeast infections I’ve had them since I started becoming sexually active anout 5 years ago. I kept having them come up and I tried to treat them myself but they weren’t going away. Lichen sclerousus is what I got diagnosed with. It went untreated for almost 6 months. It was an unbearable itching down there to the point I wanted to rip off my vagina. It sounds like you ladies have it too. It causes severe dryness and fissures to appear. It can be all over your genitals from you vulva to your anus. I’d do a google search. also the reason I ask about the medicine is because I know a side of affect of some of the herpes medicine causes severe dehydration and dryness. That could also be a cause

Okay one problem at a time! Are you itchy down there?? Are you taking any medications for herpes? Or in general since your diagnosis. You have a virus constantly attacking your system, so yes it is a possibility of getting sick easier and more often. One thing ive learned are doctors are the most useless people on the planet!

So you have had an outbreak? Or you got a sore on your mouth? And I did state that you should wear a condom for oral sex.

Please don’t end it because of that! You know there is a vaccine that women can take right?

Hey @Joe Joe. Well let me tell you this. I have only had one outbreak. I haven’t changed my eating habits and I don’t really work out. I constantly remain stressed out. For your health in general I’d quit smoking but I’ve never heard it correlate. NEVER TRUSR ANYONE THAT SAYS ITS A CURE! btw sometimes the blood tests can read a false negative and that’s probably what those cases are.

It might be unlikely but it definitely happens! I don’t like when they say unlikely. It’s not never and it gives people false hope. It is likely. When they use unlikely to me it translates to they don’t really know, that they are guessing. all I’m trying to say is when it comes to this virus never say never. It’ll surprise you all the time.

Btw she touched the cold sore then replaced the tampon.

Tell that to my vagina! 😂 I don’t trust these supposed professionals and doctors. To be honest despite the fact the first written documented case of herpes was during the period of Ancient Greece, we still don’t know that much about the virus. I’ve even talked to a person where she had a cold sore didn’t think much of it replaced her tampon and got type one genitally. It can transfer! It doesn’t matter if you have the virus in one area!

DO NOT GIVE HIM THE MEDICINE TO POP THE BLISTERS! The best way to test is to take a sample of those blisters. Unfortunately it doesn’t sound like it! BUT ITS NOT YOUR FAULT! You were honest and he did his research and was okay with it. He made the choice and so it’s no ones fault! You did everything Right and so did he. It happens but his life isn’t over just like yours isn’t. If he doesn’t care take his word for it!

What are his symptoms?

Okay woman are more likely to get to STD than men due to the way woman are made. So with that being said she does have a higher chance of getting it. Also when you feel ready, I’d say with the medication as well as a condom the likely hood of you passing it there’s always a chance but a very small one. with medicine it’s a 50% chance that she won’t get it add a condom I believe it gets you up to 75% chance you won’t infect her. But make sure you aren’t having an outbreak before you have sex that also lowers your chances of spread. This is a little personal, but from talking to people it is easier to spread through anal, so if you’re into that I wouldn’t.

Yea that’s why it’s bizarre it shouldn’t be affecting anywhere on your upper half. It’s really irritating that these places keep saying that. There is always a chance with this virus and frankly those doctors haven’t really been able to figure that much about it. fun fact: the first written down case of herpes was during the Ancient Greek civilization.

Also it takes longer for the virus to attack your system. You be never heard of symptoms appearing less than 24 hours after. In some cases it’s up to like 2 to 3 weeks if im not mistaken.

What is the outcome of test? As well as it doesn’t sound like it to me! I’ve never heard of someone with nausea and a migraine before... the best way is if you get tested or you have blisters appear. If blisters appear it’s most likely herpes

@TequilaGirl this is going to be a funny question but is there a funny smell or a funny color to it? And without know the type of bacteria it’s kind of hard to figure out diet. Have you changed your diet at all since you got herpes?

I don’t know which doctor keeps coming up with this who keeps sharing this with our community but it’s false! I have had type one Oral herpes ever since I was a little girl! Last May I got genital type one Herpes. The chances of it spreading is 50/50. If the guy had a cold sore on his mouth I’d say it’s more like 80/20 that you’d get it. So think of antibodies like keys and antigens(the virus) a lock. Antibodies try to form themselves so they can fit into that lock. Each antigen has different antibodies that are attached to it. To answer your question, no the flu shot is basically injecting you with antigens so your body can immediately start creating antibodies which is why sometimes you get sick with the flu. The first time you get the virus it takes a little while for the antibodies to form but once you get the virus or infection again your body will already have the correct antibodies to fight it off. So there are two types of herpes HSV-1 (oral) and HSV-2 (genital). They are two different strains of the virus. Type one can transfer to both genital and oral and type two can be both genital and oral. My suggestion to you is go to your doctor and get a blood test. You could have given him oral herpes and then he could have transferred it to you genitally. The blood test can be pointless though because it does not tell you where in your body you have it. If he ended up giving you type two then you’ll know, though. I’d also suggest you go to your OBGYN and she give you a Pap smear and test for all STDS.. I will be honest I have heard other woman talk about a burning sensation in their legs. The virus sits in your lower spinal cord. So I have heard tingling in people’s lower half. You might just be paranoid though, which is okay it happens to us all.

So from my understanding all medicine works the same way for herpes. The reason they have several is because some of the side effects affect others more. So if valtrex ends up causing you harm, then you can switch to another one. Does your partner know?