CraftyRN

I understand - I don't have a Valtrex on stand by as I don't want it on my med list. I haven't needed it but if I do, will have to deal with it. I asked my primary to not list the HSV2 in my record as I don't need it to pop up on my when one of my co-workers documents a flu shot or checks me in for another appointment. I get all of that completely. Hopefully your sister will not hate your boyfriend if you can forgive him. If you are planning a long future together, you both will learn how to live with it and maybe not have to every disclose it to any potential partner. If your boyfriend told you he got cold sores from the herpes virus, would you have still chosen to stay with him? If so, that would probably help your sister not be so mad. It is always nice to have a choice but unfortunately, that's not how it always goes. Take your time.

Hi Dreamer - I have had HSV2 for 17 years and was diagnosed at age 28. I held back tears until I got to my car (from the doctors office) and the first person, I called was my mom. I think it would be helpful for you to have your sister to confide in...especially if you are close. She probably did some research when she found out her ex had it. It's hard not to be upset at your boyfriend but so many people don't know about the fact that you can contract it even when sores aren't present. I work in the medical field and have tried to educate as many people that have crossed my path. I had a guy who was complaining about his recurrent cold sores, if he was on any medication and he told me abreva. I asked him if he considered Valtrex and he looked shocked and told me he doesn't get them "down there." I let him know it's the same virus but HSV1 can be spread to the genital area. I have also confessed to being H+ to a few newly diagnosed patients when they are in tears and feeling terrible about their new diagnosis. It has made them feel better knowing life goes on and they know another human who admitted having it. The fact that you have been with your boyfriend for a year makes me think you probably like him and plan on still seeing him? I honestly have been single most of my life. I have had a few first dates and just am not feeling it. I have dated a few men for a few months and had "the talk" - both seemed to OK with it and didn't ask a lot of questions. I have also been rejected. There are so many good posts on here that will help you get more educated and realize life does go on. It is not always easy and I actually just joined here to read more about how to handle rejection. A guy I was seeing for 3 months and I, mutually agreed to end things due to his lack of being able to make a decision if he could more forward with a physical relationship. I was trying to be patient and we fooled around a little but did not have sex. I think the more research he did, he freaked himself out and backed off even more. I felt a little more rejection every time I was with him. I have not had an outbreak for over 15 years, my first one was very painful and lasted a little less than 2 weeks. I have only had a handful since the first. I do not take antivirals or any other supplements. It has helped me over the years to talk to friends and family. It is a very common virus and can be annoying when you have an outbreak, it's the stigma that is the worst part. I hope the people I talk to feel differently about it. Good luck and I think you will feel better having your sister to talk with.