Our stories are similar. I was celibate for almost 10 years, til last November. At the insistence of a potential partner, I got tested for everything, including HSV. I was blissfully ignorant, thinking that I was completely healthy. I was blindsided too when the call came Sept 20. Everything has changed.
I have no idea who/where/when I got it. My iGG is above 3.
One of my partners has tested negative and is really nervous about the virus spreading.
Another partner is getting his test on Oct 30. He's terrified of being positive.
I cried for two weeks. Now I'm getting myself together and saying "what now?"
hang in there. We will get through this.