JohnDoe12345

Is there any point getting another igg test? I don’t know if I will have access to the westernblot test. Also if I tested negative does that mean it will stay negative or can it turn positive. I am truly in the dark on this. I’m starting to think I do have HSV. When the whole std checks were going on they did a bunch of other tests and I had a test that checked for inflammation (CRP I think). That was high and the doctor was like I must be fighting an infection. I don’t remember having an any symptoms at that point. I was in a bit of a panicked state, I had just confessed to my wife and was a bit emotional.

Thanks for this. I’m finding the website you suggested very useful. I do not understand why they do these tests that are so inaccurate. If anyone has any advice on how to raise this with my wife and when that would be much appreciated. I’m thinking given we aren’t having sex until the baby arrives that I will wait. She wants a calm birth and I feel this is a burden I need to wear for that sake. This issue is not going to help with that... this will also give me time to focus on work, enjoy the pregnancy with her and gather the facts including doing more testing. My only dilemma with this is that I literally tell her everything and keeping my worries from her feels a bit odd.

When you say misses do you mean that it is false negative 30% and 8% of the time? I’m totally overwhelmed by all of this. I just read something that said false negatives are very rare - Less than 1%- but false positive are more common.

Hi In short I’m worried I might have herpes and I’m not quite sure how. My wife and I have been together for nearly 15 years. Our first Bub is on the way and I’m excited about being a father. About 5 years ago we were both unfaithful but managed to forgive and move on. We were both tested for STD at ~3 months after our last encounter that wasn’t with each other - mine was unprotected and something I have deeply regretted for a long time. Everything came back negative including herpes igg tests. I know I have been faithful and I’m confident my wife has been too. We are more in love than ever. Over the years I have been getting what I thought was recurring thrush infections. I have always just applied the cream and it has clear up in 2-3 weeks. This happens once or twice a year. We have always avoided sex at these times so I don’t give it to her. My most recent “thrush” infection was about a month ago. Started noticing it about 2 days after my wife gave me oral. I decided to google recurring thrush infection and this has led me to thinking I actually have herpes. I decided to have a closer look this time and google symptoms. I don’t get blisters like in the photos. It really only happens on the head and maybe a little on the shaft and they are not clustered. I do get distinct red spots however. On closer inspection this time around I noticed the red spots may be extremely small blisters. Thinking back it really only happens when I’m super stressed like I am now with work. I’ve been really worried that I may have herpes and not know it. As my wife is pregnant she had a bunch of tests and all were negative. I’m not sure if herpes was specifically done but I assume it was. We are now in our third trimester. Our pregnancy is somewhat high risk (she had a prior operation on her cervix) so we are abstaining from sex during this time. I have a couple of questions: - is it possible that I got herpes and then my 3 month test gave a negative when I was in fact positive. - could I have not passed this on to my wife for nearly 5 years. We have a fairly active sex life and have not been using condoms but have avoided sex when I have had thrush. Im not sure how to approach this. I want to raise it with my wife but I’m worried it will create unnecessary stress at a time when it is certainly not needed - pregnant and high risk. I know I need to get tested again but work is pretty full on and finding time is difficult. On top of that if it comes back positive I know I’ll worry too much which will cause major problems for me and I need to be there for my wife at the moment. In short I’m scared of getting tested. Looking for some logical thinking on what the best course of action should be.