As someone who has the same form of HSV you have by the same cause=oral (in my case he WAS a jerk but that's not the point).
2. someone who had a scare of possibly passing it to my current boyfriend (turned out I didn't, just a random skin infection)
Let me tell you a few things about how he is feeling.
-sad, remorseful, scared, dirty, and shamed. made worse by your pushing him away. He didn't mean to do this to you, he IS sorry. When I found out I may have given it to my boyfriend I had a panic attack in the stairwell at work bc I was so upset. He is not taking this lightly and I DO understand how you feel. read my first few posts I ever made on here if you want to relate to someone lol. but talk to your boyfriend, he's upset, let him be with you. I WISH I had that support when I got it