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  1. It's possible that he could test positive in the future. But as of now, he has not gotten it from me...and we take zero precautions at this point.
  2. Asymptomatic means that the test will be positive but they have no symptoms. Meaning they are a carrier and can still potentially spread it without knowing they even have it (if they're not tested). I am asymptomatic. I only found out I had it because I asked for an STD panel at my OBGYN office and they happened to include HSV. I have been in a relationship with my HSV-negative SO for nearly 2 years now. He knows I am positive, knows the potential risks, and we carry on. He is still negative, and I am still asymptomatic. A negative test means that either you 1. Do not have it. or 2. You were exposed but not enough time has passed to come back positive on the test.
  3. Hi Joel, I want to be sure I'm clear. She was Exposed to HSV-2. She hasn't had an outbreak, and she hasn't tested positive. So why are you operating on an assumption that she's positive? If she was exposed and has had zero symptoms in the window after exposure, then the assumption would be that she didn't get it from the guy she slept with. And using protection is always a good idea no matter what, especially in a new relationship. Also, if she's your girlfriend (?), then why would she still be having sex with the guy who has tested positive? If she's with him, and willing to take the risk, then cool...but if she's supposed to be with you, why would she be having sex with someone that she's not with, especially knowing that he has it, she could be exposed, and wants to be with you? If you aren't sure if she is or not, then that tells me that you probably already have some trust issues and I would recommend breaking off whatever the relationship is. I tested HSV-2 positive almost 2 years ago. I did not go on any meds for it. I've been with my SO for almost 2 years now. He and I met a few months after I got my positive test. He has known about it since our very first date. He loves me for me and is not afraid of the potential to get HSV from me. After almost 2 years, he is still negative. Your situation honestly sounds much more complicated than just the fact that she may have been exposed. It sounds like she continues to sleep with the guy who exposed her. I guess I'm just not sure why you would want to be with a woman who is having sex with other people...no matter if she has HSV or not. I would honestly let this girl go and find someone who will be only with you. And if you don't want to have sex with this particular girl again until she's on meds, and she refuses (assuming she ends up being positive), then you already know you should let this one go.
  4. When I was first diagnosed (via blood test, I've never had an OB that I'm aware of in over 11 years), I told the guy that I was talking to...we'd had 1 date at that point and happened to have been texting when I found out the results. He immediately rejected me. I was upset. And then I took a few months to just be, and then decided to get back out there...and met my SO. I disclosed to him on our first date and he immediately Accepted me. We've been together about a year and a half now and things are still great! A couple months after my SO and I started dating, the first guy decided that he screwed up and wished he hadn't rejected me. Too bad for him. His loss...and honestly, his rejection was the best thing that could have happened to me. If he hadn't rejected me, I wouldn't have taken the time to reflect on me, to decide that I deserved better than that, and to raise my standards. Yes, I RAISED my standards! And then I met my amazing SO. If I was still messing with that first guy, I never would have met the love of my life. So, get back out there, continue to be honest. You will meet someone amazing who won't be put off by HSV...someone who will love you for YOU and won't care about anything else.
  5. It's VERY possible that you got HPV from the vaccine itself and no one else gave it to you. There have been girls who have been diagnosed with HPV but were virgins and had never had any type of sexual interactions before...young girls who were clearly not sexually active. But they had the vaccine. Please don't beat yourself up. I don't have the exact percentage, but if I recall correctly, something like over 95% of HPV cases resolve themselves eventually.
  6. Adding to mr_hopp said, I have been in a relationship with my SO for almost a year and a half. We no longer use protection (I cannot get pregnant so no risk of that and we made the decision to stop using protection) and my SO is still negative. I also do not take any sort of antiviral. I do not recommend that you have any unprotected sex unless you are in a committed relationship and you and your partner have discussed not using protection. I was blindsided by my diagnosis (via blood test only, never had an OB that I can recall) and never had the opportunity to accept the risks. But, I disclosed (before sex!) and my SO accepted me openly and it has NEVER been an issue. Honestly, aside from the day I disclosed and a brief mention the next morning, it has never even been a discussion since. We do not let it rule our lives/relationship. But, I know that IF my SO does get it from me, he will let me know and we will continue on in our relationship. He won't be blindsided like I was because he went into our relationship with his eyes wide open. Give yourself time. And remember that you are the same badass that you were before the diagnosis and that you are worthy of love and companionship. And trust me...you WILL have great sex again. 😉
  7. I get waxed every month and never have an issue either. 🙂
  8. I am HSV2+ and I met my SO on a dating app. We talked for about 2 weeks before we met. I told him on our first date. I wanted him to meet me in person before I decided if I thought he had potential and was worth telling, even though based on our phone conversations, I pretty much already knew he was worth it. I was terrified, but he immediately accepted me, told me that it was nothing, and we have been together for almost a year and a half now.
  9. The blisters in your throat were most likely not HSV1. You probably had thrush or some sort of infection like strep, if I had to guess (not a doctor, obviously). If you had HSV1 growing up, you would probably have had the mouth blisters that so many people do. HSV1 is so ridiculously common that it's hardly given a second thought by a lot of people. The HSV2 number is pretty low. I would probably have the Western Blot to get a definitive answer. They will be able to give you the definite answer for both 1 and 2 so that you know without a doubt. I'd be willing to be that you are either really negative for HSV2 or that your infection is still pretty new and your numbers will continue to climb.
  10. Have you considered Hidradenitis Suppurativa? "Hidradenitis suppurativa often shows up in skin folds, such as the: Underarms Breasts Groin Buttocks Stomach Nape of the neck Backs of the ears Sometimes HS can appear on your face or back. The bumps heal and then come back."
  11. From October until now is plenty of time for antibodies to be present. I would trust the negative result. No need to retest, IMO.
  12. Good luck and let us know how it turns out! I ordered the Western Blot kit back when I got my blood test diagnosis back at the end of 2018. My index value was higher, but I've never had an outbreak so I was thinking of getting tested with Western Blot. But then I met my SO, and since I had not done the test yet, I went with assumption that the positive was an actual positive and disclosed. He accepted me exactly as I am and does not have any worry about HSV at all. So, I never got the test done. We've been together now for almost 16 months and things are great and I have no intention of getting the Western Blot done because it won't change anything. I am, however, hopeful for you that your positive was a false one...if it is, please make sure to have the discussion with any future potential partners and make sure you both get tested before having sex (even if you know you're negative, I think it's a good idea for you to both go in for a test if you both believe you're negative. Kinda like a "I'm making you prove it so I will happily prove it as well" type of thing). And if you have a partner who discloses to you that he does have it, you will be better prepared to keep yourself safe, and hopefully not reject that person just as you would not want to be rejected because of it.
  13. It is very possible that he doesn't know he has it. I had it for at least 11 years without knowing. I never had an outbreak. I was completely celibate for 11 years and only found out I was positive when I went in for routine STD testing before starting a new sexual relationship and they ran a HSV test as part of it and it was positive.
  14. I told my SO right away in our relationship because for me, that was the right time. Of course, we were also about to have sex and I needed to tell him before that happened. It was not an option not to tell him. I was TERRIFIED. I had played the scenario in my head so many times with so many different endings. In some of my imagined scenarios, he freaked out and broke up with me. In others, he was accepting. In all of them, I explained to him that I was asymptomatic, yadda, yadda...had this entire script in my head of what I would tell him. In reality, it went like this: Me: I need to tell you something before we go any further Him: What is it? You didn't use to be a dude, right? Me: No. I've always been a girl. (way for him to add some levity and to break the tension, though!) Him: Okay, so what is it? Me: *blurts out that I have HSV but that I have never had an outbreak that I'm aware of, I only know about it because of a recent blood test* Him (interrupts me): You said HSV, not HIV, right? Me: Yes. HSV. Him: Oh, so it's just Herpes. Is that all? Me: Yes. Him: Okay, that's nothing. Can we continue? And that was IT. We have been together for over a year, he is still negative, and things are going great. We never talk about Herpes. It has no importance in our lives. He knows, he doesn't care about it one bit, and he loves me.
  15. The IgG value being 14.30 just indicates that it is an established infection. HSV2 just clarifies which HSV you have... It honestly did not tell you anything that you didn't already know. You have genital HSV, and you've had it for a while. That's all.
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