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  1. I'm 60. I had been celibate 7 years and then dated someone for 9 months. It fizzled and then I was celibate again for 4 years. Then I was in a relationship 6 weeks when I found out I had herpes. My giver was not supportive and I was devastated. Its now been 2 years and I met someone. I was nervous about disclosing but I did and he was very understanding. I'm not sure where this relationship is going but its a huge relief to get that first disclosure out of the way. And to be honest, my sex drive has been stronger in my 50s than before. For me sex has always been more mental than physi
  2. I will be 60 next month. I got it a year ago. The initial outbreak was horrible, both physically and emotionally. My giver was not very supportive and ghosted me . That was more devastating than anything. I've only had one mild outbreak since and that's been almost a year ago. I do take valcyclovir daily and have not been sexually active since I was diagnosed. Most days I don't even think about having it. It's only when I think about possibly getting involved with someone new, that I feel discouraged about having to disclose and possibly being rejected again. I haven't met anyone new so
  3. I was diagnosed in October. My initial outbreak lasted about 10 days. I too had pain in my lower back, buttocks and upper thighs, making it impossible to sleep at night. At first I thought it was a side effect of Valtrex. After reading more about herpes I realized it was a symptom. My doctor prescribed a pain reliever so I was able to sleep at night. Eventually the pain subsided. I also experienced itching, inability to urinate , and also numbness that lasted for several months. Eventually all of the symptoms ended. I take Valtrex daily and have only had 2 mild outbreaks. Occasionally I do h
  4. Thank you for sharing. I have not had an opportunity yet to disclose but find hope in stories such as yours. Your willingness to put yourself out there and your faith in others is an asset. His inability to be honest in his profile is a sign of insecurity, and you deserve better.
  5. I'm in my 50s, had a shingles vaccine 5 years ago because my mother had shingles twice when her immune system was low from chemo. She was in so much pain. I did have chickenpox as a child & had mono in my early twenties. I was diagnosed with hsv-2 last October. Last week I got a new shingles vaccine that is supposed to be more effective than the old one, plus it was covered by my insurance this time. My doctor also told me that the shingles vaccine wouldn't affect herpes one way or the other. I had hoped it might have some benefit to the herpes symptoms, but also worried that it would ha
  6. Thank you for being open-minded. I'm in my 50s, and was diagnosed last October. My partner was turned off, even though I am sure he was the one who gave it to me, and I haven't seen him since. I have not met anyone new and haven't had the opportunity to disclose to anyone yet. It scares me to think about it, but hearing stories such as yours gives me hope that there are decent, open minded men out there.
  7. Thank you for sharing. I was only recently diagnosed in October, but yes I have the date ingrained in my mind, as well as the last day I saw my partner before herpes. I reminisce about the great time we had, both sexually and conversationally. I remember the date I called to tell him of my diagnosis. I remember every date since when he avoided me, finally texted me, said he missed me, and apologized for being disrespectful. He said we would continue to talk but that never happened, and I have that date in my head as well. I am happy to hear that you have a relationship. It gives me ho
  8. That is wonderful news! I am so happy for you. Sounds like you have a good guy, and you deserve that.
  9. Hope all goes well for you. I was recently diagnosed and haven't had any need to have to disclose yet, but am scared at the idea at some point. Thank you for sharing.
  10. I'm happy for you. Thank you for sharing. Your story gives me hope.
  11. This is my first post and I wanted to share the background of my story. I am a 59 year old female. I started dating my husband at 17, but didn't lose my virginity till 21. I married at age 24. The marriage ended after 11 years when he left me for someone else. We have 2 children. I've been divorced 23 years. I was divorced two years before I even dated anyone. I had no idea how to date as I had only been with my husband, and he had been in the military during most of the years we dated. I had always been extremely shy and introverted. After the divorce several of my friends set me
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