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  1. I was on prednisone for a month last summer and had zero outbreaks! It was a pretty high dosage. Of course, everyone reacts differently but I would give it a try.
  2. Hi all, I have a question about scarring. My initial outbreak was on the inside of the vaginal opening so I never saw it. I continued to get outbreaks in the same location since the initial outbreak (July 2013). Not too many, maybe 4 since the initial and the pain was much less intense and only lasted a day or two. I was not on antivirals because I was not sexually active. In December of 2014 I experienced an outbreak on my backside (how do I politely say this?) on the right side near the top. It was very painful, just like my initial outbreak. It has taken over a month to heal
  3. Thanks @WCSDancer2010! It feels good knowing that my story could possibly help someone through their struggle.
  4. @gardeniaflower I haven't disclosed yet but that's only because it's long distance and I haven't seen him. Reading this made it less scary though, so thank you again! I'll let you know what happens!
  5. @Timbbey when you say you miss your friend do you mean the person you were before you were diagnosed? If that's the case, she'll be back. It takes time though. I lost myself for about three years and I'm just returning now. At one point, someone told me that person is gone and I will become a new person based on my new experiences. That scared me and pissed me off because I really liked who I was. But she was wrong, the person I was before is back now. It just took time. Don't feel bad about the things you think or feel. Wishing you had cancer and what not. We all think those kinds of things
  6. @Timbbey, I realize nothing anyone says on here is going to change your mind. Like @WCSDancer2010 said, the change has to come from you. You can’t change the past and you can’t change the fact that you have herpes. I know you’re pissed. And you asked for truth and reality, so here it is. In summer of 2013 I got H from a guy I was in an abusive relationship with. That was shitty. I swore off sex and dating just like you. I was pissed at the world. I thought this was the worst thing that could have happened to me. Then in fall 2013 I was diagnosed with cancer. And that was shitty too. I had
  7. I've often thought about this too. I often thought that it was easier for H+ men than H+ women because stereotypically, women are more nurturing than men, and would therefore, be more accepting of something like herpes. However, this thought makes me say blechhh because gendered stereotypes, or any stereotypes for that matter, are exactly what go us into this stigma-filled mess in the first place. I think it's easier for people to disclose when the person on the receiving end of the disclosure is open and willing to be educated. Gender, race, income level, and any other socio-demographic
  8. Hi All, It's been quite some time since I have been active on the forum. I am happy to report that things have been going well in my life. I can say that a lot of the barriers I have been facing these past couple years have been knocked down. Although it’s a process, I am learning to accept that this is reality and herpes doesn’t seem like such a big deal anymore. After a tough two years, I have had lots of happiness and success in all aspects of my life. I took a bit of a hiatus from the dating world but this summer I found myself back in the game. I started seeing a guy that I had
  9. This is so great! Thanks for posting! Yay progress!
  10. I do this all the time. Most often when I'm watching a romantic comedy or a Nicholas Sparks inspired film, where a plot line of herpes would obviously NEVER happen. As they are making out and about to "make love" I always imagine one of them saying "I have herpes."
  11. I totally see where you ladies are coming from. Sometimes I have a voice that creeps into my head and tells me that if I could just get a guy to say "I'm ok with you having H" then I will know that everything will be ok. But the worry there is that you settle for the first guy that accepts the fact that you have H. If that's the case, you probably won't be very happy after all. As Dancer said, focus on you first. Figure out what you like to do and freaking do that! It takes real work to get out of your own head after you've been there for so long but the result, as dancer said, is freedo
  12. What a great story! I'm really proud of you Herry. Way to go!
  13. As someone who is dealing with both cancer and herpes at the moment, I feel like I might be able to offer some insight. When I had cancer and didn't know it yet, I only experienced two outbreaks. The first outbreak disappeared in a few days with suppressive drugs, and the second one was so mild that I didn't need take anything. Keep in mind the type of cancer I have, or should I say had, really does a number on your immune system. I am currently undergoing chemotherapy. At the beginning I would get an outbreak after each chemo treatment. It was pretty annoying but nothing more than that, an
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