Lovenhope

Reaching out for advice. I was given hsv through a sexual assult. About a year ago I met a wonderful guy who changed my perspection on both traumas that took place in my life. Only problem was that after disclosing we kinda automatically fell into this deep "I care about you alot" stage. And missed the flirty/getting to know you stage. Long story short, anytime we would have sex I automatically got super insecure and shut down. My mind automatically went to "this is how you got yourself in that situation in the first place. You're disgusting" mindset. And would make sex extremely weird and hot in sync. I feel like it was a tender subject to even talk about because it made me have so much anxiety thinking I'm going to lose him, and I feel like he was afraid to bring it up cuz it was a tender subject to me. We ended up breaking up and I feel like that had a huge part do it. Looking to see how I can grow and hopefully get him back one day. Any suggestions on getting past that? Enjoying sex again? Gaining the confidence back?

Currently on 500mg of valtrex and was given a prescription for 1000mg for OB. Dr said I could even just double up on my current prescription if needed or on vacation and was having symptoms. Just wanted to see what everyone thought on this. Do you take 2 at the same time instead of 1 for 10 days? Or do you take one in the morning and one at night? What do you believe works best/quickest?

After a weekend of internal anger, a discussion began with the person I am seeing. I haven't told him anything yet, but knows I'm not ready for sex and has respected that. In our discussion we talked about trust and being with each other. I told him that I am currently waiting until the 4 month mark to make sure I am all clear. I have held off on telling him because I still don't know exactly if it's 1 or 2. And I want to make sure I have all my facts before sharing it completely. And we got into the fear of possibly being positive. I gave him some of the facts like how it's really just a skin condition, with medication and protection it's a 1% chance of transmission. He knew a little bit about it with knowing that 80% of the population has it. Just wanted to get thoughts on disclosing in this way.

I feel the exact same way. Had a complete melt down and am so angry at so many things. I think I'm most angry at the fact that there isn't a cure yet. I get it it's "difficult" and tricky to figure out. But bottom line is there's not much funding cuz most people, who don't have it, believe it's a big deal. I still remember my doctor telling me "I'm not sure why you're so upset. This won't change hour life. You can still get married and have kids You're upset like you lost a family member." And my response was . I did lose someone... I feel like I just lost myself. I don't know if I'll ever have my happiness back until it's gone. To be honest without my counselor and this forum I'd probably be dead right now. It's so frustrating that this diagnosis causes such psychological pain. I'm right there with the both of you. I hope we can lean on each other through this.

Don't mean to always be the negative one in here, as there are so many people enjoying their life even with H. just curious how people let go of the anger. I've had this now since November and am continuously anxious and angry about life. I contracted it through a sexual assult so I get that plays a big part of this. I'm so angry at myself for even giving that person a chance, angry at science because how is it even possible there isn't a cure for this yet in this day in age, angry that this is the one thing holding me back from fully opening up and being with someone I really care about because I know he won't be able to see past it. He brings up being a germaphobe often. I'm in counseling because of this and because of suicidal thoughts all because this . Even though "it's not a big deal, it's a skin rash, there a worse things to deal with in life, there will be people who accept it". All of those things just make me even more upset and angry because none of that crap matters when the world is only focused on the stigma. "The stigma is worse than H itself" sure, but that stigma is what has made me have suicidal/negative life to for 6 months now. Don't know how to get my life back. 😞

Would love to have mentor/someone to go. I'm new to this and completely lost with life now.

Any advice. New to this all. Have read to avoid shaving as much as possible. Any secrets or tricks? Terrified to do anything anymore. 😞

Following. Would love the same. Would love to have a mentor/go to person to talk through alot of this since drs seem to not really care or think it's a big deal.

Started researching into the anti-inflammatory diet after reading about someone using it and how well it has worked keeping OBs at a minimum. While looking at some meal plans, I noticed that it encourages the use of collagen powder mixed into some food. Any thoughts? Experience? I know it's supposed to be good for skin and hair, but not sure if anyone has had it cause more OB. Thanks.

My heart goes out to you. No one should ever ever ever have to go through the loss of a family member. It's just not fair. You are all in my prayers tonight. We all deserve someone to lift us out of this darkness. was also finally in the gym and getting back up from a rough and long over due break up. Funny how life seems to work. 😞 Hope it is nothing but up for all of us.

If it wasn't for my parents being the amazing people they are and finding this forum to talk to people like you and the rest of us here who get that our feelings aren't actually irrational and "crazy" or "dramatic" like I've been told from non positive people (my Dr.) I honest don't know where I'd be. Thank you for your thoughts. You mention prayer. Just out of curiosity has H make you question your spirituality? That's another area I've been struggling. Thanks to everyone here btw.

I've had it since November of this year... Unfortunately I received it through a sexual assult from someone who clearly didn't give a shit to stop or protect me and my feelings. The first and only people who know the entire thing are my parents. I am very greatful to have the parents I have. Because without them I would've ended my life over this. It took me about a week to just get enough strength/mindset to get off their couch. But the crying and extreme roller coaster of very very low emotions haven't changed. I see a counselor every week, and she's amazing. But unfortunately I don't know think I'm ever going to be "ok" with any of this.

I agree. I am really trying to push through this, but feeling extremely down and don't know how to get past it. I was always a positive person and always was hopeful that everything will work out. But currently feel like I'm worthless, gross, and forever alone.

The only person I know of is a guy from high school that when anyone sees at the bar always says "yeah he's a great guy but stay away cuz he has H". I know it's an ignorant comment and I am guilty for having that mindset in the past. But it's just so frustrating that something so "simple" and non harmful.... Cause this much emotional distress and cause people to feel like they don't deserve to live anymore. Why can't they just figure out a damn cure already. 😞

Thanks 100918. Can I ask how you got the confidence to even tell him? It literally makes me sick just thinking of having to talk about it. They say so many people have it, yet I know 0. I don't know how anyone is going to accept me or be able to look past this.