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  1. I got ghsv1 from genital to genital I was the rare case. The female had it genital and I got it as well. My symptoms are pretty mild. I have no pain or itchness. There is just a red spot on the head which has not cleared at all even after 4 months. I just stays there and just becomes red or mild red. Also sometimes I see white thin layer around the surrounding area and it smells a but fishy. Has anyone had any symptoms like this ? I thought ghsv1 will not reoccur but in my case it has stayed there for ever. I had a swab done (Dec 2018) on the red spot and it came back positive for hsv1. I did a swab and blood again in Feb 2019 both are negative. Do I really have ghsv1 or something else?
  2. To all the caring people out here It has been a psychologically and mentally draining 4 months. I had been a victim of non-disclosure where my 4 months ex girlfriend did not tell me about her recent genital HSV1 diagnosis before a month we met. She was in denial and ashamed and risked my health over multiple interactions and I got the gift that keeps spreading. After I got infected and I confronted her she ghosted me and said she does not want to see me anymore. Prior to the relationship she was all in love with me but I had no idea that she just wanted to have sex after she was diagnosed and did not cared for my health and I became the victim of her act. She did not even care to ask me about my outbreaks, took no responsibility as an adult who is 30+ and said figure your life for yourself. I had to call her and beg her so many times to just make her realize what she has done by infecting someone without consent but she failed to realize it and then later blocked me. Since last month it has been a great struggle to face it mentally. It sounds cliche but I get the feeling of being abused, betrayed and left with a incurable disease from a person whom I supported when she told me and I loved her. I am just in shock as to how can someone be so evil to infect someone with purpose and leave them to die. I have had multiple meltdowns here and there and have lost focus and keep thinking about this. I also fear that finding a future partner is a big issue as who will want to date a person who has GHSV1. I feel that I should just die somewhere that would be better than going through this. I feel that I am trapped in this cycle and not able to move ahead with a high chin. I am not a guy who sleeps around and I had a genuine intention of getting serious LTR wiht her, but in return i got herpes and betrayal and abuse. I feel so depressed, sick and mentally unstable that I cry often. Also that I am a mixed race guy it would be hard to find people who will accept me for myself and overlook herpes.... I need some support and advice as to how to get over this feeling and move on it has been 4 months already with multiple doctor visits
  3. Hey Sarah When she was initially diagnosed with hsv2 was it a swab test? As my was a swab test positive but the blood work is negative for hsv1. Recurring swab and blood work is negative after two months. Can it be hpv in males?
  4. Hello all good peeps I was swabed for a red shiny spot on my penus last Dec and it came back positive for ghsv1. My partner at that time did not tell me about her having ghsv1 and risked my health for 3 months. When I had symptom and asked her she said she has it and ghosted me and left me alone. I was devastated and had a huge depression. 2 months later the spot is still there it has not healed so I swabed it again and it came back negative for hsv1. The blood work for IgG also is negative. I have no pain,tingling or any discomfort and the red spot just reduces in intensity and sometimes has a white lining on it. My question is can the first swab culture in Dec be a false positive and I am miss diagnosed ? How can I be sure I have it or not as I know for sure my partner had it and we did engage in unprotected sex Does anyone have similar symptoms and is sure has herpes? Looking for advice if there is any other conclusive test?
  5. How have you decided to cope with it and move on? Did you ever consider legal action or confronting him?
  6. Thanks nik77 are you in North America because in few states even if you don't get the infection you can still sue someone for knowingly transmitting an STD.
  7. Hello All Good Souls I have posted my story before about how a girl I was dating for 4 months did not disclose about her GHSV1 status and we engaged in sex multiple times. The unfortunate part is the transmission rate of female to male is really low but I was the unlucky 1% guy that got it. Since I confronted her about the condition we did not engage in any activity and then after a week she broke up with me and left me with this condition. However, I was there for her and was gathering information about how to deal with this condition and still be a good couple. But she ghosted me and said she does not want to be with me and I should figure out myself how to deal with it and move on, She had no remorse that she did not disclose it to me and she did not feel bad about it. She said she will start dating again. So my question is how should I deal with this situation, I am terrified that if I date other people they would not want to be with me. I am a very health sensitive person and this diagnosis has had a big emotional and psychological impact on me. What bothers me is that she did not have any remorse that she did a wrong thing and wants to be selfish and just move on. How have people dealt with this situation before from your giver? Anyone thought if legal action? Really looking for support and advice here
  8. Hello All It has been tough in the past months since I got it from a girl I was dating for 3 months. We we're in love and talking about future and family etc. It was a strong connection. However she had been with lot of men than I did in her past and was involved in unprotected sex as well. She got it from a one night stand in September and she dated me in October with no knowledge about the disease. I got infected by that as it was her early outbreaks. I was never given an informed choice about my health. After her disclosure (after we got intimate couple of times) I was still supportive and stayed positive, but in 2 weeks after I got infected she brokeup and left me alone and ghosted me. When I needed support from her to go through the hsv1 I am so devastated that the girl I loved trusted so much did this and did not even had compassion to ask me about my health. My question is can I legally sue her for spreading herpes without telling me upfront in North america. I have few chats history and call records that back this up Looking for serious advice about how to navigate through this
  9. Hey Anna I get how you feel. I have been in the same situation and I still have a hard time to come to terms with it. In my situation it was my ex who apparently used to love me and she did not tell me upfront. But trust me it will just take time to heal and move on but as lot of people.on this forum are positive and you will find peace
  10. Hello everyone especially to veterans I have been diagnosed with GHSV1. I have a really minor red patch on my genital (male) which is not paining, irritating or is likea sorry. However a swab test confirmed it as GSV1. How often will I have severe outbreak after this? Also if my other partner is also having GHSV1 can we reinfect each other on a different body part? Looking for advice on this
  11. Thank you Alexis1991 and Worrier1234 it really made me feel a bit positive. Although I am still recovering from the diagnosis. I hope I can stay positive and hopefully that I will be loved again
  12. Hello Alexis1991 Thank you for being supportive. I think it would.be easy for a girl to get a guy but do you know or think if a guy has hsv1 it would be hard to get a girl. Did you dated through herpes exclusive dating website or just as any normal person dates? Also can you tell me how to get over this situation because I still think I should reach out to the girl and convince her to stay in the relationship. I have talked to her a few times and she is just hesitant to listen to anything. Approaching her friends would be a good choice?
  13. Hello Worrier1234 Thank you for your support. I still think that it will be hard for me to get to know someone and then confess to them about my hsv-1 status. Also I am not sure whether I will be able to date a normal girl again. Can you share your thoughts on this
  14. Hello everyone I am new to this forum, but I have been reading few posts on this forum for a while and it makes me feel normal but I still need some support and advice. My story in short is as follows: I was dating a new girl recently (for about 3 months) we really clicked and everything was going really well. We fell for each other real quick and soon become intimate. After about 2 months and a few intimate sessions one day when we were getting cozy she stopped me and broke the news that she has a cold sore which is like a pimple, I dug deep to find that she was hesitant to confess that it is herpes type 1 genital. She got it diagnosed a month before we met (she was ready to date a guy as soon as she found out she had herpes she did not even think that she should take time to educate herself about herpes before dating a guy). After she confessed about herpes I was supportive and told her this is not a big deal as I am from health sciences. I insisted to take a complete STD test for us both after that and insisted that we resist from any kissing and sex untill we are sure about the results. She was not into this as she hates to visit the doc but she did it as it was decided. The results came out and I was also diagnosed with type 1 HSV genital as i had a small red patch on my penus. The next day we decided to go to a health clinic to know more information about how we can practice safe sex and still enjoy sex as a a couple. After the clinic visit she broke off with me cancelled all christmas plans that we had planned long time and stated the reason that she is not being herself in the relationship and cannot take it anymore. I was devastated after this, I was all supportive honest to take care of her after she told me she has herpes and now she leaves me when I got it. She blocked me and stopped all communication and stated that she had decided to move on. I am finding it hard to accept that I got herpes when I had no informed choice to make as I was kept in dark about this. I was left alone to suffer in the pain and doc visits she was not even compassionate to ask me how I am doing. I feel that I would never be able to date a girl again and will be rejected when I tell them i have HSV 1 and I think the only option is to go back to this girl and convince her with medical facts that we should be together. I also cannot be dishonest to any future partners as I cannot lie about my status, however I am not sure if I will ever find a girl that will accept me for what I am with herpes. I also think if i keep pursuing this girl she might file a harassment case but I feel that I should talk to her friends which played a big role to make her decision about breakup as they thought I am not the right match but they have no idea about herpes infection to her or me so if I confront her friends about this they might make her realize what she did and we might get together. PLEASE ANY ADVICE MIGHT HELP I AM FEELING DEVASTATED I REALLY LOVE HER
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