Scarednewb

Hi I had the same issue and the doctor kept telln me I had a bacterial infection kept giving me antibiotics but it would come back but I had this feeling in my gut that it was more than just that and checked for stis. They found gonnoreah. I went on antibiotics and that cleared it up cos this time they Knew exactly what it was. Please get tested if you haven't already as these things can cause so much problems if left untreated. I don't mean to scare you and I'm sorry if that's what I'm doing but go to the doctor and screen. Your health is important.

Hi dear not been yet... I'm planning to test by Monday I have a friend that's been very supportive. I've just opened up to him and told him on Monday what I've been going through this past few months.we both live in different provinces... I believe url call them states. Anyways he will be coming by on Sunday and will basically be holding my hands through getting tested and getting my results. I'm really sacred though but he assured me that no matter what he will stand with me through this till the very end. I'm trying to go on with my day as usual but all I sit and end up thinkn about is what if I gave this guy something and the outcome of the situation. As for letting him go I did decide to count my losses however painful and even though I had dreams of being with him and having a loving family I guess that's all gone down the drain. The hardest thing I struggle with is thinkn that in life we meet people only to end up in so much of pain and too think is it even worth it. My whole feeling now is that I'll end up alone one day after my little girl is all grown up and that hurts cos I'm one of those people who loves having people. As for the symptoms part the only thing I've actually been feeling now of late is a slight burn after I pee. And some pain in my leg upper thigh actually jus near my bum don't know if that's anything or jus paranoia. All I can say is I just want all this to be over. Whatever it may be so I can jus get on with my life because it's all very tiring and it's consuming me mentally and physically. Thanks so much for ur response though it's nice to know that I'm not alone. *bighugs*

I don't know if I have it either just that come to think of it I also have had a few feelings like that. Maybe it's best to just get tested. I know its very scary as I am just as scared but better to know than to just sit there wondering what's Going on with you. If you can find a close friend to accompany you that would atleast be of some help and you wouldn't feel so alone. It's aweful that you are going through this and I'm really sorry for it. I ended up with and sti and sitting and googling myself to death into early hours of the morning thinking I could have everything possible. It will not be easy doing all these tests but like I said better to do it as your health comes first. Strongs gf... I pray all goes well for you. Stay positive.

I would just like to find out has anyone done a rapid herpes test? Do they acutually work?

Hi I'm a 31 year old female from south africa. Firstly I would like to commend you on the support group I haven't officially been accepted but as a guest I see that many people find comfort there. I wish there where people around here to talk to about this. Furthermore not many people are clued and and educated about this so it seems pretty aweful to talk about. I had been In a relationship with someone for a year and we broke up for a while during that time I had met someone who I thought was the one... Anyways when you meet someone having a talk about any stds never happens so after about 2 months I ended up with an std and it was gonnoreah. Got myself treated and that person and I... Well I decided to just call it quites as I felt that he should have known or said something to me especially since talking to him about it, when he found out he was way too calm as though it's something he had known about. Thinking everything was over the guy that I had been seeing for a year we both had gotten back together and I had told him about the gonnoreah thing he decided to get treated just incase and we both carried on with our relationship. Just that after all the time of us being together the other day after having sex he notices a cut on his penis and well he's gone for tests. I've been screened for everything beside herpes. I'm scared of the outcome ive had no symptoms of anything I feel horrible that I could have been the one to give this to him. But even our relationship has not been one of exclusivity. He was also seeing another person so now I really don't know. I sit here and think that after all this and being so cautious about the people I let in my life that something like this could be happening. I'm a mother to a 4 year old girl. I'm so scared that I can give her something. It's been months of anxiety. I don't knw what sleep or food is because all I do is sit and think about this. The relationship I have with this person now ruined because I know this is alot for him to handle and its not something he wants to go through with me. He says that we will both get tested for whatever and sort ourselves out. I love him alot. I feel sick to my stomach thinking about all this that I could have caused. I don't know how to move on in my life how should I pick myself up and have the courage to go through any of this. I'm alone I have no one to speak to about any of this because I feel so ashamed. I feel like my life is over. I've been avoiding work for so long. Currently studying towards a degree but I don't even have the energy to sit with my books. Since November literally my whole world has just been collapsing around me.