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Not sure if it helps or not... I met someone who is hsv2 positive. She told me after 3 weeks and my response was I don't want that to define or relationship. 6 months and going well. When you find the right person it works out

I was married for 20 years and now separated and going through a divorce. I met someone who is very special and I'm looking forward to seeing where our relationship goes. She disclosed to me 3-4 weeks after meeting. My response was... I don't want HSV2 to define our relationship. Now, 6 months later things are going great. We were having sex with condoms and recently stopped using them (only 3 times without condoms so far). I have been tested after the last time and I am negative so far. She only has outbreaks a couple times a year and is very aware of her body. She also tells me when she is feeling "something". I know there are risks. I just want to know how to minimize them while NOT using condoms. I'm also looking to hear "success" stories of men who have sex with their partner and haven't yet contracted HSV2. For those of you who have HSV2, please take to heart, when you meet someone special it will work out. Some of the best "sex" we had was before we actually had intercourse. Thanks in advance for your insight/guidance.

Sorry to hear about the emotional stress you are going through, I really can't imagine as I don't have it, but my "friend" of a month does. ith that said I hope this helps a little. I met a gal on Match a month ago. The first time I saw her I knew I wanted to get to know her. We have texted daily, see each other twice a week, have been physical but no sex yet (like teenagers... lots of fun). After 2.5 weeks she told me she had HSV2... the pain and stress in her eyes was heartbreaking. She told me to take my time, do some research, and think about it. I told her immediately I didn't want this to define what we may have together. I like her a lot... I don't want this to get in the way but I also understand how important it is for us to communicate and work through it together. It has been a few weeks since she told me and I continue to be super optimistic about our future. You are not alone, there is someone out there for you. I hope this helps, even a little.

I realized my mistake earlier today... it is in fact HSV-2. Thanks for the callout.

When you find someone special... you go for it. Still going well and I like her a ton!

Thank you for the responses. Very helpful.

I met a gal three weeks ago and we are both in our 40's. We have messed around but no sex. The physical intimacy is fantastic. She just told me she has hpv-2. I cannot imagine how hard it was to tell me. I like her a lot and I don't want to stop seeing her because of this. What questions should I ask her before we take it to the next step? I'm assuming no oral, sex with a condom. If I touch her down there do I need to make sure to wash afterwards? I have so many questions...