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@GoodmangoesHow long did it take for your first outbreak? I'm curious since your bf is negative.

@justagirl72 No I don't think that that would cause transmission. From what I have read it's only skin to skin contact that can transmit the virus.

@100918 Do you use Diva cups for protection? If not then are there discreet female "condom" that we can use to protect our partners?

That's good to hear, I hope I never give H to anyone ever. Would break my heart. Did you have H before meeting your boyfriend? If yes, how did you tell him? I still haven't had that conversation yet with anyone, terrified about having to do so eventually.

It's a very difficult diagnosis for sure. I'm learning self care and trying to remain positive. The crazy thing is the man who I think gave it to me I actually care about very much, and I truly don't think he would have passed it to me if he knew about it. I've asked my ex boyfriend to get tested and if it comes out negative then I know it was him who gave it to me. Now that I understand this diagnosis a lot more, and I'm learning it's really not as bad as the "stigma" says it is. It just makes you feel less than. I'm doing my best to try to remain the happy and confident woman I was before. At the end of the day if someone will not love you because of H, than it's probably best that you don't move forward with that person. I want someone who will love me fully and completely despite my H diagnosis. If I have to wait I will. Meanwhile we need to take care of ourselves and try to remind ourselves we are still the same person as we were before H diagnosis. It's not the end of the world, and we don't need someone else to make us happy. We do need someone who will support, and love us for exactly who we are.

Thank you for your response. I'm on daily suppressive meds also. I read that the female to male transmission rates based on having sex once per week if you're on suppressive meds is 1-2% per year. Is that correct? Is this what you've learned as well?

So happy for you! ❤️ Congratulations

Cwgrl100...When did your "cuts" appear after transmission?

Same here.. I'm pretty sure the man who I think gave it to me is unaware he has it. It hit me hard, I had the flu symptoms and very painful sores. When diagnosed I cried because I'm not promiscuous at all...then I fell into a depression. It's been a very difficult road.

When did your "cuts" appear after transmission?

I'm wondering how many of us out there have partners who are not infected, but you are. How long have you been sexually active with each other and what do you do to reduce the possibility of transmission to uninfected?

Oh no I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm convinced that the man I'm still seeing gave it to me, and he might be unaware he has it. My immune system is not great and I had my first outbreak about 10 days after we had unprotected sex. The man I was with prior to him was my boyfriend for almost 2 years and I never had an issue. I really care for the man I'm seeing and I'm newly diagnosed in Dec 2018. I'm in turmoil over having this almost daily. I feel like I can't breathe sometimes, and at first I never thought anyone would ever want me again.

How did you know who transmitted HSV to you?

How long after you contracted HSV 2 did your first outbreak occur?