Confusedsinglemom

I found a place to get tested already. Just need to wait a few more weeks I think. Only been a little over 4 weeks from first exposure

I was under the impression a swab/culture from a sore was more accurate than the blood test?

So I posted earlier about being exposed to HSV1 and HSV2 by my boyfriend. I went to see my gyn and she said I don’t have any symptoms and that she doesn’t recommend anyone getting the blood test without symptoms. Would not even order it. So I was originally going to go to planned parenthood after a couple months to get the test, but I am so scared to get tested. I guess I know I have to, but there’s some comfort in ignorance you know? How did you overcome your fear and get tested? I keep running through scenarios of if I test positive for HSV1, I’ve never had a cold sore before and my children eat and drink after me all the time. Never thought twice about it. If I’m positive, I could never allow them to drink after me, kiss them. I couldn’t risk it with them. Also, as an aside, how do I discuss wanting to protect myself with my boyfriend. I have mentioned wanting to use condoms and he told me that condoms do not really offer protection so abstinence is the only way to go. Of course later that night we both had some wine and ended up having unprotected sex again. I just feel like he’s maybe guilting me into not using a condom by basically saying it’s either unprotected or none at all

Thanks!! That was very helpful info

That does make sense, I guess maybe he is lying about when he found out. He made it seem like the dr had called to have him come in earlier but he had put it off because he assumed it was about his cholesterol since it had been high for a while. I honestly don’t want to think. He genuinely seemed upset and shocked when he told me. He didn’t even want to see me for a week, but I don’t know, maybe it was an act. I am so confused and scared. But thanks for your response. I guess I have some questions I should be asking.

Anyone?

Can you please show me where you found this info? My boyfriend has HSV1 and HSV2 and he is under the impression condoms and medicine doesn’t offer any protection so abstinence is the only option.

I have been seeing my boyfriend for a little less than 2 months now. We have had sex twice, once with protection, once without. About a week or so after the unprotected sex, he gets a call from his doc saying he really needs to come in to discuss some results from his blood test he had a few months prior. So he goes and discovers he has HSV1 and HSV2. He wasn’t even aware it had been tested for, he has never had any symptoms or was never aware he had been exposed, his doc had just said he was running the gamet since he was beginning to date after his divorce. So obviously he was devastated, called me immediately and told me. So that’s been a little over a week ago now and after a lot of talking I have convinced him that we can will be together. Which bring with me to my real question. What are the chances I did not contract it from the two episodes of sex we had. And how effective are condoms in helping prevent it. He is adamant that condoms provide no protection and that the only way for him to protect me is to have absolutely no sexual contact. Not even kissing. I am nervous that I already have it. Nervous that I will get it. But I really do love him and do not want to risk losing him either. I’m so scared and confused. I feel guilty for saying this, but I don’t want to get it. I’m terrified of having an outbreak. Terrified of what it would mean if I got it and things didn’t work out with him. I’m 38 years old, I have had sex with only a couple guys at this point In my life and really didn’t think I would be dealing with this. I went and saw my ob/gyn and she wouldn’t even order the test. She swabbed down there and said that a blood test is not that helpful because we don’t know if he has it genitally or orally, we don’t know his numbers, whatever that means. I guess I will speak to my primary doc or maybe planned parenthood but from what I’ve read I neee to wait a few more weeks to be tested anyway. So now I wait and wonder. And pray it’s negative. Or maybe I should be praying it’s positive since that would make everything easier. I’m just so scared and confused. Please help