I literally just found out late last week that I have herpes. My girlfriend had been visiting and while she was here we booked some amazing travel for later this year. I was so nervous to tell her, but when I did yesterday afternoon it was so much better! She could tell something was going on in the days leading up and so when I came clean, she was relieved, because she thought that I was going to break up with her. I am guessing that your loved one can sense that something is going on and if your relationship has a chance, it is going to be because you have told him. If someone gets this news and reacts poorly, then that is not someone to be with imo. Think about how you would react if he told you. I would have so much empathy if the situation would have been reversed. Good luck!