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I have been with may boyfriend now husband 15 years and just found out today I have hsv2. I am 48 and have been battling with a lot of female issues the last couple years probably hormone related. My husband does not show any signs of an infection. Could I have contracted this 20 years ago and never given it to him? How could that be? I have never had an outbreak before. I have had times where I had some swelling over the past 5 years that was mild and went away right away. But again I have been with the same partner for 15 years. Could he have it and also not know about it and gave it me and then I had an outbreak? Needless to say this is a bad day for us both. We have sex quite often and I have never seen anything on him. Now I am wondering if he cheated and didn’t know he had it and had no symptoms and gave it to me. I’m really upset. I know it will be okay just more upset about if he cheated. My doc is giving me Valtrex. I’m already a week post outbreak and getting better. Do I really need to take the medicine if I am basically almost better? I also only had one small spot but a huge swelling. No other symptoms. They prescribed 1000mg twice a day I don’t want to get side effects from this medicine and scared to take it. I am also detoxing from estrogen dominance so I wonder if this brought the virus out of me and I never knew it. Any insight would be most appreciated.