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  1. Thank you so much for the kind words, both of you! It's amazing what hearing from other people without judgement can do for the mind. Every day and every comment on here has really helped me to calm down. I'm so glad a site like this exists.
  2. Hey guys, does anyone have any experience with H outbreaks and working out? Specifically, for the past year I have been on a huge overhaul of my health. I have been keto for 9 months, lost 70 lbs, and a couple months ago I started doing HIIT training with kettle bells. I usually work out 2 to 3 hours a day. I am worried about the stress on my body causing an outbreak but at the same time working out hard has become very normal on my body so not working out could be just as stressful. Taking a break from it during this first outbreak has been awful, I feel so lazy and tired and really want to get back into my normal groove. Does anyone have an advice or experience with outbreaks getting worse with vigorous work outs? Also, does anyone have any experience with certain foods causing more outbreaks? I have read to avoid nuts, chocolate, and corn but I do that already so is there any other foods you would recommend avoiding? Thanks in advance to anyone with anything to offer.
  3. My outbreak happened almost immediately. We had sex, the next day I felt like I had a yeast infection. 2 days later I was severely inflamed and in loads of pain. 2 days after that sores popped up. 3 days after that I was at the doctor getting tested, and 2 days after that I got the positive results. This seems so fast compared to other people but I know the timeline perfectly because it was my first partner in years and I was clean before him. My outbreak actually led to him learning he had it as he was asymptomatic and had no idea until I told him what was happening to me.
  4. I too have pcos and have been wondering about the relationship between the two as well! I am in my first outbreak right now so I can't tell you how it will affect me later on but I am very concerned. With this said, I currently eat a strict keto diet to control my pcos symptoms. It has been amazing, after years of gaining weight just by looking at food, going keto has enabled me to lose 70 lbs in 9 months. I was able to stop taking metformin, and various other symptoms of pcos no longer exist. Perhaps exploring this diet could help you to regulate your hormones and thus positively impact your H experience. I have also been reading a lot about diet and herpes triggers. It seems that foods such as nuts, corn, and chocolate can greatly impact outbreaks. If keto is not a lifestyle you would benefit from then perhaps removing those from your diet could help. Please keep us updated as much as you feel comfortable about your pcos and H experience. I would love to learn more from you and I am here if you need an ear be it for H or for pcos.
  5. No more tears: I have cried so much in the past week that I think I am officially cried out. I am now numb. But I guess maybe that is progress in some form. I appreciate your support and I am here for you too. Any time you need an ear, I got you. Lovenhope: Yes! How is it possible that something that is so common doesn't have a cure?! This makes me more angry than being positive. It's like we have been left alone to suffer in silence and that is beyond infuriating. I am so sorry your doctor reacted that way. How heartless. I am lucky, my doctor is someone I have seen since I lost my virginity as a teenager. She has seen me through many ups and downs and when she told me my diagnosis she hugged me and cried with me. She has even called me twice since then to make sure I am okay, so has her nurse. I had no idea how lucky I was to have such a compassionate response and I am so sorry you did not have this experience. You are exactly right, it feels like we lost ourselves. Like everything we thought about ourselves died when that test was complete. You can absolutely lean on me, any time you need someone don't hesitate to reach out. To everyone: Thank you so much for the kind responses. It helps so much to not feel alone in this. I am so thankful groups like this exist so we don't have to suffer in complete silence. I am here for each and every one of you.
  6. How to go on and forgive yourself...I completely understand this and am struggling with the same issue. Herpes doesn't care how careful you've been or how promiscuous you've been. All it took was one shot and now it haunts us. In my case the guy had tested negative for swabs. Turned out he was an asymptomatic carrier, which was found in his blood after my outbreak caused him to question his own health. I thought I had done everything right and it still wasn't enough. I truly hope the day comes that we can both love ourselves and embrace our new paths.
  7. After 5 years of not letting a man get passed my walls I decided it was time. I met a good guy and over a few weeks things progressed as they do. 2 days after we were intimate I started feeling what I thought was a yeast infection. 2 days after that my first blister formed. I have since been to a doctor and found out that I have genital herpes. I immediately talked to the guy thinking he had hidden his condition from me, which was especially hard as prior to being intimate he assured me over and over again that he was recently checked and everything was good to go. As it turns out, he was telling me the truth. He had been swabbed and tested negative. However, upon learning what happened to me he ran to his doctor for a blood test and found that he is an asymptomatic carrier. Years of being cautious and carefully picking who came into my life was ruined over 1 night. Me and this guy aren't exactly in a relationship and though we are still talking hearing his apologies over and over again almost makes it worse. The fact that he had no idea what would happen doesn't change what did happened. Now I feel tainted, like any hope at a normal healthy relationship has died all for 1 night. I keep saying to myself that life goes on...but does it? How could I ever expect someone to learn this about me and not immediately run for the hills. It feels like my dreams of sitting on a porch with my future husband watching our children play in the yard was blown to pieces. On top of this I am in the worst physical pain I have ever felt in my life, yet I am not sure which hurts worse, my body or my mind. I can't talk to any of my close friends for fear that it will get around and I can't handle the idea of being spoken about behind my back. What do you do to get by? How do you convince yourself that any chance at a normal healthy loving relationship isn't dead in the water? How do you convince yourself that life does in fact go on? I realize my biggest obstacle will be my own mental acceptance of my new normal, but I would greatly appreciate any and all stories you may have to offer as to how you came to accept yourself and the new future you've had to carve out.
  8. After 5 years of not letting a man get passed my walls I decided it was time. I met a good guy and over a few weeks things progressed as they do. 2 days after we were intimate I started feeling what I thought was a yeast infection. 2 days after that my first blister formed. I have since been to a doctor and found out that I have genital herpes. I immediately talked to the guy thinking he had hidden his condition from me, which was especially hard as prior to being intimate he assured me over and over again that he was recently checked and everything was good to go. As it turns out, he was telling me the truth. He had been swabbed and tested negative. However, upon learning what happened to me he ran to his doctor for a blood test and found that he is an asymptomatic carrier. Years of being cautious and carefully picking who came into my life was ruined over 1 night. Me and this guy aren't exactly in a relationship and though we are still talking hearing his apologies over and over again almost makes it worse. The fact that he had no idea what would happen doesn't change what did happened. Now I feel tainted, like any hope at a normal healthy relationship has died all for 1 night. I keep saying to myself that life goes on...but does it? How could I ever expect someone to learn this about me and not immediately run for the hills. It feels like my dreams of sitting on a porch with my future husband watching our children play in the yard was blown to pieces. On top of this I am in the worst physical pain I have ever felt in my life, yet I am not sure which hurts worse, my body or my mind. I can't talk to any of my close friends for fear that it will get around and I can't handle the idea of being spoken about behind my back. I've read all the stats, I realize how common this is and yet I can't stop myself from feeling like I am tainted. Like I need to close up shop and lock the doors to the world. What do you do to get by? How do you convince yourself that any chance at a normal healthy loving relationship isn't dead in the water? How do you convince yourself that life does in fact go on?
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